AIBU to breastfeed in a restaurant?

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DH says I am, that people are paying to eat and not to see my breast. AIBU or is he BU?

I used to BF wherever but no one could ever see any boobage. I would just shove the baby up my jumper or teeshirt. People might have suspected what was going on but they couldn't see anything.

Some women do seem to make a bit of a fuss about it but that is up to them and it's no one else's business. Personally, I was happy to do it subtly.

I wish people would pay to see my breast, get paid and feed baby at same time, result!
OP hasn't confirmed if she is discreet or a top-whipper-offer (if such exists).

yanbu!

fed discreetly (not discretely because I was still at the table) several times... also managed a one handed bottle technique... though the no hand your turn now technique is much better for scoffing food.

From all these discrete comments, I'm starting to wonder if I'm not being discrete enough. I tend to wear vest type tops, and so you can see the top of my boob when I'm feeding as DD won't stay latched on if i try covering her with a muslin or anything, but no nipple. Is there some more discrete way I've missed?

I don't think I could master putting her up my top though!

I discreetly used the word subtly instead of discreetly because I couldn't be arsed working out/looking up the correct spelling

desperately hoping I spelt subtly correctly

Your DH?

Seriously?

Don't let him come to the restaurant next time.

Hopandskip you have not mastered the mumsnet "oneuponedown" approach. That is, a loose type top or t-shirt that you pull up, a vest top underneath that you pull down. Very little can be seen. Of course it is up to you how you breastfeed, some babies will just pull the top away given the chance!

YANBU you are eating, people in the restaurant are eating, why shouldn't the baby eat via his/her preferred method? You can do it discreetly, no one has ever blinked an eyelid when I have done it.

YANBU

DD2 BF in many restaurants, fast food joints and cafes.

In parents meetings at school, a lot while her sister learnt to swim and at a funeral.

adding to unanimous YANBU.

Your DH is being a plum.

As for being discreet, I have small breasts and DD2 was very competent. (I very rarely attempted to feed, mixed fed DD1 in public because she was awful, that's why she was mix fed)

It was doing up my stupid feeding bra that had to be done in the loo.

I soon gave up and just shoved a normal one out the way. They can be flicked back one handed.

He's a twit YANBU. Must be the most consensus thread ever!

Hopandskip, if it is working for you, then don't worry about it. I regularly just went top down, no muslin because a) DS fussed the only time I tried, and b) I didn't see the need.

A lot of mums - especially in the colder weather - prefer wearing a stretchy vest top underneath, and then any old t-shirt on top, and go one up / one down.

But you're getting on with feeding your baby, so nurse however you feel comfortable.

YADNBU. You are feeding your child. That's more important than other people's fixation on boobs as sexual. Tbh your DP should be supporting you in this!

I'm loving all the back up you're getting on this thread

Hopandskip, that's absolutely discreet enough!

I'm a whip book out of whatever top I am wearing sort of gal myself.

Dc2 refused to feed if fabric touched his face

yadnbu
in fairness though my dh was nervous about me feeding ds in public at first but very quickly got over it when he realised a) you couldnt see my boobs b) it stopped ds screaming c) no one was looking or bothered anyway.

YANBU!

YANBU - I was doing it 19 years ago and no one said anything. Your DH is being a fool. Carry on.

will your dh be eating at this restaurant or is it only babies he thinks should starve?

YADNBU

YADNBU.
I breastfeed in the bus, library, cafe, restaurants, cinema, open benches everywhere! No boobshow though but I have seen people who just nod and smile esp elderly women.

Hopefully your baby is very new and your DH just needs to adjust I how normal breastfeeding in public is, rather than being a knob as suggested above! You could show him this thread maybe. I was so so nervous about feeding in public when ds was tiny but I got over it so quickly as I realised that otherwise I'd be totally confined to the house - you can't predict when they'll need a feed in the early months beyond being fairly sure thy will need one! This is actually a nice time to go out to eat I found as they largely just sleep and if they wake they go on the boob!

YANBU
YHIBAT

carry on feeding your baby and tell him to get over himself.