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Advice please

210 replies

ActiveC · 09/03/2013 10:30

my suitor left his partner of 14 years recently. He claims they were not legally married.

I told him i think it too soon for him to be entering into a courtship. He believes otherwise.

I have told that if he is as serious about me as he claims he his, i expect to be introduced to his ExP and children.

AIBU?

OP posts:
catgirl1976 · 09/03/2013 11:21

I think wanting to meet his children if and when the relationship becomes serious is fine

But you don't sound like you trust him and it seems very early on to be bringing this up with him.

I think you should forget about meeting the family for now and concentrate on seeing how the relationship develops and working on why you don't trust him.

gilly86 · 09/03/2013 11:22

ActiveC you need to cast aside the children and ex and focus on your new "relationship" with this man!

If it becomes serious and long term then YES you will eventually meet the children and you will eventually meet the ex.

I think you need to progress from church hugs to blow jobs first though. AT LEAST.

Lol.

YellowStickers · 09/03/2013 11:23

Perhaps you could all meet up, over a nasi goreng followed by church hugs - it's what dreams are made of!

AngelWreakinHavoc · 09/03/2013 11:23

gilly86 Grin

gilly86 · 09/03/2013 11:24

Also... I met a man in church once. I confided in him. He hugged me. We drank wine and ate bread. I felt so blessed.

He was the vicar.

AngelWreakinHavoc · 09/03/2013 11:25

Dont forget the scrabble YellowStickers It just wouldnt be the same without the Vowels!

YellowStickers · 09/03/2013 11:25

Ineed it could be him - the cad - the toe rag - the fiend!! He could be doing the rounds.

gilly86 · 09/03/2013 11:25

I love nasi goreng. YUM

Montybojangles · 09/03/2013 11:25

I'm a bit concerned you are even contemplating a relationship with a man who fathered children outside of wedlock, what will the vicar say?

catgirl1976 · 09/03/2013 11:25

Out of interest.............it sounds like you met at church but given his exp and children clearly don't attend, is the church-going something he has just taken up after the split or did he always go and exp didn't?

YellowStickers · 09/03/2013 11:26

Angel Grin Grin Grin

cozietoesie · 09/03/2013 11:26

Maybe you should ask MNHQ to remove this thread and add the details on to your other new thread in Relationships, OP.

YellowStickers · 09/03/2013 11:27

Watch out, he might want to take you up the aisle Wink Wink nudge nudge

gilly86 · 09/03/2013 11:29

LOL yellowstickers!GrinGrin
"Up the aisle"

Ledkr · 09/03/2013 11:29

Chaos???? Or Emily Bronte

gilly86 · 09/03/2013 11:30

I think you need to just ask yourself the very important question

"what would jesus do?"

catgirl1976 · 09/03/2013 11:32
YellowStickers · 09/03/2013 11:32

gilly I like your thinking

YellowStickers · 09/03/2013 11:33

Over in Relationships, OP has posted we have been courting for all of 5 weeks.

and they haven't progressed from church hugs to blow jobs yet???

IneedAgoldenNickname · 09/03/2013 11:33

yellow do you think it's the same man :( shame, I'd quite like him to take me up the aisle! Grin

gilly86 · 09/03/2013 11:37

5 weeks and its still just hugs?

I'd say "he's not that into you!".. Literally.

YellowStickers · 09/03/2013 11:38

Ineed I reckon so but the cad is probably taking all the girls up the aisle, so worth giving it a go Grin

Original poster
ActiveC · 09/03/2013 11:38

Gosh its all gotten very 'mean girls' in here.

There is no reason to mock me or religion.

To the ladies who offered advice to the question I posed, I am greatful.

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Tubegirl · 09/03/2013 11:38
Tubegirl · 09/03/2013 11:40