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To not want this child to come on holidays with us

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arabesque · 10/04/2013 11:08

A group of girls I used to share a house with years ago have arranged to go on a reunion weekend to the West of Ireland in June. The plan was to book into a nice hotel, and spend the time relaxing, having nice meals and a few drinks and catching up and reminiscing. However, one of the group has now asked if its okay to bring her six year old daughter as her husband wants to play in a golf tournament that weekend. A child hanging around is going to completely change the tone of the holiday imho. I haven't spoken to all of the group yet but the two I have been in touch with are not too keen either.

AI (or we)BU to think of saying that we'd prefer if it was kept to adults only as it's the first time we've all been together in about ten years?

OP posts:
schoolgovernor · 16/04/2013 17:42

You need another of my emails... cc'd to the rest of the group.

Dear Daft Friend

Just to let you know that, as discussed, I have now booked accommodation and a table in the restaurant in the evening for the rest of us. If you want to come let me know and I'll add another one to the booking.

As explained, this is an adult-only trip. I'm really looking forward to it.

Lotsa love...

rainbow2000 · 16/04/2013 18:12

She would really have to have some neck to turn up with her dd at this stage.
Hopefully she now knows its really adult only and no kids means no kids,no matter who they ares

bettycocker · 16/04/2013 18:19

YANBU. I've had to turn these kinds of things down before, due to lack of childcare. It's just the way it goes.

AThingInYourLife · 16/04/2013 18:26

It's so bizarre that she ever thought this was a goer.

That she thought she could dominate the proceedings through the application of a 6 year old ("it doesn't have to be like that") is also very weird.

I too would be hoping she absented herself from proceedings.

snooter · 16/04/2013 18:34

I have one or two girls' weekends a year with three women I went to school with. Only once has a child been allowed & he was a breast-feeding 5/12 old baby. They are booked months in advance & if there's a clash with any husbands' arrangements then gramps or friends are roped in. The whole point of the weekends is "no husbands or kids".

Floggingmolly · 16/04/2013 18:59

She's demonstrated a severe amount of neck so far, Rainbow, I wouldn't rule anything out just yet.

rainbow2000 · 16/04/2013 19:00

This thread is great much better than any soap opera.
After every update i have the Eastenders Dum Dum Dum.I wonder what will happen next.Cant wait.

Fillyjonk75 · 16/04/2013 19:14

Marking place

clam · 16/04/2013 19:15

She may well have her DH bending her ear telling her what bitches you all are for not wanting the dd to come along. The fact that this whole thing has come about because he wants to slope off and play golf during your girlie weekend will probably have now been lost in translation.

FullLegBikiniandUnderArm · 16/04/2013 19:16

I'm dying to know what the loveliest hotel ever is!???

Loulybelle · 16/04/2013 19:19

I find it odd that first time in 10 years you can all be together and her DH just HAS to play golf.

ihearsounds · 16/04/2013 19:21

So what does she think a girly weekend involves?
Lounging round the pool all day, having afternoon tea and into bed early. With a visit to the zoo and park thrown in?

Manyofhorror3 · 16/04/2013 19:31

Can't someone start channelling her? I'm desperate to know what goes through the mind of a person like this!
C'mon there must be someone out there who knows why she thinks this is acceptable?

Farewelltoarms · 16/04/2013 19:41

Sorry a while back, but my 'poorly daughter' had fallen over and was feeling sorry for herself hence being sent home from school so no danger of lurgy passing on there to whoever accused me...
Anyway, whatever, back to this question, she's under some sort of delusion. Has she ever been away from daughter? You know those couples who used to think they counted as one share in a split restaurant bill, or who'd pay half a share on a taxi? There are some parents like that too. I think they honestly forget or even fear themselves without their ventriloquist's dummy.

Farewelltoarms · 16/04/2013 19:43

She probably will in fact sit her daughter on her knee and say things like 'dd knows that mummy doesn't like it when people use their potty mouth, don't you dd' and 'dd thinks that the grown-ups are talking a bit funny now that they've had some of those drinks with parasols in them'.

YellowDinosaur · 16/04/2013 19:47

Second weekend in June you day? Girlie weekend in best hotel ever on the west coast of Ireland? Better than waiting for an update would be to go and spectate... Anyone in? :o

I promise not to bring my delightfully well behaved sons!

IwishIwasmoreorganised · 16/04/2013 19:54

Love that plan YellowDinosaur!

Dozer · 16/04/2013 19:55

Can we come please?

Lottashakingoinon · 16/04/2013 19:55

Am clearing my diary now!

YellowDinosaur · 16/04/2013 19:58

Everyone us welcome as long as you drink like a fish, swear like a trooper and LEAVE THE KIDS AT HOME! :o

Dozer · 16/04/2013 19:58

Ooh, the cocktails, the gossip, the food.......

Oh, and OP, am sure given her recent behaviour there must be LOADS to tell about what she was like as a housemate all those years ago!

LindyHemming · 16/04/2013 19:59

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seriouscakeeater · 16/04/2013 20:11

shameless marking!! sorry lol

Floggingmolly · 16/04/2013 20:16

I'll be in Dublin round about then, I'm in too!

ComeYoniWithMe · 16/04/2013 20:17

When she rang you was her twat of a Dh mentioned at all?

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