What the title says really.
I am happy for all my organs to be donated when I'm gone. I'd also accept an organ transplant if I was in that position. I know there are religious reaons for not donating certain organs but I do wonder how people can rationalise not donating organs if they are willing to accept.
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To wonder what reasons people give for being willing to accept an organ but not donate
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crashdoll · 13/02/2013 20:20
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DomesticCEO ·
16/02/2013 10:54
That was very prophetic 
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Sounds like he lived his short life to the max 
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AThingInYourLife ·
16/02/2013 11:21
"I would never judge anyone saying no in that situation"
Me neither.
But someone who can sit in full health and think about this issue dispassionately and decide that they will not donate but happily cause other people to die so they can take an organ are psychopathic in their selfishness.
I have been trying to figure out why my reaction to this has been so extreme. I feel physical revulsion at the idea that there are many people out there that think that way and believe it is acceptable.
That even consider themselves to be moral people as they make a choice that shows they believe other people's lives to be of very little importance.
So unimportant that squeamishness basically justifies allowing them to die for lack of something you think you should have if you needed it.
People have been saying that unless you've known someone on the list, you don't understand. And I thought (and still think to a certain extent) that there has to be an incredible failure of imagination and compassion not to get it on any level at all.
But I remember now when my friend and mentor was on the heart transplant lists. And how horrific it is to know someone you care about is going to die unless someone else loses their life prematurely, in a horrible way.
And then he got a heart. And we knew that other people, just as desperate, had not received it so he could have it. Their chances of dying increased so he could live.
But he didn't live :(
The transplant wasn't successsful. And that most precious thing he had been given, that heart that could have saved a life, that almost saved a life, died too.
And the thought of that waste, that he died anyway and someone else could have been saved with that heart, was terrible.
When you agree to go on the transplant list, you know that you might be given an organ that could have saved someone else. And they might die so you can live.
To be prepared to put yourself on that list, in the cold light of day, knowing that you would never have been prepared to donate an organ had things been different, is so profoundly immoral I can't understand how a person could live with themselves if they thought that way.
As I said earlier, it's the basic evil of humanity that people will exploit each other in that way.
"he says that if people are willing to donate, that's their choice."
Loathsome.
Somethingtothinkabout ·
16/02/2013 17:00
Athing, I'm not badgering my DP into signing up, or telling him he's "loathsome", it's his choice, as it's everyone's choice. He feels the way he does, he said he might change his mind in time and I think he will to, I'll be gracious enough to let him make a personal decision all by himself so that if/when he changes his mind it's his decision.
FWIW, we spoke to my mum about it too, who is co Intensive Care nurse of 40 years experience. She said she would really struggle to agree to donate any of our organs because she's seen the way it's done and described it as a "smash and grab" where there is no dignity given to the doner
She's noted my wishes though.
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