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To tell this woman to stop bloody tutting and shaking her head at me?

279 replies

FigaroCat · 15/04/2013 16:18

I was friends with a mum from the school run for a couple of years. Our DDs are friends and are in the same class most years. I wouldn't say we were very close friends but we got on well, met up regularly with the girls, and often texted or phoned each other.

About 6 months ago the mum stopped talking to me, almost overnight. If I went up to her at the school to talk she would just walk off, and texts were ignored. I tried to speak to her a couple of times and ask if I'd upset her at all but she just ignored me, and she now walks straight past me if she sees me, with her nose in the air.

Fair enough, I don't think I've done anything wrong at all but her choice who she's friends with and all that. However....she works 3 days a week and her mother, who is in her late fifties, does the school run for her. I previously got on well with her mother and we'd have a bit of a chat and small talk at the school. Since my friend stopped talking to me, her mother has done so too. Again no huge loss, but every time she sees me she starts shaking her head, and tutting at me.

We were just walking home from school an hour ago and my friend's daughter was behind us and called DD's name. DD turned round and waved, and I turned round too, and my friend's mum was glaring at me, tutting, shaking her head. She often tries to get eye contact with me on the school run, for example if I am talking to another mum she walks past me, looks at me and again loudly tuts, shakes her head, and glares at me. Also at the end of the Easter term there was an assembly, which my friend's mum went to, and again there as she walked past me to sit down she glared at me and shook her head.

It's like I've done something terrible and sordid and I absolutely disgust her. I don't much care now as to what they think I've done, as my ex friend's childish approach to things has made me realise she's not worth bothering about but her mum is really pissing me off.

WIBU the next time she does it to tell her to bloody well stop doing it and to get a life? DH says to ignore her but that's easier said than done!

OP posts:
TotallyEggFlipped · 20/04/2013 19:51

I guess we all understand why the lady and her mother keep tutting at Figaro now. If I find out who she is, I'll be tutting at her too. (unless she wants to redeem herself by coming back)

pollywollydoodle · 21/04/2013 05:51

(sings) figaro, Figaro, FIGARO
(tuts)

AllOverIt · 21/04/2013 06:22

Has anyone directly messaged the OP? I NEED TO KNOW!

headlesslambrini · 21/04/2013 06:45

Shamelessly marking place

SomewhereInTheMiddle · 21/04/2013 08:39

That's 11 pages of reading that I won't get back. Angry Grin

I must confess that I feel like glaring and tutting at the OP myself at the moment. Grin

tillytrotter11 · 21/04/2013 08:42

Agree somewhere. Something very weird/suspicious is going on.....

everlong · 21/04/2013 08:52

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CabbageLeaves · 21/04/2013 08:57

Tut tut

claudedebussy · 21/04/2013 09:02

look figaro, if this is how you treat us on this thread, giving no updates, i'm not surprised you're tutted at on a daily basis!

ImTooHecsyForYourParty · 21/04/2013 09:04

Perhaps she asked and was told exactly WHY she was getting tuts and it was so awful that she daren't come back.

Like - seen in the supermarket snaffling grapes!

Parking in a P&C space without an infant!

claudedebussy · 21/04/2013 09:07

haha

perhaps she ran over their beloved pet rat and didn't realise.

BonaDea · 21/04/2013 13:24

Tut tut tut

SinisterBuggyMonth · 21/04/2013 21:35

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TigerSwallowTail · 21/04/2013 21:49

I bet she asked and didn't like the answer she was given so hasn't came back to update.

Bobyan · 21/04/2013 22:15

Pmsl at "Hairy Hands"!

MrsRajeshKoothrappali · 21/04/2013 22:33

Maybe the OP's being held hostage and is tied to a chair while the tutty ladies walk around her tutting...

Shock

:(

Yamyoid · 21/04/2013 22:40
MsVestibule · 21/04/2013 23:10

Unless she's a NCer, this is Figaro's first post. Just sayin...

sosooootired · 22/04/2013 14:35

i second the suggestion that we beg mumsnet HQ to email the OP and ask her to update.

please...i'm not too proud to beg Blush

Moominsarehippos · 22/04/2013 14:37

For goodness sake, Sosooooooo, I got my hopes up there!

sosooootired · 22/04/2013 14:46

so sorry Blush

SinisterBuggyMonth · 22/04/2013 16:32

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Moominsarehippos · 22/04/2013 16:47

This is so boring! All this hanging around...

UniqueAndAmazing · 22/04/2013 16:53

too much hanging around.
marking my place, OP, in the hoppe that you have the courage to ask her what her problem is tomorrow :)

UniqueAndAmazing · 22/04/2013 16:53

(and you others, it's only been 20 minutes!)