for flouting hospital 'no sibling' rule for ebf baby?

[StarlightMcKenzie]

DS had an operation yesterday. He needed me to be there. Breastfed baby also needed me.

I took my Aunt to look after my ds and we were sent initially to a waiting room. The plan was for her to keep him there and for me to pop out of the ward to feed him.

However, we were there for half an hour and my ds started to ask for a feed, so I started to bf. Literally 2 sucks in, we were called. I pulled him off and he screamed so I jigged him about (which quietens him as a distraction) and moved towards the ward with him in tow.

The nurse told me he wasn't allowed. I told her that I needed to finish his feed and then I would take him back to my aunt. I offered to vrubg ds ub 10 mins but she got arsey saying that ds would have to have his operation cancelled if he missed his slpt. Nurse started tutting about him disturbing the other patients and that there was a strict no-sibling rule that I knew about as it was in the letter (it was).

so WIBU?

Sam, I had a potential tribunal case when my baby was a week old. That was very worrying for me. We settled, so it didn't happen. The accomodation I was seeking then was bringing court date forward if accomodation could not be made.

I didn't make any point. He was asleep. He woke up. My experience of hospitals is that there is a lot of waiting at the start. In fact there was, but the nurse came for us to do the waiting in the ward much much earlier than I expected based on my experience.

I did misjudge it. Baby was gone within 10 minutes and never went on the ward again, as I was able to pop out. If I was making a point I would have kept him with me, aunt as well.

George, DS hadn't had an anaesthetic. I just wanted to finish an already started feed whilst waiting for the various paper-work.

OP what are you talking about. I didn't say arrange your weaning around an unplanned operation. I was talking about weaning guidlines.

Your child is around 8 months, Is that correct?

The questions you don't want to answer are
How old is the baby?
and why post in aibu if you are so convinced you are reasonable.

Tbh I am out now. You clearly think that hospital rules don't apply to you and didn't even bother to ring ahead.

Then to drip feed your ds has SN, which is why other options are out. This thread is getting a bit silly.

Clearly you think you are reasonable OP.

There was very little in the way of contact with the hospital beforehand. I didn't even have a number for the department. However, I would on reflection call them and explain. I didn't envisage there being a problem as I had made arrangements for my aunt to keep baby away from the ward anyway.

My baby is a young 7 months. He doesn't eat every day. I have already confirmed the age. Why don't you read the thread.

I have posted in AIBU for the same reason everyone else does. For a discussion. You are so convinced you are right but a lot of posters here don't agree with you either.

Can I ask a question? If your aunt was there to be with the baby, and you were on the ward with your DS, where were you planning on feeding the baby? Because all you have said is that you couldn't have the baby making a fuss in the waiting room- but surely that was going to happen anyway.

nef Your post is out of order. My ds' SN has nothing to do with my OP and does not have any implications for my situation.

I was explaining to one poster who asked, why being invited into a theatre wasn't something I felt especially grateful for. My baby was long gone by that point and wasn't involved in the theatre aspect.

You don't need a crystal ball, you should just have fed your ds before arriving in the hospital. Yes there is waiting but at least your ds wouldn't have screamed down the waiting room if he had woken up and you weren't there. It is common sense to plan ahead. Your older ds needed you there so your younger ds feeding should revolve around that.

No need to send an email, they didn't stop you feeding or sent you away.

Why would my baby make a fuss in the waiting room? He never makes any fuss anywhere else provided he is fed. If he isn't, he's louder than a fire alarm. He might coo a little and clap his hands. You can usually shut him up with a rice cake for entertainment when he isn't hungry.

I did feed him before arriving at the hospital, but he wouldn't take it as he was too sleepy. He woke when he was more hungry than sleepy. That was in the waiting room.

Yanbu. Your baby is ebf. The nhs want you to breastfeed so why can't they facilitate this. I had a similar issue when dd was readmitted due to weight loss. A right cow of a nurse made be feel 20.times worse than I already felt by basically saying that the other babies on the neonatal were there through no fault of their own but my big full term baby should not be there. Also said they say breasfeeding is best but and than trailed off. Also denied me access to a breast pump. I really should have complained. Incidently baby is now doing well and is ebf.

Because he was hungry and because you would be on the ward with your older son? Or am I misreading?

Why couldn't you have just expressed before hand in case something like this happened?

YABU. The letter clearly stated the rules. It is not important what the reasons are. The rules are the rules and you knew you wouldn't be able to take your baby on to the ward. If they had to bend them for you, they have to bend them for everyone.

Why is it when people know the rules, they alway think there should be a slight exception for them!

You are going around in circles with your own argument OP, you can't say that there should be exceptions made for EBF babies when you have confirmed that the main reason your baby will not take expressed bottles or other food is the comfort he gets from breast feeding. Maybe all the other parents there had other children that equally needed comfort. It is how it is when you have more than one child, you will always be pulled in different directions, but the hospital have these rules in place for ALL, and their priority is their patients, not you.

Ah, your aunt was supposed to be with your son. Apologies!

I used to 'top up' Ds if I knew bfing wherever we were going might be a bit tricky. Can't really do that with a small baby but from about 5 months onward it should be an option.

I think the crux of the matter is the fact the ward was not prepareed for you to turn up with baby in tow.
As I have said,I would have been very willing to accomodate situation had I known prior to op day.
As they didn;t know what I do think would be unreasonable would be for you to complain about your treatment.

Big, my aunt was there to look after the baby in the waiting room. She cannot sign the consent forms for my son.

' you have confirmed that the main reason your baby will not take expressed bottles or other food is the comfort he gets from breast feeding.'

Where have I said that. I have said that I cannot express.

Additionally ds only seems to be prepared to drink from the breast, probably for comfort. Either way. I can't change that at the moment.

Well, same question again then :)

Bigsilky, ds will scream if he wakes up hungry, sees me and I walk off. He's a bit more patient if I'm not actually there, though would have needed feeding soon.

However, you would NOT want to be in a room with ds, if I had actually picked him up and put him on the breast for 2 sucks before pulling him off and walking away.

Congratulations city. You must be very proud