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Original poster

To not let my daughter go to Newquay

103 replies

Karris73 · 15/01/2013 12:45

My daughter really wants to go to Newquay to celebrate completing her GCSEs and after reading online I have said no. Am I unreasonable

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Vagaceratops · 15/01/2013 12:47

It really depends on your DD. Is she sensible?

INeedThatForkOff · 15/01/2013 12:47

Reading what?

dexter73 · 15/01/2013 12:48

YANBU. My dd is the same age and she would only be going toNewquay over my dead body.

TheReturnoftheSmartArse · 15/01/2013 12:49

"Everyone's going, mum."

Yup, been there, done that. She didn't go. Nor did anyone else!

flurp · 15/01/2013 12:50

What happens in Newquay??
I thought it was just surfing and stuff.
I might go there myself if there is more to it.... Grin

HoneyDragon · 15/01/2013 12:52

Can you give her other options? I buggered off to France with a back pack after my GCSEs.

HoneyDragon · 15/01/2013 12:55

Flurp

It's the dumb ass parents who buy their teens spirits to pack in their bags and then letting then stay in a B&B that's the issue. Rather than Newquay itself Grin

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Karris73 · 15/01/2013 12:57

She has said that she will not consume alcohol but I don't believe her. Ever since I found condoms in her room last month I haven't been able to trust her. And the articles I have read are about children aged 16 getting drunk and many getting hurt when drunk. Some do drugs too

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dexter73 · 15/01/2013 12:58

Of course she will drink! I can't believe she thinks you would fall for that!

Clargo55 · 15/01/2013 12:58

I agree with HoneyDragon.

I live near Newquay and generally there is a strict I.D policy and lots of clubs will not accept anyone under 21.

The biggest issue is parents buying drink or getting older mates to buy from shops. Both of which could happen anywhere.

TomHardysPinky · 15/01/2013 12:59

"Ever since I found condoms in her room last month I haven't been able to trust her"

.... you haven't been able to trust her for being sensible and responsible??

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NC78 · 15/01/2013 12:59

YANBU

NorbertDentressangle · 15/01/2013 12:59

YANBU.

I've read a bit about problems with hoards young people there post GCSEs and it sounds like a nightmare.

As your last post suggests trust issues anyway I would def. say NO!

StrawberryMojito · 15/01/2013 13:00

I went to Newquay after GCSEs with my friends. We got drunk, had some drunken fumbles with some lads in the next door caravans, got offered some drugs. Didn't have sex and said no to the drugs. Some other girls from our year went a week later, at least one had random sex and took loads of drugs. I guess it depends on your daughter and how much you trust her.

Clargo55 · 15/01/2013 13:01

The legal age of consent for sex is 16. She may not be having sex at all, but surely if she is it is better that she is using protection.

Hobbitation · 15/01/2013 13:02

DDs are too young yet, but yes I'd let them go on a UK holiday with their mates age 16 if they were a sensible lot, and as I used to go out and drink then I'm pretty relaxed about it. When he was 17, DH and a friend cycled from Lands End to John O' Groats. My friends and I went to Salou in Spain when we were 18.

GetOrf · 15/01/2013 13:03

I had exactly the same this time last year - it came to nothing, nobody went anyway.

I did say at first that I didn't want her to go, and then shut up about it. Like I said, it came to nothing.

But I don't blame you for not wanting her to go. Newquay is a dump at the best of times, and the post GCSE pissups have been problematic in recent times (however I have heard that they have really calmed down now as the town has a zero tolerance approach to underage drinking).

GetOrf · 15/01/2013 13:05

Why don't you trust her after finding condoms? Surely that means she is to be trusted, as she is sensible and has contraception.

TravelinColour · 15/01/2013 13:05

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DonkeysDontRideBicycles · 15/01/2013 13:05

Surely if she's going to do any of this she doesn't need to wait to go to Newquay? In the summer?

Shesparkles · 15/01/2013 13:05

YANBU .
One of the reasons for the timing of our holiday this year is so we're out of the country for the weekend of T in the Park.
"Awwwww darling, I'm sorry I didn't realise it was that weekend" Wink

RuleBritannia · 15/01/2013 13:08

Isn't Newquay the place where a group of men boys had gone after their GCSEs and one died? I can't remember how though.

If you feel uncomfortable about it, OP, say, "No!"

HoneyDragon · 15/01/2013 13:08

Yup. Most sea side towns are now very good in regards to id policies etc.It's all talk at this stage isn't it? Summers a long way off.

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Karris73 · 15/01/2013 13:09

I appreciate her being responsible and am proud of that but we have a very open relationship and she assured me that she wasn't sexually active and then I found them a number of days later. But you think I'm being reasonable on the not letting her go part?

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ComposHat · 15/01/2013 13:09

I went to Newquay with a gaggle of mates at that age. Didn't manage to find any drugs or sex...grrr nor did we do anything daft or get into trouble. Yes we got drunk most nights, but there were a load of us there and there were people to look out for us.

If she is relatively sensible, 'let' her go (I don't think you can actually stop her) these experiences with mates in your teens can be brilliant.

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