AIBU to breastfeed in a restaurant?

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DH says I am, that people are paying to eat and not to see my breast. AIBU or is he BU?

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Oh theplodder really? Is that the best you could come up with?

do it. If anyone is offended it is their problem, not yours. Sometimes it takes a good while to feed a baby. Is he going to sit at the table for 40 minutes eating and drinking whilst you sit in some tiny smelly toilet cubicle. I have done it many times and only once felt uncomfortable. That was at Euston railway station where a family who were returning from a skiiing trip were giving me disgusted looks. They even got their teenage children to join in. I am still annoyed with myself for letting it get to me.

I don't know Ineedafork - a cafe locally got flamed on FB and in the media because the staff asked a bfing Mum to sit in the toilet "for her comfort"

Um, what would most diners prefer I wonder? A hungry baby screaming over their conversation, or a happy baby quietly having a feed, which they probably won't even notice.

Let me see ...

Aren't people funny. It's just a woman feeding her baby FGS!
I knew a woman who was embarrassed to bottle feed in a local coffee shop because so many women were breastfeeding and she felt ppl would judge her.
Poor thing. So you feed away, anywhere you like. If anyone thinks they can see too much they're looking too hard.

Here is a summary of the 2010 equality act regarding breastfeeding.

Please note it does not say anywhere that there is a need to be discreet, although I think most of us are.

Your DH is an idiot.

to be fair to all; I often feel I have to explain while bottle feeding that I also

breast feed dd2 esp while shes so young but the other day at a play centre I decided to just breast feed her while chastely holding scarf over top of boob then thought "what's that on my hand?" she'd latched off and the milk nearly reached someone's coffee!

plodder - bottle fed babies can regurgitate milk too. DS did this all the time, sometimes as long as an hour after he'd finished his bottle, and often without warning. So that's a nonsensical reason for a woman to not breastfeed in public.

Expecting someone to breastfeed in a toilet cubicle is completely inappropriate.

I think it's pretty normal for people to breastfeed anywhere nowadays isn't it? I did anyway, in train stations, a bench in the middle of the high street, busses, everywhere really. My mum was always a bit shocked tbh and always tried to find us a secluded table at the back wherever we went but in all honesty I don't think anyone else batted an eyelid. Why would they?

Your husband is being s prick. Yanbu!

YANBU

Plus the law is on your side.

Seriously. Would people rather have a crying baby interrupting their meal, or the very very slight chance they might possibly see a tiny bit of your boob.

YANBU.

breastfeed wherever you like.

YANBU. I can't imagine any normal person being remotely offended/bothered.

YANBU. Feed your baby, eat your meal, be comfortable and don't let anyone tell you what you should or should not do to feed your baby.

plodder are you the OP's 'D'H?

He's right. They will still pay to eat their meal but probably wont see your breast. But if they do... they'll get over it.

Just out of interest. What is he suggesting as the alternative?

Just thought of a new invention. A breastfeeding scarf, which can be placed over the head of any concerned passer by to prevent them from seeing a baby feeding.

ceeveebee - love it. I'll take 12.

ceeveebee

this says it all

YANBU it is the most natural thing in the world. If ANYONE has issue with you feeding your baby in ANY place then the fault is theirs, not yours.

Just another YANBU!! So he'll eat his dinner at the table and expect baby to eat his on the toilet- that makes sense

Ps I'm sure they'd more than happily see your breast if it was out on display on a calendar!