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AIBU?

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Original poster

To not want this child to come on holidays with us

838 replies

arabesque · 10/04/2013 11:08

A group of girls I used to share a house with years ago have arranged to go on a reunion weekend to the West of Ireland in June. The plan was to book into a nice hotel, and spend the time relaxing, having nice meals and a few drinks and catching up and reminiscing. However, one of the group has now asked if its okay to bring her six year old daughter as her husband wants to play in a golf tournament that weekend. A child hanging around is going to completely change the tone of the holiday imho. I haven't spoken to all of the group yet but the two I have been in touch with are not too keen either.

AI (or we)BU to think of saying that we'd prefer if it was kept to adults only as it's the first time we've all been together in about ten years?

OP posts:
Pickles101 · 12/04/2013 20:32

Very nosey and hoping for update soon

Dubjackeen · 12/04/2013 20:42

I wonder if the husband's golf tournament is just a story,and the friend just wants to bring the child along. I think that was implied up thread, by the OP.
OP, YANBU, it would just change the whole thing, having a child along, and unfair, IMO, when it was not part of the plan. Hope it works out.

waltermittymissus · 12/04/2013 20:49

school give us your draft while we're waiting!

AllDirections · 12/04/2013 21:15

Go on school keep us entertained Grin

schoolgovernor · 12/04/2013 23:24

Dear Daft Friend

As you know, we have been looking forward to a trip where we can spend some time together away from our husbands and children and would love you to come with us. We expect the event will involve some over-indulging in alcohol, bad language, maybe even the odd iffy ciggie, and definitely some sharing of Too Much Information. This is not an environment that you would wish to share with your child, and to be fair, it's not an environment that we wish to share with your child.

So, just let us know if you will be able to attend alone or whether you will stay at home this time.

Loads of love, from your good friends...

xxxxx

pigsDOfly · 12/04/2013 23:45

Perfect!

onedev · 13/04/2013 00:01

Just seen this thread - love to know how the friend has responded & definitely think Schoolgovernor's responses were perfect Grin

ComeYoniWithMe · 13/04/2013 01:35

C'mon we need to know!

CheerfulYank · 13/04/2013 02:29

I want to know too!

I had a girls' weekend planned in January and it coincided with a huuuge ice-fishing trip DH was planning to go on. I said if he could find a sitter that was fine, but I'd made my plans first and they'd been on the calendar for months. He couldn't find a sitter so he didn't go fishing.

onedev · 13/04/2013 06:59

Exactly how it should be Cheerful Grin

Lottashakingoinon · 13/04/2013 08:13

I am 100% on the OP's side but I have a horrid feeling that her silence does not bode well and it's possible that either

a) Her friend is on MN too, recognised herself and the shit has really hit the fan

or b) Her friend blithely said 'Oh I am sure it will all be FINE' and DD is coming and that such has been the strength of support on here that OP doesn't like to come back and disappoint us!

There is a third way Wink... friend showed email to golfing husband, he capitulated (indeed AGREED that it was fair that he stay at home) and OP and her friends are too busy planning to worry about updating here. I really hope it's that!

Geordieminx · 13/04/2013 08:24

Marking my place

TheDoctrineOfSnatch · 13/04/2013 08:39

Hope you get your break OP!

waltermittymissus · 13/04/2013 12:23

Perhaps it has all kicked off and OP is waiting for it to be resolved before updating.

Icedcakeandflower · 13/04/2013 13:21

Brew awaiting update Smile

AllDirections · 13/04/2013 17:33

Even if the OP's friend is a mumsnetter and recognises herself on here the OP hasn't said anything horrible about her at all, just described the situation as it is. In fact I think it shows how considerate the OP is because she wanted to check that she wasn't being unreasonable before dealing with the situation.

JaxTellerIsAllMine · 13/04/2013 17:42

Just read whole thread - update needed to satisfy my curiosity.

lizzieannejames · 13/04/2013 17:44

Can I ask what YANBU means? Lol

Trills · 13/04/2013 17:53

Mumsnet Acronyms

This section is called AIBU - "Am I Being Unreasonable?" It is for asking questions where the answer might be YABU (you are being unreasonable) or YANBU (you are not being unreasonable).

Occasionally a V will the added to say that someone is being Very unreasonable :)

Roseformeplease · 13/04/2013 17:54

Need input....

NinaHeart · 13/04/2013 19:56

Another place marker here. And another vote for School governor's straight talking.

I do so hope that friend has not managed to wheedle her way round the objections and is bringing DD.

VikingLady · 13/04/2013 21:26

Expiring with curiosity!

doublecakeplease · 13/04/2013 21:28

Me too - gutted op hasn't come back!

pigsDOfly · 13/04/2013 22:09

Please OP come back and put us all out of our misery.

LeoTheLateBloomer · 14/04/2013 20:49

OP OP OP!!! Come back! I've de-lurked and done a thread search to find out what the response was. Please tell us what she said!