To wonder what reasons people give for being willing to accept an organ but not donate

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What the title says really.

I am happy for all my organs to be donated when I'm gone. I'd also accept an organ transplant if I was in that position. I know there are religious reaons for not donating certain organs but I do wonder how people can rationalise not donating organs if they are willing to accept.

I think it is very emotive. My mum died and may have been saved with a liver transplant (she was not an alcoholic, it was cancer). Clearly, people have the right not to be on the register and not to donate.

TBH before this thread I have never ever heard anyone say that they would accept an organ but would never donate. Perhaps I am just shocked or maybe naive

'Entirely dependant on cause of death- but I would like them to be intact and un violated '

Hope they never need a post mortem then.

Tantrums my judgement of such attitudes is not impacting on what I am doing. I never said I wouldn't do it. I find it distasteful but I would never not donate because of my opinion.

I see what you are saying MaryZ

But I would donate my organs to anyone, even though if my dcs needed it, they would not reciprocate.

I dont do if for that reason. I do it because I would help anyone if I could. I am on the bone marrow register. I have never been matched but id do it without a second thought if I was.
Because I think its the right thing to do.

I cant judge people who make choices that are different to mine. Because it is just that, their choice.
I can disagree with the reasoning behind it and make different choices myself but I would let someone elses decision put me off doing what I think I need to do.

'I didn't know that Weegiesmum - why the hell don't they just put it back where it was meant to be, even though it's not going to be of use'

Sometimes they must retain the brain and/or other organs. You bury them with your loved one later on. Your loved one is dead, they are not coming back and their body does not go with them.

Personally, I don't think adults should be able to accept an organ without being a registered donor themselves and favour an opt-out policy, so those who opt out can be excluded from any transplant list should they need an organ.

I'm not suggesting you should tell him what to do.

I also would not want moral requirements put on recipients, and agree with Roger that it's a good thing donors don't get to choose. That doesn't stop me thinking that I'd prefer someone who was wasn't so selfish about this to get an organ.

I was particularly struck by the fact that when a dead body is prepared for burial, among other things, the cadaver is cut open so all organs are removed from the body and soaked in embalming fluid.

baby then I apologise, but your post read as if you were almost "put off" donating in case someone who didnt choose to donate got your organs.

And tbh I try very hard not to judge anyone based on one decision that I have a different opinion about. I find it doesnt help at all. It is upsetting. And it takes away from the unselfishness of giving IMVHO

I know Maryz I suppose I have just never thought about it before. :(

I have been awakened to such attitudes!

I do think they should have a op out system

Tantrums I did say that, I suppose I worded it wrongly. That is not really what I meant. I would never not do it because of this. I think I have just been shocked about such an emotive subject for me.

I'm always puzzled when people say can't bear the thought of a loved person's body being mutilated after death. Corpses get eaten if they don't get burnt.

YYY to everything Maryz has said.

I am in the organ doner list,as are DS and DD. I can't understand why anyone wouldn't. Breaks my heart that so many lose their lives waiting for something that we won't need.

Expat - I am fully aware the loved one is dead and the body does not go 'up' with them - please don't patronise me. If you had read the earlier posts, you would see that I fully support organ donation.

I was responding to the poster who said that the brain is sewn back into the abdomen after a PM - it just seemed somewhat strange that if it is going back into the body, why on earth not just put in back in the head. Maybe the pathologist was never taught to put things back where they got them from

Tantrums I find it depends entirely on the one decision and the magnitude of selfishness in my personal scale.

I think the decision to accept but not to donate is a particularly selfish one that would colour my view of that person's whole character. Everything else they did would have to be pretty damn selfless to outweigh it in my mind.

Yes it makes sense MaryZ it does.

Sorry, I misread, you did not say 'up'

Right so theyay be cut up and all that but they would still be crated with all their body parts. And its not a case of saying my dc are worth more than others it's just a desire that they go with all their organs etc.

In terms of living donation of my dc or dp needed a kidney or something I would give them it in a heart beat

*cremated not crated sorry on phone

So better burned than saving somebody else's life. I think that is an unforgivable attitude.