friend said i treat DD as though she's terminally ill

[princessj29]

Later in the year we're going to Disneyland. DD, age 5, doesn't know yet and I was planning on hiring a Mickey costume for DH's friend to wear to deliver the tickets and some Disney goodies to announce the trip to DD. My friend said this 'special treatment' is ridiculous and that I treat DD like she's terminally ill by arranging things like this! I just wanted DD to have a lovely memory, that's all. She still totally believes that people dressed up are real characters and would be amazed by Mickey coming to the house. The suit only costs £10 to hire but she'll remember it forever- AIBU to think this is just a nice thing to do and that my friend was out of line?

This is a fairy floss thread, how come nobody other than Fanjo hasn't pounced on TSC's comment?

Haven't read all the thread, but wow there are some really shitty comments in what i have.

So what if you think it's OTT or not something you'd do. If the op wants to do it and she thinks her dd will love it then good for her. Go for it , and I hope your dd has a lovely surprise. I think it's a fab idea, my ds would have loved it when he was small especially if we'd swapped Mickey for Buzz Lightyear!

Because we all feel much the same about stretch limos? Don't know about 10 year olds, round here it's chavvy hairdressers.

I think it sounds a fabulous idea and I only wish me and dh had that kind of imagination. in fact, I can see we need to be a bit more like this.

Your friend sounds very miserable to be around and a spoiler. I hope she doesn't speak like this in front of your dd. and ceases to in front of you. I wouldn't be spending too much time with her in future. She sounds jealous of your dd and her happiness.

She's jealous. It's a lovely thing to do. Make sure you show her all the photos!

"They are only young and believing in magic for a short time, surely we should make the most of it rather than turning them into being sceptical and scornful before their time?"

They believe in magic for way longer if you don't overdo the unbelievable stunts.

athing Im really curious why you think someone dressing up is an "unblelievable stunt", rather just what it is - someone dressing up for fun?

Well Flogging I feel as though you are being a bit disingenous there, we all know 'fat' 'chav' and other value judgements aren't encouraged. I dunno about hairdressers though.

It was OTT, and not something I'd do personally. But she should not have made the comment she did and is very much in the wrong.

Your friend sounds spiteful and mean.
Am about the comment about the holiday not being 'A world cruise' hardly a nice thing to say either.
I think it's great that you are creating something she will always remember, not all memories can be spontaneous, they do need planning, what's wrong with that?

I cringe when I see screeching kids/teens/pissed women hanging out of limo's. TSC's comment is not far off tbf. I live near such an estate in Trafford. Not all of them are fat though. Only half. Bad TSC. Any of that caper back home in County Kerry and we'd be doubting the sanity of the parents involved. A rake of money and shite all to do with it.

Anyway. I had a terrible childhood. With my kids I just do the things my mum didn't and I wanted her to like reading stories, clean pyjamas, fresh underwear daily, not going to school stinking of fags, beer and wee, not leaving my eldest in charge while I go out for a piss up, not beating them up if one of them creeps up behind me and goes "raaaargh!" you know that kind of thing? Nothing wrong with OP's preferences though. I'd dump that friend quicker than a hot turd. Nowty oul witch.

It's a stunt because instead of just telling the child they are going, which should be exciting and "magical" enough, they have to make a big production out of it.

And it's unbelievable because they're trying to convince a 5 yo that the actual, real Mickey Mouse is coming to their house.

I have a very unworldly, magic-believing 5 year old. But she would know a man in a Mickey Mouse costume was a man in a Mickey Mouse costume.

It just stretches credulity too far.

Was I the only one to not be moved by the cute girl finding out she was going to Disney posted on here

The point about saying the costume is ott or not what we would do is to point out that even those who think it is unnecessary think the friend was out of order.

Aww Mrs D! I bet that was amazing. :o

ChristmasJubilee you would think Im OTT to then as I to decorate the house at Christmas and Halloween I love it and the kids all love it. Its just a bit of fun for us all

Haha - we do hallowe'en over kill here too, house becomes " Haunted Mansion" though ours includes a party with bloody chocolate fountains & pumpkin head brains dip etc too - the kids love it & its the only one DD will still buy into :)

Amazed at the Limo comments though - around here its stil more MC type families who do this for their DCs - one of DDs school friends had one as a surprise pick up from school, drove out to a local beauty spot then took them onto a restaurant - they loved it - you rarely see kids in them, its usually more hen parties

Not much of a friend is she?

Actually another thing I've seen is a "For Hire Engine". Its a fire engine decked out a bit like a limo but with pole and male stripper inside. Thats for the hens and older birthday ladies obviously. I did see it picking up young boys at lazer quest a few weeks ago. I do hope they removed the pole and smells of cheap perfume and testosterone beforehand

But athing whats wrong with making a big production as you put it if its making a child happy? Yes going on holiday is exciting but it doesn't have to be one or the other surely....and I havent seen anything said by the OP that she is trying to convince her DD that it is the "real" Mickey Mouse in any of her posts, unless I've missed it, its her DD that thinks they are real so hardly trying to convince. if her DD believes this and along comes Mickey I cant see the harm.

rockinhippy oooh sounds like our house at Halloween. DS1 (whos over 6 foot) hates it as hes always walking into the webs I hang from the ceiling everywhere. Weve also got one of those giant butlers that talks. Your party sounds like fun, I did a buffet last year with loads of stuff like that (youve given me some more ideas!), I baked some cookies in the shape of fingers, put a sliced almond on for a nail and then covered around it with strawberry jam to look like blood.

What a crass thing for your friend to say :(

Seems a shame to miss an opportunity to have a look at what they actually do - or any donations if anyone's got a couple of quid going spare

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That sounds great Shesariver. We made hands by filling latex gloves with red water and floating them in the apple bob bucket. Looked very spooky.

And freezing them. Forgot that bit. I remember one of the mums at school making realistic looking hands by freezing butterscotch angel delight in gloves. Made me feel a bit sick actually... :o

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