To get angry if DW leaves her job without real consultation

[Seekingthezone]

Found out the night before it was going to happen anyway that DW had negotiated her exit.

She had moaned for a couple of years about the job and people and I offered support during that time but
when it came to the crunch I was not consulted and left as sole earner whilst we do depend on both incomes to maintain the current lifestyle.

It was presented as a done deal and I was told by her that she did well to get what she got blah blah.

I'm out. I was genuinely trying to be helpful but being talked down to and patronised...your poor wife.

Since when was swearing a part of helpful and constructive dialogue. Never in any part of the world I have inhabited. I will patronise those swearing when I am trying to hold a decent conversation, especially when they present themselves on a forum offering wisdom.

Yes a typo (no spell check on the Add message box), so 1-0 to you. Your substantive point was?

There is so much asymmetry in relationships now. I as the DH am expected to provide for all and just get on with it. At the same time my DW feels free to hit me, as she has done in the past. I did not and would not retaliate. DW knew she had done wrong at the time and was keen to point out she had not used her fists. There was never an apology. Had it been the other way arounf I have been out of the house and in a police cell no doubt.

on a forum offering wisdom.

No, a place for meeting to talk and help each other. If you don't like the responses then don't read them. People are responding given the info you have provided. Funny how now we are told she has hit you.

A conversation involves listening, you don't seem to be hearing the fact that you cannot fix this by yourself, this is not healthy, the kids should not be in the middle of this.