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AIBU to be thinking my clothes should fit by now?

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Pinkflipflop · 09/03/2013 04:25

My ds is just over 5 weeks and was born by c section. I never was a big exerciser but do walk 30 mins about 5 times a week. Some of my clothes fit me but lots don't.

AUBU to wish my skinny jeans didn't give me a squishy belly?
Will I fit into my clothes again? Get your crystal ball please!! I'm trying to be careful what I eat but don't always succeed!

I keep reading about women who lost the baby weight within a week or so. Definitely not me. Am 10 stone 1 and ore baby was 9 stone 8.

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noblegiraffe · 09/03/2013 04:29

You've heard 9 months to put it on, 9 months to lose it? Why on earth do you think your clothes should fit you only 5 weeks after giving birth?? Women who lose it in a week are few and far between.

MarjorieAntrobus · 09/03/2013 04:33

OP, you'll get there v soon. You're only half a stone over your pre-baby weight, and your baby is only 5 weeks old.

I predict that hundreds of MNers will be along shortly to say that ^^.

Stay away from the skinny jeans for another couple of weeks though, cos they'll only make you cross.

Original poster
Pinkflipflop · 09/03/2013 04:33

Of course you are absolutely right giraffe! The sane part of me knows this! I guess just fed up of maternity style clothes!

I've never been very patient!!Grin

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Pinkflipflop · 09/03/2013 04:34

Thanks marj! I'll keep going!

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Hooya · 09/03/2013 04:36

Sympathising as I am pg with my first and a bit worried about wanting to lose weight after, it's so tedious and will surely be the last thing on my mind with a new baby to look after!

YANBU to wish your skinny jeans were kinder, but YABU to think it will happen so fast! I think you have to give yourself time, I hear a year from most friends who have done it.

Hooya · 09/03/2013 04:38

I meant a year to get back to pre-baby body (not that it's really possible) if you're not focusing on it, I think, rather than a concerted effort, of course!

systemsaddict · 09/03/2013 05:33

Ah OP I wish I was in your position - I still haven't lost the baby weight and I am way more than a few pounds over my pre-preg weight ... on the plus side, according to last week's parents' evenings, baby is now doing very well at school .... Grin

wannabedomesticgoddess · 09/03/2013 05:39

At 5 weeks I got out and tried walking. My back couldnt take it and I was sofa bound for another 5 weeks.

Dont rush yourself. Your body has been through a massive ordeal and it takes time to heal. If you try to rush it you will set yourself back further.

Gentle walks are great, but step away from the skinny jeans!

utopian99 · 09/03/2013 05:45

OP I feel your frustration. YANBU to wait this but maybe unrealistic? I'm 10 weeks post partum and all but one pair of jeans now fit again but I'm still counting as 10lbs over my pre-pg weight somehow.. Also the tummy squidge is still there a bit; I practise holding in my stomach muscles and pelvic floor everyday and am being careful not to fill.my face with chocolate but it feels like a battle every day which I'm seriously hacked off with.

Someone told me the last weight is hard to shed until you stop ebf?

AlexReidsLonelyBraincell · 09/03/2013 05:53

You sound like you're doing just fine :)

It took my stomach ages to reduce after my Caesarian, there was a lot of swelling (it is major surgery), and it's still slightly rounded now. Though i think that may be a permanent change, I am working on it.

I know it's difficult but please don't be too hard on yourself, as a previous poster sensibly said, 9 months on, 9 months off.

AlexReidsLonelyBraincell · 09/03/2013 05:55

Oh and yes agree with utopian my body stubbornly held onto extra weight until I'd stopped bf.

Herrena · 09/03/2013 06:34

My batty mother cried the day after she had me because her old clothes didn't fit 'yet' Hmm so you're not alone op!!

I didn't lose weight until I went on the 5:2 diet, even though I'd been trying to eat healthily until then. Mind you I then went on to lose quite a lot (13kg and counting, not smug at all).....

Envy of anyone only half a stone adrift!

Emilythornesbff · 09/03/2013 06:48

Ah, Pinkflipflop I feel your pain butyou're doing very well indeed.
I too have a 5 week old baby(congratulations btw) and I can only look longingly at my "tiny" clothes gathering dust. I managed to zip up my pre -pregnancy jacket yesterday but that was like getting toothpaste back into the tube Grin.
But it does happen. A little more patience and some gentle walks. It's frustrating not having the time (or energy ATM) to get to the gym and buff up!

Emilythornesbff · 09/03/2013 06:49

Ooh please shar more about the 5:2 diet.

TheUnsinkableTitanic · 09/03/2013 06:49

aahhh Herrena i was thinking Envy at 1/2 stone :)

DolomitesDonkey · 09/03/2013 07:09

I am one of the weirdos who did it in a week (11 days), but we are few and far between and I've yet to receive my medal in the post. Wink

elvislives2012 · 09/03/2013 07:27

5 weeks?! Well done. My dd is 5 months and am just fitting in my jeans now. Grin
Take it easy and be kind to yourself, you've had a major operation. It'll come back eventually and I agree 9 months on and 9 months off....

SirBoobAlot · 09/03/2013 07:35

You're being utterly ridiculous Wink

Stop stressing about your jeans and enjoy your DD. Your belly may be squishy, but so is she, and she won't be tiny and squishy for long.

Tee2072 · 09/03/2013 08:31

My son is 3.9. Years. I am about to fit back into my size 12s.

Grin
Lovecat · 09/03/2013 08:36

DD is eight. I'm getting my coat now. Blush

Seriously, though, I found my actual body shape changed after pregnancy. My thighs, which had always been quite slim, got really chunky and it's taken a long time for them to get back to what they were, even when I lost loads of weight from everywhere else. Also my stomach muscles were damaged (c-section after 36 hour labour) and I had to do special exercises before they began to look anything like normal.

BlackholesAndRevelations · 09/03/2013 08:37

A) your baby is FIVE WEEKS OLD- give yourself a break, woman!

B) my mother walked out of the maternity ward having stayed in for five days when I was born... In her size 10 jeans. This is not hereditary; I am on a diet now and my kids are 3 and 1.

Herrena · 09/03/2013 08:57

emilythornesbff well since you ask.... Grin

It's a WOE (way of eating) where you eat up to your recommended caloric intake on 5 days a week and only have 500 cal per day on the other 2. That is it! Variations on the theme include 4:3 and alternate day fasting (one day on, one day off essentially). I started it at the end of August last year at 98.3kg and was down to 86kg a few weeks ago. Lots of it came off in the first 3 months though, I was delighted! I had a 1mo DS and a 14mo toddler when I started, so it is doable with a baby. All you really need to do is pick your starve-day foods carefully and stick to them . Not sure about whether you can do it while BF though.

There is a longstanding thread devoted to it, I recommend you take a look!

thready mcthread

GirlOutNumbered · 09/03/2013 08:59

It took me 4 months, but my skin is still a bit stretchy at the front. I guess that will never go away.

Emilythornesbff · 09/03/2013 09:04

Thanks Herrera.

Fakebook · 09/03/2013 09:14

After dc1 I went back to pre pregnancy size and smaller after 1 year. With Dc2 I feel my hips have widened and my size 10 jeans won't fit me around the hips. It's like my bones have opened up. DS is 14 months and I'm pregnant again so haven't lost weight quickly this time unfortunately.

Keep exercising. You'll get there.