To not let my daughter go to Newquay

[Karris73]

My daughter really wants to go to Newquay to celebrate completing her GCSEs and after reading online I have said no. Am I unreasonable

Probably not... suggest something else that she and her friends would like to do (I went to Newquay when I was at university and was at the behaviour of the young people there) The town really cracks down hard on underage drinking now.

BUT and it is a big but...

The condoms and you snooping in her room - at that age all manner of organisations push give free condoms to young people I wouldn't just automatically assume that she is having sex. I would never have forgiven my mother for snooping in my room at that age, I had all sorts of things like that that I would have been absolutely mortified my mother finding. It didn't mean I was having lots of sex and lying about stuff (I wasn't and didn't until I was 18!) It already sounds like you don't trust her if you are going through her room and I think this could be quite damaging for your relationship. Teenagers will always try and push the boundaries and you have to pick your battles.

You are right over Newquay but perhaps it is time to have a rethink over some boundaries with your daughter, what responsibilities you trust her with and affording her some privacy and start building some trust back up between the two of you.

I had condoms way before I had sex. Well done to your DD for being responsible.

You can't give an answer without knowing the DC and her friends. I let my DS go at that age - but he is sensible and he only went with a few friends, who were also sensible. He was actually still 15 yrs because of his August birthday.
ChippingIn needs to give it a bit of thought- within 24 months her DC may well be going to university and she won't know what she is doing- she will also be an a adult, and if she has the money, can head off to Thailand (or anywhere)without needing any permission- it therefore seems sensible to me that they should do something in this country with friends first.