To not want PIL to stay even though they have nowhere else to go?

[curiousgeorgie]

PIL are having some work done on their house. Loads actually, it's a complete renovation and DH and I are overseeing it for them.

It was supposed to start last month and be finished by June but due to delays and adding a few extra things on its not not supposed to finish until mid to late July.

I'm due June 25th but will be having a C Section at either 38/39 weeks... I already have a 2 year old DD and to top it all off am moving house around the 3rd June.

PIL have been told that they should be out of the house for the whole of June until the work is complete. Before that they can stay and builders will work around them. They were going to stay with BIL & SIL but just learned that they will have her mother over (good timing!!) for practically the whole month and don't have the room, but we have a spare room, and after we move will have 2 spare rooms... So PIL have just assumed they're coming to us.

My DH is out of the house from 7-7, and PIL are in ALL day. I don't think I want them there when I am really heavily pregnant and just wanting to sleep in front of the tv with DD, enjoy seeing friends and not be a hostess. I also think it will be absolutely awful to have them in the house when I'm just home from a c section... My DH is planning 2 weeks paternity and 2 weeks working from home and it was a month I've been so looking forward to.

DH thinks I'm being unreasonable. He thinks they'll love being here and can look after the baby / DD for me... But I just don't want that. Even though they made a joke to DH that it's stay with us or in a box somewhere

So... AIBU??

Agree with Aunt Petunia... Though if they had thenerve to do that I'd givethem a slip of paper with Auntie J's number on it and close the door. I actually would because I'm a bitch though.

So pleased this has a happy ending!

Hurrah! Great news, so pleased for you. Now relax and enjoy your pregnancy :)

Marvellous news, let's hope they start thinking about where they are actually going to live.

Keep asking them OP so they are in no doubt that they can't just turn up with a suitcase and a sad face.

Love a happy ending!

Brilliant!! What a fab aunt!!!

Its in SILs interest as well to encourage them to take the aunt up on the offer as she is number 2 slot in the running!!

Keep us posted as to what happens please. I do suspect there maybe a few toys out of the pram before they go quietly to their temporay accommodation, whether that be aunts houses or elsewhere!

I think your dh must have the "so where exactly are you planning to stay" conversation sooner rather than later. This will put them on the spot and confront the issue.
Otherwise like other posters I can see the situation arising (as MIL really wants) where they don't sort it out and end up trying (or actually) staying "because we have no where else to stay"

What a brilliant aunt!

Think your mil in particular is going to need a fair bit of shoving persuading to book tickets, but fantastic that you have a solution to this problem and that your DH seems to be getting on side.
I love your aunts opener too, the more people that reiterate what a bonkers idea it is, the less the pils can feel its unreasonable of you to refuse

I think I would send Auntie J a bunch of flowers with a note thanking her for finding such a wonderful solution to a sticky problem, for not taking no for an answer and allowing you to look forward to having some lovely quiet family time when the baby is born.

Hmm... Today I'm less content aside just heard BIL, SIL and DN all have CMV, have known for a week, saw me yesterday, held DN etc and they didn't even think to tell me??

I sent DH Aunt a message just saying how lovely it was to see her and how lucky it was she was so vocal about PIL's housing problem as she has a really saved my life!

CMV? what's that?

Apparently a virus I can transfer to the baby and cause problems? I've never heard of it before but think as they've all been to hospital, got the results of blood tests and regularly see their pregnant SIL, they should have mentioned it to me? Ugh... His family!!!!

What is cmv!?

But Yay for lovely forceful aunt!

cmv

fingers crossed that a) you don't have it and b) it is not serious. What a family of inlaws you have! Your aunt -in-law is the hero of this thread.

How utterly thoughtless and selfish they sound.

Touch wood you won't have been infected.

You could always make it clear to FIL that there will be NO, absolutely NO Sky Sports at your new house. Then he can put pressure on MIL too!

From reading that link its quite low risk but I'm still pissed off they've known for a week and didn't tell me, and thought it was okay to let DN be cuddled by me & DH and play with my DD while he has it?

God they're a bunch of selfish bastards aren't they? Cross fingers you haven't caught it

SIL would be on the very sharp end of my tongue if she had done that to me. Op you poor thing. The last thing you need is more stress.

Can you contact your GP and ask if they can do an immunity test, like they do for chicken pox? Wold at least give you some peace of mind.

What is Aunties name! New DC should be named after her!! (Don't tell us, I'm only suggesting!)

Omg, are they thick or just twatty, i hope you dont have it, cant believe they didnt tell you, even a low risk is still a risk.

I've spoken to the midwife and I have to go in to clinic this morning and have blood taken.

Annoying!!

I suppose I'm using all my good luck on not having house guests!! Everything else is now going to go badly

Low risk it may be, but it wasn't their risk to take! Idiots!

Who eventually told you about the virus?