To be a bit shocked about a friend giving her six month old cake?

[ElphabaTheGreen]

At lunch today, a friend ordered a piece of Victoria sponge for pudding, sliced off a fair chunk (jam, buttercream and all) and fed it to her six month old, after this baby had had some kind of veggie mush, fruit purée, a petit filou and a rusk.

I have an 8mo and all this (esp cake) strikes me as sugar overload or AIBU and would other people do this?

(I said nothing to friend, by the way, and I'm reasonably sure my face remained neutrally arranged...just wondering if I'm being PFB about what I give DS.)

It does seem an awful lot for a small baby

I know several people who would give their 6mo cake-my mil tried to give my son chocolate cake at his baptism when he was 4 and a half months :-O I don't think YABU to not give your child cake at 6mo, but I suppose it's upto your friend what she does, her child and all that. Lots of jar/packet babyfoods are full of sugar apparently, so perhaps cake isn't that bad in comparison.

Yanbu as I wouldn't give it all to a baby at once (wouldn't give petit filou, rusk or cake to 10 month DD at all but that's just me).

However it doesn't really matter to anyone else what your friend feeds her baby so well done for not commenting on it.

Probably less sugar in that than in the fruit purée, petit filous and the rusk to be honest. I wouldn't get too uptight about it.

I would probably do that if my baby had just eaten a healthy meal and I was having cake. It's not going to hurt anything.

I'd have no issue with a small bit of cake but it does sound rather a lot of solids in total!

Chill the fuck out. It wont hurt baby.

Everybody needs cake.

I wouldn't give cake to a baby under one year, that meal souds awful with way too much sugar.

I'd have no problem with it. I shoved cake at my lot when they were about this age.

There's a lot of sugar in petit filous and rusks, probably more than the cake.

I probably wouldn't have given my six month old cake, the occasional bit won't hurt. But yes it's a lot of sugar altogether.

Meh, just a treat I'd assume, since you were out and about. Unless she's giving the baby cake with every meal I doubt it will hurt. It's nice to try new things.

what's wrong with cake? as long as baby had it with a cup of coffee!

seriously though, who gives a 6 months old cake as described above?

my oldest had no chocolate or ice cream or cake anything like that until his 1st birthday - so I generally try/have tried to keep to that with all the others.

I admit I got less and less strict with each, for example I let DS5 had a bit of Easter choc at 10 months and DD (6th) had a small piece of choc brioche on Christmas day at 8 months, as a one off, but it seems this person does it routinely, so that's really bad!

never mind the jam and the sponge, but butter cream? how was this kid not sick?

YANBU!

It's not something I'd have fed my own dd. Each to their own I suppose.

I don't really see why you are 'Shocked' sounds like judgey pants to me. Cake isn't going to kill the baby nor make it obese

My ds didn't have any cake, biscuits, chocolate or anything similar until about 18 months. I accept I might have been a little on the extreme end.

None of your business really, though, so YABU.

I've given my baby tastes of cake, but that's it. Tastes. No fair sized chunks, no petit filou (full of sugar) and she only has half a rusk as a dessert or snack in replacement of something else.

All that in one meal sounds like too much sugar.

YANBU to be shocked, but definitely leave her to it and just bring your own kids up as you see fit.

ElphabaTheGreen - Yep PFB IMHO. It's really not a problem

Why do people get 'shocked' about what other people feed their kids?

You feed your DC what you want, and let others do the same! It is cake not IV crack cocaine!

Was it a Space cake? No? Then untwist your pants and shut up.

YAnbu to be a bit shocked about it but it is her baby and if she wants to overload it with sugar then it really is up to her

my baby has been on baby rice since 8 weeks to ease reflux that was severe, now at just a week from being 1 eats most of my homemade meals (no salt etc) and has been on cows milk since 6months (again due to reflux) and has had check ups with gp and hospital (in with bronchitis) and is a very healthy happy little girl. its all about moderation a small taste of cake is not going to hurt anyone and quite a stupid thing to judge!

Waynetta cake isn't some kind of essential food so introducing it to a baby when it's full of sugar and little nutrition beyond fat and carbs (remember the buttercream and jam too) in large amounts is reinforcing its position as a staple and not as a very infrequent treat, as cake should be.

(Not aimed at Waynetta) I know people like to think babies don't remember anything before they're two years old, but they do make associations without realising it, they do remember tastes and it's easy to fall into bad habits, so why let it happen earlier?

Remember a baby doesn't know what something tastes like so it's not like they're missing out if they don't get cake.

Of course you're more than aware of how much sugar is in breast milk right? You're not just being an interfering judgey wally right?

I read it that the OP wasn't 'shocked' that the baby had cake in isolation more that he/she was given cake after fruit, petit filous and a rusk. Which does seem a lot of sugar in one sitting.

I wouldn't give all that together to my 16mo! He does get treats, the odd bit of chocolate and such but all at once.

I wouldn't have batted an eyelid at seeing a 6mo being given 1 of those things but together it is too much.