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to not understand why so many people are 'proud' of babies rolling over, crawling, walking etc?

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HiggsBoson · 27/01/2013 21:21

Unimportant bollocks I know, but humor me :)

I have a 3yo DD. Lately I'm noticing more and more people on facebook and in general conversation going on about how very proud they are that "DS rolled over" or "DD crawled"

As for toileting Hmm

I've always felt that pride is an ugly thing and hand on heart I have never been proud of DD Crawling, walking or taking a shit. I mean, these are human bodily functions and surely no reflection on your offspring's intelligence or your capability as a parent? So what's to be proud of?

Sure - when DD is a little older and does something for someone else of her own volition as an act of kindness, then yes, I might be proud of that. If she helps people and achieves happiness for herself and others then I might also be proud of her for that. But rolling? Nah.

Am I being a twat?

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louise3louise3 · 27/01/2013 23:17

I have twins who arrived 11 weeks early, almost died with their lungs collapsing, e-coli because some idiot didn't clean the delivery bed I gave birth on. I didn't see them when they were born and had to wait 6 hours to be told they would not survive. 8 weeks later I was 'allowed' finally skin to skin contact and my 8 year old was finally given permission to see his sisters who had been ventilated and in isolation. Now they are nearly 4 and one of them still can't toilet herself and yes My husband and I will be F proud when she finally asks to use the toilet, when she's able to hold a crayon and scribble, when she's able to communicate like her twin! God help your child because no one else will.

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HiggsBoson · 27/01/2013 23:17

Bollocks MrsKeithRichards.

Quite the opposite.

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threesocksmorgan · 27/01/2013 23:17

yabu though how ever poor you are

WhitePeacock · 27/01/2013 23:18

I'm really struggling with Thumper's dad's dictum, "If you can't say something nice..." here.

OP is it any, ANY skin off your rosy nose if somebody else has a little brag about their beloved offspring?

Have you considered deactivating your Facebook account?

MrsDeVere · 27/01/2013 23:18

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HiggsBoson · 27/01/2013 23:19

I was answering MrsDeVers's post threesocks.

I do not fit in with the ipad owning, Boden wearing norm of MN

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HiggsBoson · 27/01/2013 23:19

Haha - some hypocrisy there I'll warrant :D

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MurderOfGoths · 27/01/2013 23:20

If you read kungfu's post you'll see that SN is only a part of it.

Are parent's who've lost a child not allowed to be proud of milestones their live child reach?
Parents who took a long time to conceive?
Parents with PND?
Etc etc.

What do you think are valid reasons to be proud?

devientenigma · 27/01/2013 23:20

Three socks isn't on an iPad either

TandB · 27/01/2013 23:20

Well I'm off to bed. I'm hoping that DS2 might manage a spoon tomorrow to add to his fork-related triumph today.

If he does I shall cheer and clap like a lunatic and squeal "Oooooh who's a clever baby then? Is it you? Is it? Is it? I think you is the cleverest baby in the whole wide world" while DS1 looks at me with this face Hmm

And then I shall post it on Facebook and I reckon at least ten people will pretend to be equally excited. That might be just because their humouring me of course - but then again I'll do the same for them. Because I like them.

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HiggsBoson · 27/01/2013 23:21

But YOU KNOW I don't mean that :)

Just spoiling that's what you are ;)

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HiggsBoson · 27/01/2013 23:22

Strangely enough, at no point have I abused anyone or told anyone to 'fuck off' :)

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SneakyNuts · 27/01/2013 23:22
Hmm
MrsKeithRichards · 27/01/2013 23:22

That norm you speak of is bollocks, I don't think my last post was though.

SneakyNuts · 27/01/2013 23:23

No, but do did ask if you are being a twat.

The answer is yes.

lockets · 27/01/2013 23:23

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SneakyNuts · 27/01/2013 23:23

*you

MrsDeVere · 27/01/2013 23:23

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threesocksmorgan · 27/01/2013 23:24

devientenigma does not wear Bodem

Altinkum · 27/01/2013 23:24

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loofet · 27/01/2013 23:24

Yabu... and very harsh.

I am proud of my dc every day because they are my babies and they fill me with love and pride, surely that is natural and normal? Doesn't matter whether every baby rolls/crawls/walks etc. its still a special moment when YOUR baby does it because you watch them grow every day and that is a part of their journey..

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HiggsBoson · 27/01/2013 23:25

Haha - Higgs Boson?

Honestly gave it no thought. Was on the news that day.

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devientenigma · 27/01/2013 23:25

And I'm not on my iPad lol

MurderOfGoths · 27/01/2013 23:26

"I just feel pride if I think my children have lacheived something they have been trying to achieve."

Yes, this, absolutely!

I watched DS try and try and try to get his leg to move forward so he could steal reach my phone. Was is a sign of intelligence? No. Was it something I made happen? No. Was I incredibly proud when he managed it? Oh yes, because he kept trying and didn't give up, and he'd learnt he could do something new. Do I need any more reason to be proud??

Softlysoftly · 27/01/2013 23:26

You can be poor and a snob, my Auntie manages it quite well.

Just saying.