Dd1 aged 13 wants to go to a party tomorrow......

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wearing these

and some wet look leggings (which she wants to buy today, I've said I think it will look tarty for her age) and a top.

She thinks its ok to spend all her money on the shoes and leggings (£35) and not leave enough to buy drinks whilst at the party. I said she will get dehydrated.

AIBU to not allow her to go? (she has already been grounded for the past 2 days so it was touch and go as to whether she was allowed to go anyway)

The party includes getting ready at her friends house and staying over after btw.

ps I have pmt so I am aware I may be unreasonable, hence the question.

For any future posters like OP who are having teenager footwear issues...just let me know if you want me to post pictures of my big fat freaky bunions to put them off!!

But I still won't admit to my mother she was right...

northern, you may be right...but,fuck, I hope not!
I am hoping that having moved away from the "sleb culture" we will not have to go through all of this!

Did I click on the right link? They're mary-jane style wedges yes. Perfectly fine for a 13 year old.

Anyway, I think her revised look sounds lovely - sophisticated and a bit hip (although I think hip is a seriously un-hip word)

Am totally with you LaQueen, although we seem to be in the minority. I am mystified.

I think wet look legging (which resemble pvc???) are far from suitable for a THIRTEEN YEAR OLD!

And wedges are heels. Why would 13 year old need to wear high heels?

I just don't see why we are supporting our daughter's in their desire to look like 16/17/18 year olds.

You lot are making me feel like a conservative old fart! (I am 34)

Non of the girls around here dress like that, thank fuck. I think they'd stand out a mile if they did and be ridiculed.

I just read out some of this thread to dh.
He said "is this in England?" I said it was.
He laughed and said, "you wouldn't get that from the girls here, they's wear baseball boots with socks, shorts and top, but they look great, like kids should look"
And both said at the same time "happy". There isn't the pressure of conformity here. Hooray

I agree with LaQueen and AngryBeaver

I'd be more concerned about the shoes than the leggings though, 13 is too young really to be wearing heels like that

That link looks like our sixth form, the second they are let out of uniform.
Mind you some of their in uniform skirts are that short.

The HT's war seems to have passed them by.

Maryz That is how the year 8s at DD's school dress.

This takes me back. When was 13 my friend had a "dinner party" at hers one midsummers eve, all girls, she wore a vintage ballgown with feathery bodice, another friend wore lace collar 60s type dress, I wore a black low-cut french connection lycra minidress and heels, an outfit that the OP would definitely consider "tarty" (mum is a feminist and just told me I looked lovely), we drank wine and ate spaghetti, there's a picture of us by her front door in the evening sunlight looking sooooo young and fabulous!

Wish could pull off that outfit now!

, alrighty then!