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AIBU?

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Nanny spotted reading magazine whilst child at playbarn

295 replies

zebedeethezebra · 25/03/2013 14:04

AIBU to be annoyed at my nanny for reading a wedding magazine whilst 3 year old DS is at a playbarn, or do all nannies think it is reasonable to behave like this??

She was spotted by one of my friends the other week. I don't mind her having a coffee or something whilst she is there, but I expect her to keep an eye on DS, not have her nose buried in a magazine. Particularly on the money we pay her.

OP posts:
Dawndonna · 25/03/2013 15:13

yawn.
Biscuit

CatPussInACrownOfThorns · 25/03/2013 15:16

Reverse AIBU?

ImTooHecsyForYourParty · 25/03/2013 15:18

This is a wind up, yes? Good one. Grin

I thought the whole point of taking the kids to that hell on earth that is soft play is that you can sit and read for a bit, looking up every now and again to make sure they're ok. (which they are. In a sealed environment that basically consists of great big foam cushions everywhere!)

You do know adults can't actually get in there with them, don't you?

ppeatfruit · 25/03/2013 15:19

soupa I agree. As I said before I've been on both sides of the nanny\mother divide. Of course she could've been watching or not If it were me I'd prefer to be told especially if I had my doubts about her. it doesn't make me a mad mother just one who cares about her DCs.

I know L.O's who've been quite badly injured in soft play centres BTW.

SelfconfessedSpoonyFucker · 25/03/2013 15:21

LOs can get badly injured anywhere even when being supervised by their loving helicopter parents.

LoopaDaLoopa · 25/03/2013 15:22

Ah

RandallPinkFloyd · 25/03/2013 15:23

I think you're right ppeat, you're just the type of parent who cares about your child.

I'm not that bothered about mine. I just tend to strap a couple of pillows to him and hope for the best.

Goldmandra · 25/03/2013 15:26

I know L.O's who've been quite badly injured in soft play centres BTW.

Can you tell me any place you can take a child where another child hasn't been quite badly injured at some point, either in that particular place or another one of a similar nature?

Children have been badly injured and even killed in beds.

I am wondering where the OP is......

ppeatfruit · 25/03/2013 15:26

Yeah 2 pillows and a helmet and he'll be fine Grin

CatPussInACrownOfThorns · 25/03/2013 15:27

Goldmandra has it exactly right.

ppeatfruit · 25/03/2013 15:27

Yeah but when the nanny 's been in charge she'd be in deep shit.

CatPussInACrownOfThorns · 25/03/2013 15:29

I know L.O's who've been quite badly injured in soft play centres BTW
And how will watching the child prevent injury?

ppeatfruit · 25/03/2013 15:35

Erm you can tell them not to hang off a slide or not to hit a L.O. and stop a fight should one be starting. I take it that you don't watch your 3 year old and he or she never is involved in fights.

foreversunny · 25/03/2013 15:38

YABU.

Your friend sounds delightful for reporting back to you Hmm

JiltedJohnsJulie · 25/03/2013 15:39

Stealth boast indeed LadyClarice Grin

Yes, I've seen lots of stories of children getting injured at play centres, that's why I keep mine in the wheelie bin. I've never once seen a story in the daily mail of a child being kept in a wheelie bin coming to harm. Great parent me.

UnChartered · 25/03/2013 15:41

this bar of chocolate and a espresso says the OP has got distracted by a magazine article

YOO HOOO!! OP!!!

GwendolineMaryLacey · 25/03/2013 15:42

Fucksake

Poppet48 · 25/03/2013 15:47

Spotted reading a magazine at the play barn! Words fail me Blush

Come on OP, YABU.

coughingbean · 25/03/2013 15:53

As the op has nit replied I am inclined to believe this is a windupHmm

ISeeRedPeople · 25/03/2013 15:53

Perhaps you should only employ resolutely-single nannies in future. Ones who don't enjoy crafts, sleb gossip, television, antiques, current affairs or photography.

They will struggle harder to find an engaging magazine and are more likely to be watching your child instead [sage nod]

ByTheWay1 · 25/03/2013 15:54

hahahahahahaha - it is a wind up?? isn't it ???? Hmm

OP - do you go home to let the nanny go to the toilet occasionally? or does she have to take your LO in there with her?

Sounds like she is helping your child become a happy independent 3 year old, preparing it for school - where it may have to - you know - PLAY ALONE SOMETIMES..... or even meet with other kids without an adult overlooking them, and make friends.... I'd be paying her more for her foresight - not criticising her for allowing free and independent play...

coughingbean · 25/03/2013 15:55

Also I just literally lold at 'wheelie bin' Blush

LeggoAcubunnyture · 25/03/2013 15:59

The question is, do you watch your child's every move while at a playbarn/soft play? If the answer is no, then YABU, if yes, then YANBU.

You should have her flogged a word with her about what you expect when in such places.

LegArmpits · 25/03/2013 16:01

I actually hate EVERYONE today. Jesus Christ Op.

Tubegirl · 25/03/2013 16:04

I don't care if this is a wind up - those links from HesterShaw were worth it! Although if serious Goldmandra made some excellent points and I agree with her.