Why do they always say unemployed if it is a stay home mum! With that many kids it is definitely hard 'work' albeit unpaid. I am a stay home mum of five. That is pretty hard work so can't imagine 11! I don't envy it to be honest even for a new house! We are stopping at five as I can't imagine giving more the time and attention and simply keeping up with house etc. The cost comes in to it also.
This sort of thing will always happen because men can get away with clearing off and not having to pay for their kids, the woman is blamed and slated. Also it is pretty normal for many women to want to have babies and be with them while small. This has always happened but the way society is now hasn't and it doesn't suit everyone. There will always be people 'on the fringes' of what is considered acceptable at a particular time.