To think refusing to walk in the snow because you're pregnant is a little ridiculous?

[Catsnotrats]

OK you can all slate me if you want as I haven't been pregnant myself and am only basing this on instinct rather than any fact.

However a friend and colleague of mine is 13 weeks pregnant and has been 'banned' by her dh from walking anywhere while it is snowy, including to work which is a 15 min walk for her. They don't drive so she has been housebound all weekend. We live in london so it's not a case of 10 feet drifts. She is quite happy to go along with this, and is planning on getting a taxi tomorrow instead. I'd have personally thought that driving in the snow with an unknown driver is more dangerous than walking.

I know this is non of my business really, it's just that I'm getting a but fed up with her extreme preciousness since she's been pregnant (she was generally sane before!). I've had a number of friends and colleagues who have been pregnant and I've never been irritated by them being cautious about various things before. It's just her and her constant pfb behaviour before they are even here that is driving me mad!

Ok rant over, and as I said you can all give me a virtual slap if you like.

I haven't read all your replies yet...but a virtual slap is coming your way!

I fell when I was 30 weeks pregnant on ice and ended up in hospital.

I've lost before, and this baby had been very long awaited (years!) and yes very precious to me even before he was born. Not only that, when I fell, a man happily watched me, visibly pregnant lying on my bump, and walked right past!

You say this woman is your friend?

I don't think much of your friend's friend. Tell her she needs to get a new one & get rid of you.

Why does snow always bring out these judgey, oh its only a bit of snow types. Yes, some people are a bit over careful when it snows (not talking about pregnant women btw) but I find far more irritating the types who snowboard across fields and mountains to get to work in feet of snow and then go around preening themselves and making belittling remarks about other people who decided to play it safe.

atthewells couldnt agree more. I have started a similiar thread in pregnancy saying expressing a concern about leaving work slightly earlier when it was heavily snowing on Fri to pick up my toddler and worried about falling as I am (now) 10 weeks pg. Just wanted to leave earlier so could be more cautious when walking in the ice and snow...wow you should read some of the unsympathetic and frankly quite bitchy replies. Some of us are cautious during adverse weather.

milf not sure tbh! I didn't realise it is not normally given under 12 weeks. I wonder if it is because the bleeding is ongoing, so may continue until after 12 weeks? I asked my midwife if I needed it, she said yes, and to ask the consultant when I see them next week how often I will need top ups. Great thing about mumsnet, I learn something new every day :)

I had a friend who took it very, very easy, especially in the first trimester. You know why? She'd had a miscarriage previously and even though deep down she knew that nothing she had done had caused it her mind raced with all the possibilities. What if she'd lifted too much at work etc, etc.

It's also perfectly normal to feel incredibly proctective over your unborn baby, aware that your the one keeping him or her alive and that, for the first time ever, someone, a life, is totally dependant on you.

Her concern, worry, protectiveness etc is, quite frankly, none of your business. It's not hurting anyone so YABU. People react to things in different ways.

Yes but does ANYBODY really care whether somebody snowboards to work or takes a taxi? No, they don't. People generally couldn't care less what other people do unless it impacts them so all the medical horror stories and vitriol about not knowing somebody's personal reasons is really irrelevant. Nobody would ever say to anybody - pregnant or not - that they should/shouldn't walk in the snow. I've never seen or heard that in RL... only on MN where it's an almost daily occurrence. In RL nobody gives a fig... they really don't - not unless you make a 'thing' of it and draw them in to discussion. That's your choice.

The issue is that some people make a point of making their choices and the long drawn-out reasons for them - known to all and sundry. Do what you want but if you tend to 'drama', you're inviting comment even though most people will inwardly roll their eyes and ignore attention-seeking comments.

It wouldn't occur to me to seek approval for taking a taxi, walking on my hands or cartwheeling down the road. If I were pregnant, I'd think of what was best for me, the baby - and do it. No fuss, no drama.

i was heavily pregnant with twins a few years ago during a very snowy/icy spell and it was horrendous - my centre of balance had gone to pot, and i was living in a hilly, semi rural area where the lanes and footpaths were like an ice rink.

it's natural to be extra cautious when you're carrying a baby.........as other posters have said, maybe she has miscarried before so is being very cautious now. If you were pregnant, you'd probably find your 'instinct' was to protect the baby, and stuff what other people think.

Either way, none of your business and i hope your friends are more sympathetic to you if you ever find yourself being 'precious' about something.

Ha ha, the bit about her husband 'banning' her from walking made me vomit slightly, but other than that, I don't blame her for not wanting to if she can help it - the paths are really icy here and I'm avoiding walking anywhere if I can because I don't want to slip over - and I'm not pg.

I'm not pregnant, the snow isn't particularly bad where I am but the work I had planned for today can just as easily be done in the comfort of my home on the lap top instead of driving the car on slippery side roads to get out onto the main road and then worrying if it will snow more heavily before I get home again. So, I am working and mumsnetting from home. It's common sense and isn't affecting anyone else - although no doubt someone, somewhere at work is muttering to themselves that they managed to trek in all the way from the depths of somewhere or other...... That was their decision, I don't care.

I fell in the snow when 14 weeks pregnant with my DD. Ended up in hospital bleeding. It was the most terrifying time of my life. Thought i had lost her.

No, it's not. YABU. I was exactly the same. It took an age to conceive Ds1 and I was Rhesus negative. Why take silly risks?

atthewelles... and it is always so. Competitiveness over nothing at all, absolutely useless and pointless - but endemic in everything. Who has the worst time in hospital, who had the most organs out in one go, who had the biggest football-sized kidney stones, who had to scale the biggest glacier to get to work in the shortest time...

Laugh at them, then ignore... and enjoy working from home today.

I slipped over on ice at 28 weeks. Was incredibly scary. I lost our first baby at 17 weeks. I was already petrified about losing this one and then I went flying. Luckily everything was ok, but honestly, wish I hadn't gone out in the snow/ice that day.

YABU. How do you know she hasn't had a previous miscarriage? Or something that is making her being extra cautious?

Really don't see how this affects you in the slightest!

oh. And here's your virtual slap lol.

I've fallen over and hurt myself badly before, I wasn't pregnant but I hate to think what could have happened if I was.

As it stands, I gave birth two years ago in London when we had that really bad snow for a couple of weeks. I had to go to a funeral when I was 38 weeks and I was knee deep in snow then. I had to walk to the main road because the taxi wouldn't come down our street....scariest thing ever. My DH had to walk to the hospital when I was in labour because he couldn't get a taxi, bless him.

There was no snow around when I first fell pregnant, nor had I ever had a fall or any other injury. But after 15 years of ttc and the possibility that this would be my one and only pregnancy I am fairly sure lots of my friends rolled their eyes at me being very very cautious indeed!!!!!

Who cares how she gets to work?

Each to their own....I say. Some women are very worried about falling during pregnancy and I appreciate that, but I went ice skating when I was 2 months pregnant with my first baby. I'd been to my GP about something else and mentioned it to him and he thought it was fine! I did hold on to the sides a lot!

Thanks Lyingwitch. Am doing.

Oops. I'm 36 weeks and still working, which entails driving and walking in snow.

I have a friend who is very precious, and not going out much at all. Both she and her husband are older than me and DH. I wondered if this behaviour was due to being first time parents in their 40s.