to buy my son a valentine card so that he definitely gets one?

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Can't decide if it is a good idea or not. On the one hand I want him to feel good about himself and popular (and know he would be happy to receive one and to be sble to say he got one when his friends were discussing it) but on the other hand I know it's a lie and he would be devastated if he found out so I would
tell no one, not even my partner (his dad).

no don't do it

How old is your ds?

thats creepy, sorry, but it is

Nah, don't
How old is he btw?

No, please, please don't get him one. It will only go wrong.

Nope I wouldn't. Whats to say all his mates get one anyway.

Sorry but he's 11. I just think if he doesn't get one he will feel bad and I'm trying to avoid that.

What makes you think he won't get one anyway?

my stepmum did this when i was about 15, i knew her writing. it wasnt off my then boyfriend and it massively freaked me out :) made me think she was more of a loon than i already did. It also crossed my mind that she may have wanted me to flash it about all proud just so she could embarrass me. Dont do it.

Well unfortunately sometimes children get disappointed in life, it's just something they all have to learn to deal with. Besides, if he finds out he will be furious.

I wouldn't get one.

No, don't do it. I think that's worse than not getting any at all. Generally I knew who any Valentines I got were from (normally some saddo that fancied me, never anyone I wanted to go out with)

Do 11yr old boys really give a shit about this sort of thing?

He's 11. He doesn't need a card

Lolling! In some ways I do know it's a bad idea and would be awful if he found out - that's why I would tell nobody. I think the fact that I would then have to do it for the rest of his life is enough to stop me

Valentines is just one day to be about about love and fun and not sex. I always got one from my father and it wasn't creepy in the least. However this was 30 years ago so perhaps sadly it might be weird now.

Why would you think an 11 year needs a valentine card? You don't want him to feel left out? How many of his friends will be getting cards?
Sorry for all the questions, but seriously op it's a really wierd thing to do.

11!! boy, children are starting young these days!

Who knows someone may get him one anyway. If not, I guess it's a first lesson in life about the cruel twists and turns of love.

Oh that is quite creepy, OP. Definitely worse than getting none. Besides surely no one even needs valentine's cards?

Nooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo

I always send my DC Valentines! Go for it!

My 11 year old would die of embarrassment at getting a valentine's card from ANYONE!

My dad sent me a Valentines every year. I really knew it was him, but I liked it all the same.