I was friends with a mum from the school run for a couple of years. Our DDs are friends and are in the same class most years. I wouldn't say we were very close friends but we got on well, met up regularly with the girls, and often texted or phoned each other.
About 6 months ago the mum stopped talking to me, almost overnight. If I went up to her at the school to talk she would just walk off, and texts were ignored. I tried to speak to her a couple of times and ask if I'd upset her at all but she just ignored me, and she now walks straight past me if she sees me, with her nose in the air.
Fair enough, I don't think I've done anything wrong at all but her choice who she's friends with and all that. However....she works 3 days a week and her mother, who is in her late fifties, does the school run for her. I previously got on well with her mother and we'd have a bit of a chat and small talk at the school. Since my friend stopped talking to me, her mother has done so too. Again no huge loss, but every time she sees me she starts shaking her head, and tutting at me.
We were just walking home from school an hour ago and my friend's daughter was behind us and called DD's name. DD turned round and waved, and I turned round too, and my friend's mum was glaring at me, tutting, shaking her head. She often tries to get eye contact with me on the school run, for example if I am talking to another mum she walks past me, looks at me and again loudly tuts, shakes her head, and glares at me. Also at the end of the Easter term there was an assembly, which my friend's mum went to, and again there as she walked past me to sit down she glared at me and shook her head.
It's like I've done something terrible and sordid and I absolutely disgust her. I don't much care now as to what they think I've done, as my ex friend's childish approach to things has made me realise she's not worth bothering about but her mum is really pissing me off.
WIBU the next time she does it to tell her to bloody well stop doing it and to get a life? DH says to ignore her but that's easier said than done!
AIBU?
To tell this woman to stop bloody tutting and shaking her head at me?
FigaroCat · 15/04/2013 16:18
I had a male work colleague who overnight stopped talking to me. I had absolutely NO idea why. In the end I'd go in say 'Morning, everyone - oh sorry Mr X, you're not talking to me are you, so best just ignore me then, Morning everyone EXCEPT X!' Eventually everyone in the small office agreed it was ridiculous but they had been sworn to secrecy to why he wouldn't talk ffs!!!! Eventually a manager intervened and the pair of us went too sort it out.
My crime. I was the only female left after the other one left on maternity leave and he didn't want to get upset by me leaving to have a baby.......not that I was planning to get pregnant at all!!!! 
At saying random words like gazebo.
Just smile and say hello whenever you see them. Preferably in front of other mums. Then they'll either have to acknowledge you or be out right rude.
Confront her and ask what her problem is. Of you don't feel up to confronting her then from now on every time she tuts at you give her a wink and a smile 
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She sounds like my nightmare flatmate from university who just woke up one day and decided she hated me. She pulled a 'saddened and disappointed' face every time I walked into the kitchen. I asked her many times what the problem was and she just flannelled. The best she could ever manage was a false accusation of scratching her wok.
The line, "she seems to have problems with lots of people, but of course it's never her fault", was exactly true of her too. I had in the past been surprised that she was so often wronged by perfectly nice-seeming people 
. Looking back, I think the whole performance was a way of cementing other friendships, because she was VERY keen to be liked and she used her 'hurt' at what some people had supposedly done to her as a way of tying others to her side.
Dunno if any of this is relevant in this case, of course. There was a thread a while back where the OP confronted a friend who was shutting her out and it turned out that she'd been spun a bizarre malicious lie by a third party, so you never can tell. I really think we you need to know!
She sounds ridiculous. Go up and say what is your problem. And will you please stop this idiotic tutting. (I probably wouldn't have the courage to do that but it's what she needs.) Or just copy what she does. Playground stuff.
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