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Original poster

To think giving a valentines card to your daughter is a bit weird?

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FatPenguin · 16/02/2013 21:02

MIL got valentines cards for OH to give to his daughters (15 and 12 years old). He refused and said he thought it was a bit odd giving valentines card to your kids. MIL is now in a huff with him.
Do people do this?

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yousankmybattleship · 16/02/2013 21:04

My Dh gives our daighter a card. I think it's really sweet. It depends how you see Valentines, we just use it as an excuse to show a bit of love and be a bit soppy. My son gives his sisters valentines too.

Monty27 · 16/02/2013 21:06

Naffola

WTF? Confused

MolotovCocktail · 16/02/2013 21:06

It's just a lighthearted thing, IMHO. It depends on context, I s'pose.

EuroShagmore · 16/02/2013 21:08

My parents used to do one for me. I knew it was them but played along. :)

LindyHemming · 16/02/2013 21:08

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Annunziata · 16/02/2013 21:08

I give my DC Valentines, it's just a lighthearted wee card.

hippo123 · 16/02/2013 21:08

Personally I've never Quite understood why an adult would get a child a valentines day card or a child make an adult one. To me it's a thing between two adults in love. I know many would disagree though. Yanbu

CockyFox · 16/02/2013 21:08

It is weird but people do it. My uncle sends my cousin flowers every valentines day has done as long as I can remember she is a married mum now but he still does it. Even weirder is it is always the sane flowes he sends to my Aunt (his wife) and his sister.

SchroSawMargeryDaw · 16/02/2013 21:08

I don't think it's weird and would hope that if DP and I have a girl that he would give one to her.

I think it's lovely and you can get many valentines cards that aren't 'romantic'.

AuntieMaggie · 16/02/2013 21:09

I always got a card from my dad. Nothing weird about it. In other countries its a day for all types of love (friendships etc) not just romantic love.

mynewpassion · 16/02/2013 21:09

Isn't Valentine's about love? I think it's sweet.

CockyFox · 16/02/2013 21:10

Same flowers not sane flowes.

mum11970 · 16/02/2013 21:11

My dh has always bought the dds valentine cards. Eldest is 23, lives with her partner and son and still got one off dad this year. It's just a bit of fun.

wonderingsoul · 16/02/2013 21:11

dc got one each from their great nan from the USA.. they werent lovey dovey ones atall. . one was spider man and the other toy story.. just saying funny poem and happy valentines we wish you where there.

I wouldn't do it but don't see the harm.

ThreeBeeOneGee · 16/02/2013 21:11

We write a Valentine's card for each of our DCs every year, with a little letter inside telling them how much we love them and how proud we are of them. We tell them these things on the other 364 days too, but it's a nice thing for them to keep.

Nellabutterfly · 16/02/2013 21:12

I used to get one from my dad. It was kind of half embarrassing, and half nice... the embarrassment was more because I didn't get one from anybody else!

If that's your family tradition then fine... would be a bit odd to start now if he'd never done this before, though. IMO.

NobbyClark · 16/02/2013 21:12

Our dd puts loads into the day (she is 10) and sends boys in her class cards and gets really excited about the chance of her getting one back.

Last year she didn't get be in the morning and was soooo gutted so my dad sent her a mystery one. This year DH sent her a mystery one. Then dd2(4) got upset so I had to send her one too......... Grin

AuntieMaggie · 16/02/2013 21:12

And I made all my workmates cakes for valentines to show that I care...

and tbh when I was a teen getting a card from.my dad was better than getting none esp as he didn't sign them so I could pretend they were from someone else to my mates!

ShowOfHands · 16/02/2013 21:13

DD made a card for me at school. I put a card in her bookbag. It's just a sign of affection.

It's only weird if you hang weird ideas from it.

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FatPenguin · 16/02/2013 21:13

But isn't it meant to be about romance? If it was just about people you love then surely you'd send cards to all people you love e.g like Christmas..

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wonderingsoul · 16/02/2013 21:13

why do girls only get them to the poster who mentioned if they had a girl they would do it.

applesandbears · 16/02/2013 21:14

I once made one for my brother on moonpig. It was sent through he post and it took him ages to work out it was from me!!

Dd2 came home from school with heart pictures for me and DH.

Monty27 · 16/02/2013 21:14

Giving dcs cards is not in the original spirit of the St V celebration in the UK. Aside from the fact it's more commercial crap.

aldiwhore · 16/02/2013 21:18

My Dad did this for me one year, his intentions were good, but I felt rotten... not only did no boy my own age fancy me (because when you're 12, fancy is a far as you think) but my parents obviously knew, felt sorry for me and thought that it would cheer me up. It didn't.

I guess it depends how you view Valentine's Day... I always viewed it from a romance perspective, therefore, we wouldn't think of sending our kids Valentine's Day cards. Some people see it as a day about 'love' in all it's forms, so for them it's not weird.

YABU... even though you may view it as romantic love, other might not.

We don't really celebrate it asfor us a) it's just commercial tat b) it feels a bit enforced romance, which for me is not romantic and c) no one really knows who the fuck St Valentine was, and even those who do couldn't possibly reason that Cupid was in anyway involved, different religion. (But if you like it, do it and be happy).

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FatPenguin · 16/02/2013 21:18

Can you get v'day cards with son or daughter on them then? The ones MIL had got were 'to the one I love' type ones..

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