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She smacked my daughter... WWYD??

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Clumsyoaf · 08/04/2013 12:53

In shock, just come home from a soft play place, went with some other mums that I have just started getting to know. DD (4 years old) being unruly - we are going through a phase at the moment, one of the other mums just picked her up and smacked her on her bottom. I was completely stunned - I would never hit a child my own or someone elses... DD in tears i just gathered up DS's stuff took DD and left.

I want to pick her up on it, or call the police or something..... sorry dont have anyone in RL i cant speak to right now so sorry for ranty message im just still stunned!

WWYD?????

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Mother2many · 11/04/2013 16:30

Sorry, didn't read it all...but if your child is unruly, you should be on top of it, or not allow her to upset everyone else. Esp. if your aware she is going through a faze. She can't behave, she sits.

NO, I don't agree with this lady smacking her... She had no right too, no matter what.

You should of went and said something to her... I wonder how many other kids she feels, she has to discipline!!

I'm sure it shocked your DD.

candyandyoga · 11/04/2013 19:45

Motherof2many

Read the thread! Or RTFT as others would say. You haven't read enough to leave your comment

MrsBW · 11/04/2013 19:58

Marquesas

I haven't been able to read every post but alwayslateforwork I thought this was a group of forces wives hence the rather strange behaviour of the women imo anyway

Hmm
alwayslateforwork · 13/04/2013 03:04

Ha ha!

What a fabulous put down! Hence the rather strange behaviour anyway! Hahahahahahaha!

That has made my day, lol. Bwahahahahaha!

Ah, ya gotta love mn.

bugsocute · 13/04/2013 03:24

what a bitch ! ring the ambulance on her ! she sound like a evil peace of work

Mumof3men · 13/04/2013 10:05

has clumsyoaf been and updated or posted since this all blew up-seems odd she didn't update re the next meet up.

ArtemisiaGentileschisThumb · 13/04/2013 16:59

Some people have been so mean I wouldn't blame the op if she didn't come back at all. I'd like to know what happened though and if op and DS are ok.

candyandyoga · 13/04/2013 19:32

I do get very frustrated when op's don't update after people invest their time trying to reassure and help (in the majority of cases anyway)

Mumof3men · 13/04/2013 21:18

I think this is what happened at Xmas, there were many pages with the SIL saga and then Clumsyoaf disappeared, she then said her daughter had been in hospital and been very ill (not sure if her DP came home, I can't remember).

candyandyoga · 17/04/2013 07:22

I remember that! I think from now on I'll remember to not bother wasting my time on op's who can't be bothered to come back and update!

Mumof3men · 17/04/2013 08:00

oh, I predict an update. Possibly another drama filled one :-)

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Clumsyoaf · 17/04/2013 10:04

The smacking mum has been spoken to by the police, unofficially. She admitted smacking my DD as she was being naughty.

She has not apologised, but has told other mums that she cant believe she did that.

We will not be joining any activities when she is present.

Yes we had a play date last Friday and 4 mums and kids came, all expressed disgust at her behaviour but they all still meet up on a Monday at soft play.

Thanks to all for advice, sorry for late update

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Clumsyoaf · 17/04/2013 10:05

Btw, I live in my home I owned before i met husband - the whole forces thing isnt for me.

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MmeThenardier · 17/04/2013 11:08

Thanks for the update clumsy been wondering how you got on. Sounds like quite a proportionate reaction.

I wouldn't really want to see her with a criminal record for her behaviour but I do think it was well out of order and perhaps this will make her realise how serious it is.

MoominsYonisAreScary · 17/04/2013 11:19

Hopefully now she will realise how wrong it is to smack someone else's child

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Clumsyoaf · 17/04/2013 11:38

Having read through some of the posts I really do think some people should really think twice before posting comments, I?m not a drama queen and yes I have had a run of some bad luck lately. Some people post for advice because they genuinely don?t have anyone to talk things over with in real life. I have no one who I could just discuss this with at the time and for me the support and advice here was a godsend.

And for the record my daughter is a normal 4 year old! shes just testing the boundaries with me but is well behaved at nursery! I wonder what planet some people are on sometimes.

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Doha · 17/04/2013 11:47

Ignore the disbelievers and doubting posters Clumsy..

Your DD is just being a typical 4 year old seeing how far she can go and get away with.
I am glad the Other Mum has been spoken to by the police, perhaps she will think twice before she raises her hand to ANYONE again.

Do not avoid being in her company, why should you and your DD miss out, it may he awkward but more so for her than for you. You do not have to talk to her just as you don't have to ignore her.
Try move on from this and keep posting for support if you need it

CrapBag · 17/04/2013 14:29

Thank you for the update. Glad she has been spoken to and that she actually realises she shouldn't have done it. Shame she can't actually bring herself to apologise, not only to you but to your DD as well!!

NewStartInSpring · 17/04/2013 14:32

I think if you post again then you should namechange. Or you will always get your other posts brought up.

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