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To tell this woman to stop bloody tutting and shaking her head at me?

279 replies

FigaroCat · 15/04/2013 16:18

I was friends with a mum from the school run for a couple of years. Our DDs are friends and are in the same class most years. I wouldn't say we were very close friends but we got on well, met up regularly with the girls, and often texted or phoned each other.

About 6 months ago the mum stopped talking to me, almost overnight. If I went up to her at the school to talk she would just walk off, and texts were ignored. I tried to speak to her a couple of times and ask if I'd upset her at all but she just ignored me, and she now walks straight past me if she sees me, with her nose in the air.

Fair enough, I don't think I've done anything wrong at all but her choice who she's friends with and all that. However....she works 3 days a week and her mother, who is in her late fifties, does the school run for her. I previously got on well with her mother and we'd have a bit of a chat and small talk at the school. Since my friend stopped talking to me, her mother has done so too. Again no huge loss, but every time she sees me she starts shaking her head, and tutting at me.

We were just walking home from school an hour ago and my friend's daughter was behind us and called DD's name. DD turned round and waved, and I turned round too, and my friend's mum was glaring at me, tutting, shaking her head. She often tries to get eye contact with me on the school run, for example if I am talking to another mum she walks past me, looks at me and again loudly tuts, shakes her head, and glares at me. Also at the end of the Easter term there was an assembly, which my friend's mum went to, and again there as she walked past me to sit down she glared at me and shook her head.

It's like I've done something terrible and sordid and I absolutely disgust her. I don't much care now as to what they think I've done, as my ex friend's childish approach to things has made me realise she's not worth bothering about but her mum is really pissing me off.

WIBU the next time she does it to tell her to bloody well stop doing it and to get a life? DH says to ignore her but that's easier said than done!

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SoggySummer · 15/04/2013 19:27

She sounds nuts. I think I would have asked her before now what her problem was.

You probably wont get an answer from her but it will piss her off - being confronted, she wont be expecting it after 6 months.

Fudgemallowdelight · 15/04/2013 19:29

It'll probably be child related.

helenthemadex · 15/04/2013 19:31

you have to ask her it will drive us all you mad not knowing

hobnobsaremyfavourite · 15/04/2013 19:35

Op I am intrigued :)

Wishfulmakeupping · 15/04/2013 19:39

I'm so intrigued too- we have to know you must ask the mother OP

LindyHemming · 15/04/2013 19:39

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ChasedByBees · 15/04/2013 19:41

I need to know now too.

WildThongIWannaKnowForSure · 15/04/2013 19:52

Or just say 'I have no idea why you and your daughter are being so rude to me, if you haven't the courage to speak to me about it then please stick your tut up your arse'

Sounds like a horrible way for them to treat you.

Greenkit · 15/04/2013 20:01

Please ring right now ask her tomorrow Grin

Ledkr · 15/04/2013 20:05

Have you got some scary friends (think fat slags from viz) take them to the school run and all give her "lairys" while chewing gum open mouthed and saying "wanna fucking picture gran?"
For full effect wear hair scraped back and massive hoop earrings.
Grin
Just one option if you didn't like the other suggestion.

everlong · 15/04/2013 20:11

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Ledkr · 15/04/2013 20:24

Me too ever I'd have come over all fish wife. Grin

BluddyNora · 15/04/2013 20:28

Put dog poop under her car door handles Grin

Each time she does it, say "what did you say that for?" Really loud. Of trip her up, either way.

ZacharyQuack · 15/04/2013 20:29

Whenever you see the tutting mother, give her a big smile and wave and call out "Hello Doris" in a loud cheerful voice. Then when she glares and tuts, give her a sympathetic smile and head tilt and say "oh the poor old love" to anyone within earshot. It'll drive her wild

undercoverSAHM · 15/04/2013 20:34

PlentyofPubeGardens Snap! The exact same thing happened to me once and when I asked what I had done, all I got back was "you know perfectly well what you have done". I had no idea. It really upset me for months (we had been - I thought - good friends) but then I found out that she had done it to lots of other people too so I got on with my life.....

OP you are taking this very well :-) I hope it all works out. She sounds completely batty and you are best off avoiding her.

MammaTJ · 15/04/2013 20:36

Do what Ledkr said. Then report back.

Fudgemallowdelight · 15/04/2013 20:37

Zachary Should the OP call her Doris even if it isn't her name? Grin

Ledkr · 15/04/2013 20:45

Ha ha yes call her Doris for absolutely no reason other than to annoy her!
That will learn her Grin

LynetteScavo · 15/04/2013 20:48

I'd say "are you this rude to everyone, or have I done something to offend you?

Actually, I'd probably ask someone else what their problem was, because I hate confrontation.

Ledkr · 15/04/2013 20:51

Give her the number for the Tourette's support group. All that shaking and tutting.

zzzzz · 15/04/2013 21:00

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Crocodilehunter · 15/04/2013 21:10

Please confront and get back to us... I'm a nosy old hag and I'm intrigued Grin

shockers · 15/04/2013 21:35

I'm marking my place. I'm itching to know because something similar happened to me. Wonder if it's the same woman....

nettlefairy · 15/04/2013 21:41

oooh - let me know what happens!

GoldenGreen · 15/04/2013 21:43

I agree with zzzzz about the Tourette's comments, it's just not funny.

I also would very much like to know what these women think you have done!

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