...when receiving a CRAP mother's day gift (from the husband)...

[OvenReady]

I cried.

We've had a tough couple of years (PND, social services, 2 miscarriages yada yada yada) so I kind of hoped this MD would be special. My DS is 2 so has no say in the card and gift giving.

The gift? "Hairy Dieters Cookbook".

I cried, and slowly pushed away the pancakes from breakfast.

wtf Spero? what do you get out of this? [boggle]

What is fucking wrong with you, Spero? Seriously?

I hope you're getting a big kick out of obsessively trying to hammer home what you consider home truths even when it's clear that it's unnecessary and upsetting an already fragile OP. Why do you feel the need to keep pointing that stuff out to her? What is wrong with you that you feel that need?! What you say might have truth to it, but there's ways and times to say it or not and you're waaaay off the mark here.

Spero, for fuck's sake let it go.

I'm really sorry for all you have been through. It sounds as though you have had a very tough couple of years.

Your reaction to this presents leads me to think you are still (understandably) grieving and have some ongoing issues that you and your DH need to talk thorough.

AIBU is probably not the best place for that but there are other sections on here or perhaps the samaritans or similar?

On top of that, I think a good talk with DH about how both of you is feeling may help (but I appreciate I know very little about you him).

I don't think this is a cookbook issue though and I hope you can work through things and feel better soon. Good luck.

Er - dh bought me that book for mother's day too - and I love it. He knows I like cook books, and he knows both he and I need to lose some weight - so I see it as a thoughtful gift. But it obviously all comes down to personal feelings as to whether it is a good gift or a bad one.

I am not trying to 'excessively hammer home a point' I am making a point. I don't see the problem. Probably best not to encourage me if you feel so strongly?

No one is encouraging you? They are asking you in fact to STFU. HTH

I get the gift was proberly a bit insensitivebut why did he even get u anything ur not his mum. A homemade card from ds does me :) means more than any of the shop bought crap u can get!

Then do it in a less inflammatory way and I won't feel compelled to respond will I? HTH