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To wonder why men are so lazy?!!

142 replies

Katrina33 · 14/04/2013 15:58

That's it really. I'm 40 + 4 pregnant and desperately trying to keep the house clean and tidy as well as do last minute things for baby...really restricted by huge bump and feeling exhausted....and dp is doing next to nothing....except make mess everywhere and researching growing potatoes...did you know you can grow them in sawdust?! Confused. Also playing music whilst I'm trying to lie down.....

I know I'm probably oversensitive with hormones etc....but......Sad

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seriouscakeeater · 14/04/2013 21:09

And who gives a shit about what the title should have been? anal

ever I have three brothers and lads are lazy mil from hell thread soon..

I have a feeling that those with super dooper perfect husbands, would except nothing less are actually looking at the blow up doll some one left behind from an ann summers OR they are massively bullied/henpecked!

And before you choke on you herbal tea, were all allowed an opinion, just like you have shared yours!!

fizzykola · 14/04/2013 21:09

I have a DS too. He's 4. And much better at tidying up toys than his 3 YO sister. She takes after her father Grin

vivizone · 14/04/2013 21:12

The OP needs support. Why can't people be gentle with her. I sometimes don't understand this place.

Forget the title of her thread and just help her.

everlong · 14/04/2013 21:12

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Ledkr · 14/04/2013 21:16

So if you don't have a lazy bastard husband you are obviously hen pecking or nagging him? Yeah righto!
I also have three ds and they were expected to do as much as my girls.
My dh has been up with our baby since 4.30 and is still at work now as h
got held up.
Some people are indeed lazy but if you just generalise about men being lazy then they will continue to be so thinking they have no choice as they are just men.

seriouscakeeater · 14/04/2013 21:17

No of course they wouldn't be, what was I thinking.

If peoples lives where soooooo perfect I really don't think they would be arsed about the correction of a thread.... it seems really anal.

I think people would be supportive rather than showing how perfect Hmm their lives are, woman to woman and all that but sadly some ladies refused to grow out of high school mentality Sad

seriouscakeeater · 14/04/2013 21:20

so if your husband is a little lazy he is a bastard WOW somebody does have ishooes!!!! Shock

you seem a little unhinged......

BackforGood · 14/04/2013 21:20

Because the OP didn't ask for support.
She didn't ask for some hand holding.
She didn't say 'Can I have a rant?'
She didn't say "Are all men like this?"
She didn't go into relationsips and ask if this was OK.

I'm skimming down active convos and see someone accusing "men" - ie, 1/2 the population - of being lazy then I'm going to challenge it, as it is sweeping and unfair.

everlong · 14/04/2013 21:21

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Ledkr · 14/04/2013 21:22

What a strange reply Hmm

usualsuspect · 14/04/2013 21:23

lol at henpecked.

Have I wandered into the 1950s?

HolidayArmadillo · 14/04/2013 21:24

So what was the correct response then? Confused

'YANBU, all men are lazy bastards, your DH is just like the rest of them' or 'YABU, all me. Are not lazy, however yours is, and that needs to be tackled'

I know which one I'd find more useful.

MissAnnersley · 14/04/2013 21:27

The 'correct' response?

Something along the lines that bof posted upthread.

Taking account of the fact that she is very heavily pregnant, probably extremely uncomfortable and feeling like shite twice.

Emilythornesbff · 14/04/2013 21:32

Ah, poor OP.
That last bit of pregnancy is exhausting!
Get that baby out ( Shock lazy baby too Wink )
Is your DP a good guy? At least you'll not be short of spuds over winter. Smile
Good luck with your baby. Hopefully DP will step up his game a bit.

pumpkinsweetie · 14/04/2013 21:32

Yes op made a sweeping generalization, but i think she misworded what she had written in the title.
Maybe instead of ranting, we should be supporting her.
I remember being heavily pregnant and needing a bit of help round the house and when partners get into a lazy slob like state, its hard to bring them out of it without being called a nag and no I'm not being sexist I'm saying that for both sexes. In some relationships there is always one partner that shirks the household chores but in this instance with op being heavily pregnant you would think her partner would get of his arse!

Op-Tell him in no uncertain terms what needs doing, whether that be folding a load of washing or doing some washing up. After my last post my dh coincidently has become rather lazy this afternoon watching football while i cooked, washed up, did the washing and bathed the dc. But i told him this evening he can get of his spud and finish the two pots id left to soak as well as make me a drink and he did it because i told him.

Its easy to get caught up in the "men are this/woman are that" when you are pissed of with a spouse. I don't think op meant it in the way she came across.

Hope he has got of his spud now and i hope you can get some rest. If not tell him.

SanityClause · 14/04/2013 21:33

Saying all men are lazy lets the OP's DP off the hook. If all men are lazy, then he has the perfect excuse to be lazy - it's just what is expected of him.

She needs to speak to him and tell him what she needs him to do.

And by assuring her that not all men are lazy will give her some ammunition to do that.

SanityClause · 14/04/2013 21:34

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seriouscakeeater · 14/04/2013 21:37

Every one is allowed an opinion that's the amazingness of this site.

Its when comments turn in to pulling grammar apart, Titles of threads, crowing how utterly perfect their dh are perfection doesn't exist by the way, how she must be a man hater, she must have issues, .... its hideous.

Where is the compassion for the bigger picture or is it only the black and white small minded people can see.

why don't you just say ''OP my life is fan-fookin-tastic and your is shite ner ner!

seriouscakeeater · 14/04/2013 21:39

by the way my BIL is the total opposite and OCD about cleaning, but is a miserable git, swings and round abouts!

everlong · 14/04/2013 21:40

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seriouscakeeater · 14/04/2013 21:44

Grinever do you want to pull my pigtails....you do don't you.....

maddening · 14/04/2013 22:08

Tell him to sort the house out or you shall outsource.

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Katrina33 · 15/04/2013 17:23

Just a quick message to say thank you to those who offered some support to me yesterday when I was having an awful day! Today feels better.

To those of you who I offended and were so quick to judge - I'm glad you all have it so wonderfully worked out in life and thanks for making a heavily pregnant woman's day even better yesterday.....but judging from a lot of your other posts I see that's just how you roll. The lack of patience for those who either don't post in the right place or maybe don't phrase things as you would consider suitable is unbelievable.

But thank you again to the more reasonable ones of you - it really was much appreciated :) xx

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ILiveInAPineappleCoveredInSnow · 15/04/2013 17:50

So glad your day was better today :-) was thinking about you when I was at work!

everlong · 15/04/2013 17:59

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