To not want this child to come on holidays with us

[arabesque]

A group of girls I used to share a house with years ago have arranged to go on a reunion weekend to the West of Ireland in June. The plan was to book into a nice hotel, and spend the time relaxing, having nice meals and a few drinks and catching up and reminiscing. However, one of the group has now asked if its okay to bring her six year old daughter as her husband wants to play in a golf tournament that weekend. A child hanging around is going to completely change the tone of the holiday imho. I haven't spoken to all of the group yet but the two I have been in touch with are not too keen either.

AI (or we)BU to think of saying that we'd prefer if it was kept to adults only as it's the first time we've all been together in about ten years?

youve really dodged a bullet there. Thank God she didnt come along. It would have been hell.

It will be fantastic now without her. Forget her. Shes a fruitcake

Breville I know the issues are over a girlie weekend away but I am pretty sure the reason they have picked then to meet up was that they were all going to be in Ireland the weekend before / after for a wedding...

Well at least you know what she is really like now.Not years down the line.People like her just love the drama you are better off out of it.

Wed 10-Apr-13 11:17:58 arabesque

Unfortunately we can't change the date as it coincides with one of the group being back home in Ireland for a wedding. That is why we got the idea of the reunion and why it has to be in June.

This was what I'd remembered about the wedding. However it seems it's only 1 of the group who is back for it - presumably new York friend - thank fuck for that!

Following this thread too, and yet another agreeing that you've all had a lucky escape. It does hurt though, when a friendship comes to an end, especially one which you previously thought was a good one, so allow yourself time to come to terms with it.....then think, you know what, you're way better off without her, get yourself and your friends away on your weekend and have the best time ever. Doing all the things you want to do and should do on a girlie weekend, without some lunatic spoiling it for you!

Interesting aside for me, though, is the difference in the way men and women treat stuff like this. The op and her friends have been fretting and worrying over the way the ex-friend has behaved, (I would have been in a right state worrying about it tbh) whereas when her friends dh was told he just laughed and said they'd all be better off without her, no fret, no worry.....exactly what my dh would have said! Venus and Mars......

I sit corrected Yellow. You is right

I might be right. Does that also mean I is a sad git with no life who has been glued to this thread from the beginning? :o mostly because I have important work to do that i've been trying to avoid

Here arabesque wine]

No Yellow.
It means you are a valuable contributor with an eye for detail!

:o liking your spin breville. Can I include that in my appraisal (which is what my important work is for)

Don't forget the
Excellent social conversational technique
Ability to react fast to a constantly changing situation
Deals well with constructive criticism

Appraisal done

Pub?

Wow OP, I hope you're okay. Don't let her tantrum spoil your weekend x

That's awful Arabesque but, as many have said, if you really were such a mean bunch of people no sane person would have wanted to introduce their little girl to tham. She's a prize bullshitter.

Hope you have a superb weekend (and I am available - can drink most people under the table, no kids, prepared to pay the 1 euro fine for mentioning EF etc.)

Breville can I enlist your services when I have to do my own self appraisal next month??

OP. you have behaved impeccably.
Please book into the hotel under the group name

BULLET DODGING BATTLEAXE BABES!

Hearts

Of course!

Thankfully, she hasn't attempted to contact any of us so far. We have all agreed that any emails or texts will be politely ignored. Any attempts at tearful or faux apologetic phone calls will be met with a firm "I think we would all benefit from a lot of cooling down time. So it would be best to end this phone call" click.

Hopefully on some level she will seriously review her behaviour and learn that pushing people to the brink and refusing to accept 'no' for an answer is just not going to be put up with by most people.

"Very clever?"

Please see my thread in chat "Today I made my boss cry"

Then you may need to re evaluate

Also can you please dust in here? And what's that weird sticky brown stuff on the laptop keys?
Oh
Chocolate

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Sorry Arabesque. Did not mean to derail thread
I think you are being very dignified way more than I would be

I hope you and your friends have a truly lovely reunion

No, derail away. It's nice to see a light hearted tone return to the thread.

Arabesque if you need a laugh you need to read breville's thread in chat she referred to :o:o:o

Good job you've done my appraisal for me breville as I fear my laptop won't recover from the tea spat into it as I howled with laughter! In a friendly supportive way of course :o

Of course Yellow

Never gonna live it down

Suggestion?

[wine

And more with the REAL lovely friends you are so lucky to have on your girlie weekend away. Am beyond envious TBH - you'll have a ball together xxx