To tell this woman to stop bloody tutting and shaking her head at me?

[FigaroCat]

I was friends with a mum from the school run for a couple of years. Our DDs are friends and are in the same class most years. I wouldn't say we were very close friends but we got on well, met up regularly with the girls, and often texted or phoned each other.

About 6 months ago the mum stopped talking to me, almost overnight. If I went up to her at the school to talk she would just walk off, and texts were ignored. I tried to speak to her a couple of times and ask if I'd upset her at all but she just ignored me, and she now walks straight past me if she sees me, with her nose in the air.

Fair enough, I don't think I've done anything wrong at all but her choice who she's friends with and all that. However....she works 3 days a week and her mother, who is in her late fifties, does the school run for her. I previously got on well with her mother and we'd have a bit of a chat and small talk at the school. Since my friend stopped talking to me, her mother has done so too. Again no huge loss, but every time she sees me she starts shaking her head, and tutting at me.

We were just walking home from school an hour ago and my friend's daughter was behind us and called DD's name. DD turned round and waved, and I turned round too, and my friend's mum was glaring at me, tutting, shaking her head. She often tries to get eye contact with me on the school run, for example if I am talking to another mum she walks past me, looks at me and again loudly tuts, shakes her head, and glares at me. Also at the end of the Easter term there was an assembly, which my friend's mum went to, and again there as she walked past me to sit down she glared at me and shook her head.

It's like I've done something terrible and sordid and I absolutely disgust her. I don't much care now as to what they think I've done, as my ex friend's childish approach to things has made me realise she's not worth bothering about but her mum is really pissing me off.

WIBU the next time she does it to tell her to bloody well stop doing it and to get a life? DH says to ignore her but that's easier said than done!

Or a Greggs sausage roll? Cola in a sippy cup? Grab bag of crisps? Tshirt that says 'Future WAG'? Cocaine, on no, the other one... currants (a nod to the Father Ted thread). We need to know.

(totally off topic - love blubber and judy blume generally)!

Also am dying to know what you have 'done.'

Punched a cake?

Did the school run in pyjamas?

Offered pom bears at a dinner party?

Op that sounds awful it would make me feel really edgy and self conscious.

The mum and grandma sound as mad as cheese I hope the dd doesn't end up the same way

We neeeeeeeeed to know!!!

Not coming back to update us?

I'm so disappointed as an adult that this kind of behaviour still occurs. I waited for 20 years only to discover that many people never mature. sigh

I'm dying to know how you get on OP. I think you should tell her to "grow up and f@*& off".

I have no idea why people behave like this - it is just so childish.

OP are you wearing see through leggings and flashing your pants on the school run?

The fact that so many of us are truly AGOG to know might suggest this is more common than we usually admit.

Yep, I come clean. Never did work out what I had done when best-est fiend, oops friend, suddenly blanked me and has done so ever since (>>>5 years now, I am amazed to calculate). I am dim so it took a while to register. But even I couldn't remain unaware when at a funeral, in front of loads of folk, ex-best-est blanked my eldest DD, who couldn't possibly have offended her because she had been out of the country for months and had come back specially for said funeral. Now whatever I'd done (NO idea, ceased to care a long time ago), maybe I deserved it, but to extend to my family? Ooo-errr. As per OP's case, this was weird behaviour. More unfortunately, ex-best-est's precious DD then started to behave unfortunately towards my far-younger DD, which was very difficult. At this point I stopped treating it as a bizarre joke but could do no more than offer support to little DD. To younger DD's credit, she weathered a v difficult situation and has recently extended the olive branch, many years on, to ex-best-est's DD, who after all was only a product of her environment. I am proud of her. I am also proud of older DD who has not forgiven.

OP, stay strong, we're with you. It will be nothing you've done, it'll be something going on in ex-friend's head.

Oh come on now OP, woman up and find out what's going on and hurry up and tell us! We all need to know, its not just about you, you know!

drums fingers

Blimey I've just read the whole seven pages and still no denouement! I'm another one with a mystery blanker in my past so would love to hear someone else's result to get some vicarious closure.

Come on OP, either confront the tutty women or get someone off MN to do it!

Wellll? Any activity?

I too had a few blankers at my primary school, never did get to the bottom of it. These people must have thought they were above acknowledging me or passing the time of day.

I learned to ignore them back, very obviously, (and I will talk to ANYONE). In the end I decided I had nothing to be ashamed of, which I haven't!

Some people just don't like you, end of. Nothing personal.

I would love to know too, come on OP, come back and talk.

I sometimes blank - a combo of being very shy, having bad eyesight (so pains in eyes and headaches),ots of stress at home and my head up my derriere most of the time (so I just don't see people all the time!). If people smile or say hi, I do the same back, otherwise I bury my head in a book.

I don't tut or shake my head though!

When I get blanked by people I assume they have realised hey are not cool enough to talk to me and are saving themselves the heart ache.

Or I grin widely and speak to them anyway.

I actually had an ex-colleague do this recently at a casual lunch and I just kept chatting to him, even when he turned his back on me.

He looked like a loon.

This happened to a mate of mine at pre-school ... A whole gang of trophy wives got the hump with her for no reason that anyone rational could discern. She was new to the village so it was pretty grim for her and her son as they didn't know anyone else.. The Botox Beauties have spent the last few years turning on each other on a rota basis so she feels a bit better about it now

I just read the whole thread and I need closure! ( actually I need to get back to trying to reassemble DS2's fish tank ... ) Please come back OP!

I too have suffered from a mystery blanker. Deleted off facebook. Asked if I had done something to upset- no nothing apparently. Yet all the other school mums not deleted from her fuckbook account. Meh, I smile and be super nice now- it confuses these strange folk

I also have a mystery blanker

also a school mum!!!!!

bit of a trend here......................

There will always be twats like this in life. Rise above it, ignore and walk past.
She isn't worth your time!

Some people are just twunts, aren't they? I still remember a girl at primary school who did this - she was a Janice not a Wendy :o Used to fall out with people in turn and her gang of lackeys would follow. Funnily enough she never actually decided to turn on me but she did turn on my best friend so I was ostracised when I stuck with friend. It only lasted a few days though, probably because friend and I were like 'WTF?!' rather than upset.