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To not want this child to come on holidays with us

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arabesque · 10/04/2013 11:08

A group of girls I used to share a house with years ago have arranged to go on a reunion weekend to the West of Ireland in June. The plan was to book into a nice hotel, and spend the time relaxing, having nice meals and a few drinks and catching up and reminiscing. However, one of the group has now asked if its okay to bring her six year old daughter as her husband wants to play in a golf tournament that weekend. A child hanging around is going to completely change the tone of the holiday imho. I haven't spoken to all of the group yet but the two I have been in touch with are not too keen either.

AI (or we)BU to think of saying that we'd prefer if it was kept to adults only as it's the first time we've all been together in about ten years?

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RenterNomad · 16/04/2013 20:21

Keep in with the hotel, so thatif she books with a child, the booking can be cancelled!

LemonBreeland · 16/04/2013 20:21

Wow I can't believe that she still hasn't got it. Some people really believe the world revolves around them.

LaurenGB · 16/04/2013 20:50

I have just read this thread from start to finish and scraped my jaw off the floor. What on earth is this friend thinking??

She sounds a little unhinged lol!

McKayz · 16/04/2013 21:09

I really hope she doesn't book a room for her and her DD.

rainbow2000 · 16/04/2013 21:20

We should run a book who is gonna give us the odds.
4/1 fav she turns up with dd

Undertone · 16/04/2013 21:35

10/1 golfbastard DH intervenes and contacts one of the friendship group to 'sort them out' and moan they are being mean to mumfriend wifey.

TolliverGroat · 16/04/2013 21:40

Nah, I reckon golfbastard DH is a bit of a myth and doesn't know he's shouldering the blame for everything.

5/1 she shakes the dust of the friendship group off her feet complaining that they are all a nest of vipers.

Bearbehind · 16/04/2013 21:43

I agree that golfbastard is a myth- the entitled one doesn't seem to have mentioned him again. I think she just thinks her princess should do what mummy does.

BehindLockNumberNine · 16/04/2013 21:43

I fear that if you have given her the hotel details she will book a room for her and dd and sod the consequences.

I also think she may well still try to email the others and try to weedle them round to her way of thinking.

I fear she genuinly does not get it.... But stand firm!

Now, when and where are you going Grin

shoofly · 16/04/2013 22:14

am scraping my jaw off the floor at the cheek of her, but also laughing at the thought of a mumsnet meetup in a lovely hotel in the west of Ireland. I'm sure arabesque is delighted to see how many mnetters want to gatecrash Grin

Trillz · 16/04/2013 22:14

Give us the hotel details, we'll all come instead and she won't be able to book a room for her and DD.

'well, it doesn't have to be like that'

CorrieDale · 16/04/2013 22:17

I will take a punt on the 5/1 nest of vipers offering. And if this thread makes it into the Talk email, I'd be prepared to risk a tenner on it...

Summerblaze · 16/04/2013 22:22

Can't believe how seriously entitled some people are.

Me and DH took my 7 year old DD to London with my sister and her DH for 3 days to see the sights and see a show. She is also a very sensible girl and likes adult company BUT as it was a weekend that we knew would include her, it wasn't "a piss up".

After whatever we did during the day, we had a meal out early on and then went back to our hotel to sleep. We didn't swear or chat about anything appropriate. Obviously if I had planned for it to be adults only we would have had a completely different weekend.

As we had arranged for her to come, all was fine but if a child her age had been dropped on me for an adults only weekend, I would be well pissed off.

Stick to your guns.

rainbow2000 · 17/04/2013 07:43

Bump keep us updated op,brilliant thread

Mumof3men · 17/04/2013 07:59

I predict too that she will appear at the hotel with a glorious shout of 'Surprise!' She will be hoping in person that you and your friends won't say anything so as to avoid a 'scene'.
Can't wait for the actual update at the time!

MidniteScribbler · 17/04/2013 08:05

If she does show up with her daughter in tow I would consider the friendship well and truly past salvaging and tell her bluntly that she is not welcome to be joining in with you as she disregarded your very reasonable attempts at getting the message across and therefore has not respected you or your friends and the friendship is considered at an end. She is being downright obnoxious.

BelfastBloke · 17/04/2013 08:09

I think I fancy forthright friend.

Ask her if she fancies a bunk-up?

HorryIsUpduffed · 17/04/2013 08:16

We have to wait until June to see what Baby'sBFF pulls?! Shock

Lottashakingoinon · 17/04/2013 08:26

Never fear Horry there may be interim atrocities

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arabesque · 17/04/2013 10:21

This thread is really cheering me up now. Self entitled friend has not replied to email re bookings so not sure if she's sulking or planning her next mode of attack. Forthright friend reckons next thing is we'll get sad, poigant email 'from DD'
"Oh pleese let me cum on hollerdays with mummy's friends. I'm only

lickle and won't get in the way. I promith."

I have vowed if she does I am going to drink a bottle of whiskey and then pick up the phone....... Grin

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Loulybelle · 17/04/2013 10:26

Arabesque, if she dared do that, then we all know what kind of person she is then, and then deserves the Brass Neck award for "Sheer effort of manipulation and control".

MidniteScribbler · 17/04/2013 10:27

Record that phone call and post a link please!!

Floggingmolly · 17/04/2013 10:29

If the dd gets in on the act directly; get your kids to reply.
That should see her off.

Loulybelle · 17/04/2013 10:33

ha imagine it, "Wee arent aloud to come, so you arent aloud ever"

schoolgovernor · 17/04/2013 11:19

Arabesque - get in first - send the email I composed up-thread. Grin

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