to not understand people announcing that they're 'Getting Engaged'.

[atthewelles]

I mean, either you've agreed between you that you want to get married or you haven't. Tellling everyone that you're 'going to get engaged at Christmas' or that 'we're going to Paris to get engaged' doesn't really make sense. Surely its more exciting to wait until you have the ring and then make a general announcement that you 'are engaged' instead of letting everyone know in advance and then expecting them to get excited and ooh and aah when you appear with a diamond flashing on your finger.

I'm not giving out about it, I just don't understand why people want to take the excitement and surprise out of the occasion like this.

I agree with you OP - I've never understood it either. Once you've decided you are getting married, you are engaged - ring or not.

Well I didn't know there was a Flouncer's Corner either. But then I don't do flouncing. If push came to shove I'd just fuck off quietly and sit at home muttering about nests of vipers.

YANBU and I feel exactly the same and always have.The minute you decide to get engaged you ARE engaged !Also don't get going to a family wedding recently,all quite last minute and registry office and meal afterwards.Perfectly lovely and nice and couple very loved up to be told our presence is required abroad next year for the ' proper' wedding ie. big bling do with a cast of many when they can afford and work permits it.Well we can't afford to go,and our work won't permit it but it's their attitude that really gets me.The 'oh this isn't our real wedding' WTF yes it is.It's the day you got married.Or I'm I just missing something?

I find it confusing because surely if you've both agreed you are getting married in the future you are engaged?