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To think it is ridiculous that a woman with 11 kids is getting a £400,000 house for nowt

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angelos02 · 19/02/2013 09:59

Especially when most working people couldn't never afford to live somewhere costing that much?
Link: www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2280385/Home-fit-dole-queen-Mother-11-gets-BRAND-NEW-400-000-house-built-council-shes-struggling-current-homes.html

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Angelfootprints · 19/02/2013 21:15

By refusing to defend someone does not make you "jealous" of them.

gaelicsheep · 19/02/2013 21:15

If you ask me, she and her children should get every support possible to try and break the cycle. If she said what she said - highly debatable - then she is being bitter and defensive, and who can blame her. She knows what people like those here think.

HoHoHoNoYouDont · 19/02/2013 21:16

Maybe the elderly lady paid her own rent. There's no comparison here.

gaelicsheep · 19/02/2013 21:16

Bleating "it's not fair" does.

fanjoforthemammaries7850 · 19/02/2013 21:16

People are so jealous of her house.

aquashiv · 19/02/2013 21:16

How does she manage to fiddle the bins too? How very dare she??

JakeBullet · 19/02/2013 21:17

Not me.....would not want to swap at all. I am happy with my life as it is. Many on this thread are not happy hence the "its not fair" comments.

I will say again that in 20 years of community practice I have only met ONE other family who have required this kind of housing. IT'S RARE.

Other large families wait in three bed houses and stay there because there are very few larger social properties out there.

NcNcNcNc · 19/02/2013 21:19

You do realise that if they squeezed her and her children into a one bed flat then you would still not get any more money, yes?

Her and her children being kept in the workhouse still wouldn't mean you could have a bigger house/more children/horses etc?

This woman and her children have NO effect on your lives at all so ARGHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH I'm just going to give up. I feel tainted even reading this horrible crap.

HoHoHoNoYouDont · 19/02/2013 21:19

If you ask me, she and her children should get every support possible to try and break the cycle. Apart from financial support what other support do you think she should get? Training/skills in order to gain employment now or in the future?

fanjoforthemammaries7850 · 19/02/2013 21:20

Exactly, people scapegoat others because they aren't apply with their own lot

Auntmaud · 19/02/2013 21:21

I am far from jealous. I have a bigger house and we paid for it all by ourselves. By doing that odd work thing so many people here think you don't need to do.

fanjoforthemammaries7850 · 19/02/2013 21:21

Err happy not apply.

Been a long hard day at work

HoHoHoNoYouDont · 19/02/2013 21:22

I'm interested to know how this cycle could be broken?

fanjoforthemammaries7850 · 19/02/2013 21:22

We are working.

Doesn't make me feel superior to others though, or smug

discrete · 19/02/2013 21:23

"Did she have a horse though?"

No, but a garden almost big enough to have one in.

Oh, how I lusted after that garden....Envy

HoHoHoNoYouDont · 19/02/2013 21:25

Must admit I am more envious of people's gardens rather than houses Smile

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gaelicsheep · 19/02/2013 21:26

If you really and truly think bringing up 11 children is not work you leave me quite speechless. The alternative, of course, would have been having taxpayers pay for 11 lots of childcare - except that kind of help wasn't available 20 years ago - which would have been a whole lot more expensive.

NcNcNcNc · 19/02/2013 21:27

I'm working, I've also been a single mother (divorced), I worked then too, long hours, difficult childcare, very demanding job, and? Confused

I have a good job, Big 4 firm, good pay etc, own house, car, children at private school (works for me, understand not everyone else's choice)... why would I think you don't have to work for a living? Confused

I simply think I was incredibly lucky to have a supportive family that showed me the benefits of education and gave me something to aspire to. They are also very WC but that's by the by.

fanjoforthemammaries7850 · 19/02/2013 21:27

Housing a family is not rewarding them. It's human decency

Angelfootprints · 19/02/2013 21:27

There wont be room for the horse seeing as she thinks the garden is a bin.

gaelicsheep · 19/02/2013 21:28

Please tell me where is the reward? Her children not dying I suppose.

maisiejoe123 · 19/02/2013 21:28

Don't you think she has been given enough support, free healthcare, free education, free house, free presciptions etc.

Actually I am wondering seriously. What would change this woman's attitude? Maybe she was allowed to do what she likes with no guidance because people were scared of saying anything. The outcome is someone who doesn't have any sense of responsibility at all.

How can we as society change this mindset?

NcNcNcNc · 19/02/2013 21:28

Rhiannon - so what is the solution then? Now you've told us what it isn't.

It's not a 'reward' Hmm for having children, it's the money to keep them housed, warm and fed. Do you really begrudge children that?

NcNcNcNc · 19/02/2013 21:29

Maisie - stop 23 year old men having sex with 14 year old girls might help.