"Leave the prawns for the adults"

[MrsMushroom]

My SIL has just said this to my two DDs ged 8 and 4 as they were getting served takeaway and DD1 asked for a prawn.

Aibu to think "WTF?" about that?

SIL knows the DDs...they both eat seafood, spicy stuff...and if she wasn't sure if they'd like the prawns, then wouldn't it be normal to ask me? Or to offer a piece of one to try?

She has no DC. but not sure if that's any excuse.

She'd served them with bowls of plain rice....I was waiting for her to finish serving herself and thought she'd be doing a selection of bits for the DDs but I was wrong...she stood aside so I could help myself and I then gave the DDs a prawn each....and a bit of everythng else...despite SIL's instructions to "leave the prawns for the adults"

The other adults who were sharing the meal were just finishing some work in the shed and had told us to go ahead...there was plenty for everyone...

Odd? Greedy? What? I can't stop thinking about it!

Oh and this woman is always taking bits of their food from them too....I don't mind sharing of course...it's good...but she'll ask for half of almost everything the littlest has! Even if it's a tiny little biscuit or something. She finished DD2s prawn off for her.

Weird. I wasn't aware that prawns had an age restriction.

What did she say when you asked her about it?

I must say, it does sound a bit odd.

'Oh and this woman is always taking bits of their food from them too'

Why are you letting her do that?

Regardless of her motives,why would you do the exact opposite to what she asked? What did you teach your daughters?

It's not very nice, I grew up in an environment where the adults got good stuff and the kids weren't allowed any. It's not great. Hopefully if she ever has kids she'll reassess, but glad you gave the kids some anyway.

Yanbu, how silly of her.

Odd, definitely.

Glad they got a prawn each but why is she taking food off children? Was your DD going to finish her prawn?

Why would she take a biscuit off a small child? How very weird! Why not eat her own biscuit. She sounds like a lunatic.

got because I frigging paid for half of it! ANd even if I never, who is anyone to restrict my children's meals?

worra I never asked her. I daren't.

narked she does it in a light hearted way...you know..pretending to sneak up or something.

jammy I reckon she would have finished it yes...she's 4 and eats slowly.

Odd. Not all children eat fish fingers & chicken nuggets. Is it because the prawn dish was more expensive? Perhaps she wanted to make sure they didn't take it,dislike it & then not enough for the shed people?

ice but as I said then the normal thing would be to ask me "Do they like prawns? Have they tried them?" or just to offer them a taste before giving them any.

WTF?

Does she see herself sitting in some sort of pecking order, below someone else, and therefore enjoys the chance to be 'superior' to people lower down than her, i.e. children?

She's just greedy I think. Don't see why you shouldn't have given them a prawn either.

Greedy

wow!again what did you teach your girls?

Sounds greedy to me. And strange. Does she eat a lot of food?

Got that prawns are not only for adults.

Got oh...and that not ALL adult talk sense or are to be obeyed.

YANBU, I would've asked parent first too make sure, and then given them a little bit to try, especially if there was plenty for everyone.....how are you supposed to teach them to share if adults won't share with them..

Fake yes she does eat a lot...

I guess she taught them that they aren't second class citizens?

I think she taught her girls that children are no less important than adults