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Advice please

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ActiveC · 09/03/2013 10:30

my suitor left his partner of 14 years recently. He claims they were not legally married.

I told him i think it too soon for him to be entering into a courtship. He believes otherwise.

I have told that if he is as serious about me as he claims he his, i expect to be introduced to his ExP and children.

AIBU?

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ActiveC · 09/03/2013 12:06

The conditions on intimacy were initiated by me. Im quite an emotional soul and sex tends to cloud my judgement. This man and his situation defo requires a clear head!

We really do get on and all that jazz. The only reason Im giving him careful yet cautious consideration is because we just click. If not for that, I'd not have entertained him so.

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WorraLiberty · 09/03/2013 12:07

You're being too obvious OP

If this thread was serious you would have picked up on the comments about your deliberate typo and said something like 'Whoops!' or in your case "Oh Golly Gosh!"

But still 5/10 for entertainment Wink

firesidechat · 09/03/2013 12:08

Husband just asked me "what's so funny?"

I think the Op may have popped over from a previous century for a little bit of advice.

MomaP · 09/03/2013 12:11

firesidechat I agree. I shouldn't, but I am pml here! Grin Grin

squeakytoy · 09/03/2013 12:15

Having looked at OPs other posts on different threads, I would say that she is actually genuine and serious... its still making me laugh though..

IneedAgoldenNickname · 09/03/2013 12:16

We don't have biscuits at church, shame, I'd loved to have had a giggle about this tomorrow!

LittleChickpea · 09/03/2013 12:16

Sorry but, YABU and can I add slightly scary!

AmberLeaf · 09/03/2013 12:23

I think the OP is genuine and serious.

OP I think you should slow down and don't invest too much in a man that you barely know, a man that is already lying to you/concealing things from you.

ChaoticisasChaoticdoes · 09/03/2013 12:26

I don't go to church...now I wonder if I'm missing something HmmConfused

ProphetOfDoom · 09/03/2013 12:30

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YellowStickers · 09/03/2013 12:34

No! Do not advise to delete thread. What and deprive MN of a good old laugh on a miserable and grey day?

OP, I am dying to know whether we go to the same church. Tomorrow, at the end of the service, when the vicar is giving the notices and asks if he has missed anything or whether anyone would like to add something, would you please stand up and mention church hugs? I would love to know who you are!

Lucyellensmum95 · 09/03/2013 12:36

Theres another thread - link PLEASE :)

WorraLiberty · 09/03/2013 12:38

I have a mental picture of this man being like the English man on the new Meerkat adverts...

Does he own a pair of angry trousers?

YellowStickers · 09/03/2013 12:41

Here you go Lucy
www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/1703672-Met-a-fab-man-but

Lucyellensmum95 · 09/03/2013 12:50

thanks yellow

Lucyellensmum95 · 09/03/2013 12:54

Having read your other thread ActiveC this man is a cad and a bounder and you should sully yourself with him no further.

gilly86 · 09/03/2013 12:56

GrinGrin

This thread is still making me laugh! Keep up the good work!

Viviennemary · 09/03/2013 13:00

I don't think you have the right to meet his ex partner or his children. But on the other hand you are suspicious he is not being entirely honest. You could find out if he was or is legally married by applying to the record office. Not sure of the correct procedure. But you have such traditional views it would probably be in your best interests not to pursue this relationship.

MNHQ
KateSMumsnet · 09/03/2013 13:00

Afternoon all, let's remember that MN is a place for support, and the OP is genuinely looking for advice.

FellNel · 09/03/2013 13:08

I agree with Shmaltzing

Maryz · 09/03/2013 13:11

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gilly86 · 09/03/2013 13:12

Sorry kate!

Lucyellensmum95 · 09/03/2013 13:15

I agree katie - my post of 12.54 is a serious piece of advice actually, but i like the OPs turn of phrase and was simply replying in kind. I shall rephrase - in all seriousness. ACtive C this man has already shown himself to be a lying bastard - you can do better.

Maryz · 09/03/2013 13:15

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ChaoticisasChaoticdoes · 09/03/2013 13:15

Sorry, Kate, but this is AIBU and when a poster comes on talking about suitors and wedding vowels and nasi decrees it tickled me. I originally thought it was a wind up but I will behave from now on fails to mention she is going out

Btw, your throat clearing technique is improving. Have you been taking lessons? :)

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