To be a bit shocked about a friend giving her six month old cake?

[ElphabaTheGreen]

At lunch today, a friend ordered a piece of Victoria sponge for pudding, sliced off a fair chunk (jam, buttercream and all) and fed it to her six month old, after this baby had had some kind of veggie mush, fruit purée, a petit filou and a rusk.

I have an 8mo and all this (esp cake) strikes me as sugar overload or AIBU and would other people do this?

(I said nothing to friend, by the way, and I'm reasonably sure my face remained neutrally arranged...just wondering if I'm being PFB about what I give DS.)

[ElphabaTheGreen]

I did put a bikiepeg in the microwave steriliser once. Still scraping off the residue....

(Sterile food...? )

[Pobblewhohasnotoes]

No it's not ok to put baby rice in a bottle, ever.

[ElphabaTheGreen]

Baby is definitely not BLWed. Cake was sort of pushed into her mouth.

[SchroSawMargeryDaw]

Ever put a water filled teether in a sterilser?

[GiveMeSomeSpace]

Why is it far too much food? If was a piece of cake on top of everything else for EVERY MEAL, then yes. But it isn't is it?

Get some perspective

[MarianneM]

monkey

I think you'd find it is possible to chill out and wean a baby properly.

The baby might not keel over but it could be the start of bad eating habits and problems with weight, teeth etc.

Is that the sugar crash making you swear so much?

Chillax.

[SchroSawMargeryDaw]

Veggie mash, fruit puree, rusk, petit filous and cake.

Do you actually think that is a suitable amount of food for one meal for a 6mo? And I have no idea if it is the same at every meal, do you actually know either?

[andtheycalleditbunnylove]

to whom was she giving the six-month-old cake?

[GiveMeSomeSpace]

MarianneM What gives children problems with bad eating habits, weight and bad teeth is when they have this sort of thing more often than not.

Just the same as overweight adults are almost always in that position because of what they eat more often than not.

Perspective

[SchroSawMargeryDaw]

All that listed and baby rice in a bottle doesn't sound like good building blocks for a healthy diet.

[Callmedoe]

You are being extremely unreasonable to refer to it as a Victoria Sponge when it is in fact a Victoria Sandwich! I just told off for this on another thread by Nick and Kate.

[achillea]

Very bad idea to give children sugar - it is addictive and baby will have highs and lows. If she pushed the cake into her mouth I suggest you keep an eye on this parent.

[MammaTJ]

Fakebook I am at your baby being allowed up at this time of night.

Honestly OP, she was having cake and probably felt mean eating it in front of her baby. I doubt she does it often though, so don't worry about it.

[ElphabaTheGreen]

andtheycalleditbunnylove Oh YOU!

Yes, I suppose it is VU to give anyone such an elderly piece of cake, much less an infant. Maybe HoneyBadger will come back now.

[MarianneM]

GiveMeSomeSpace

Which the OP's friend's baby might be.

The OP's friend weaned her baby much earlier than recommended, putting baby rice in the baby's bottle, against advice.

Cake and sugary yogurt at 6 months.

I think the pattern is clear.

[Callmedoe]

Other than that its none of your business what anyone else feeds anyone elses baby other than your own. Mind your own beeswax seems to be a phrase that needs to be used a lot on Mum's net

[ElphabaTheGreen]

HoneyBadger? HoneyDRAGON sorry. Not enough cake, see.

[ElectricSheep]

I'd have a word or ring NSPCC - her baby is clearly going to get fat. How poor exactly are they? Does your friend have ASBO?

[Pobblewhohasnotoes]

Actually if someone I knew was putting baby rice in a bottle I'd point them towards feeding guidelines and why it's dangerous and also unnecessary. I don't always agree that things should be ignored.

But I'm also a health professional so I can get away with it!

[KitCat26]

Meh. Sweet things aren't the work of the devil.

Veg, fruit, yoghurt (albeit sugar filled). Not too bad so far.
Rusk and cake, and the latter is a one off. Not the end of the world. (Rusks are foul though.)

I was stupidly pfb with DD1. She was blw, no sweets/chocolate/cake until over a year. I chilled with DD2 and she has the more varied appetite now.

[ElphabaTheGreen]

Pobblewhohasnotoes I did gently point out the baby rice in a bottle thing. Her response was that 'it has never been a problem for me or my sisters'. She and I are both health professionals.

[HoneyDragon]

Ok. But don't post any more scary stuff about cake withholding.

[Alibabaandthe40nappies]

Petite Filou is worse than cake.

But relax.

The best thing a parent can do for a child around food is relax about it and offer them a variety.
Being too restrictive of 'treats' can be as bad as giving too many.

[amazingmumof6]

Pobblewhohasnotoes"at six months old babies can eat anything" really?

they are generally not allowed the following till at least 12 months old :

• raw honey (risk of botulism leading to breathing difficulties, being paralyzed, in a come or worse)
  
  
• raw eggs, or soft.runny eggs
  
  
• any salt!!!!
  
  
• most nuts and seeds (ground almonds and desiccated coconuts are ok)
  
  
• shellfish
  
  
• soft and blue veined cheeses
  
  

• liver and pate - (ok from 9 months, but in small quantities)
  

• anything that's not pasteurized or fully cooked through, but should be
  

- raspberries, strawberries

- raw carrots
(if there's too much nitrogen in the soil carrots will store a lot of nitrogen and if ingested raw can cause serious problems as the gut is not mature enough to deal with it - it's very similar to divers'sickness, blue lips, breathing problems, coma or worse)

• coffee, tea, fizzy drinks - anything containing caffeine - and also alcohol!!!
  

- sugary drinks & foods



best to avoid till 12 months old, IF anyone in the immediate family is already allergic;

• cow's milk as main form of milk and any dairy products (obviously formula milk is OK for most!!!)
  

- deadly night-shade family

- butter

- soya products

- vinegar

- citrus fruits

........and the list goes on


enjoy!

[MrsOakenshield]

that's a hell of a lot of food for a 6 month old. I daresay I was pfb but DD didn't have cake till her 1st birthday, and then didn't have cake regularly again (so only at birthdays) till she was 2. Cake is a treat, as is chocolate. She's not especially interested in food and doesn't eat much, but she doesn't need to, she's only 3.

Bad eating habits as a baby could easily result in a child like that poor girl there was a thread about recently, who's parents overloaded her with food, were obese themselves (as it transpired) and were utterly clueless about how much food was the correct amount for a 5 year old. Perhaps if more people spoke out t there would be fewer obese children in this country. Not a popular viewpoint on MN I know.