To Be Annoyed about this (Poss SN) Childs Behaviour

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Ok so we went to The Panto last night which wasn't a cheap night out with the tickets costing £100 + for 4 of us.

We were sat 4 seats in with a family of 4 occupying the end 4.

The Father of other the family preceded to lift his DS aged about 10/11 over the seats (spare) to the row in front so he could get a better view and was now sat directly in front of my DP.

This child then spent the entire performance jumping up and down on the seat in front,shouting loudly for sweets,flapping arms,banding his head with his shoes which he'd taken off and generally distracting everyone around him. To give the father credit he did repeatedly tell the child to shut up /sit down and threaten him etc.

Although My experience of ASD is quite limited, I'm assuming the boy was on the Autistic spectrum and although the panto is a family performance and I expect to be disturbed by kids needing a wee,rustling sweets etc AIBU to be pissed off with our evening be ruined especially seeing the boy could have been seated on the end of the aisle where he would have disturbed others less ?

MargeySimpson. Don't be stupid.

MS

Some children with disabilities cannot control their behaviour. It's a disability not wilful defiance! For gods sake!

You mistake me for giving a fuck about bigotry, demented.

Anyone else? Gimme a C

So a child has the right to behave how he wants because his parents have such a hard job, no matter who's time he ruins. Everyone should allow him to do this because he has special needs?

Behave how he wants???? are you for real?

Do you not understand that he wouldnt have any control over his behavior what with it being a part of his disability~?

I'd like to join in with the singing, if I may?

I'm appalled at some of the disablist bollocks spouted on this thread.

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I am NOT saying the same thing as you at all Margery so don't fucking miss quote me! A child with sn's is NOT misbehaving. They cannot control their behavior they are just being them and they have the right to do that wherever they are, yes you may find it inconvenient sometimes but that is nothing compared to the struggles they face daily so yes suck it up.

N

I'm actually quite heartened by the non bigots on here by the way so cheers x

N

Margey.

Have you read anything any of the posters whose children are on the spectrum have said?

You are woefully ignorant.

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Yes, MargeS - everyone should make allowances for the boy who has SN and if you cannot shame on you frankly.

What about the boy whose parents had paid for him to have a ticket? Perhaps he wanted to see the end of the show? The fact he is disabled doesn't mean he wouldn't also have been enjoying himself

More disablism.... And wonderfully ignorant too. Gold medal in the bigotry leagu for you. Oh we'll done you must be so PROUD.

and margery as mn hq have said that
is disablist

glitter whatever.
Teach your child to shout CUNT at anyone who looks at him/her sideways. Its bound to help no end.

CatherineHMumsnet (MNHQ) Fri 28-Dec-12 22:41:26
Once again, we'd like to draw your attention to the fact that while we're happy to accept that the OP has limited knowledge of SN behaviours (if indeed the child she's describing did have SN), we would regard any post that states or suggests that a disabled child should be removed from a theatre (or any place for that matter) as disablist - and we would delete it.

Bangs head on nexus 7. The child was not misbehaving and non an adult cannot always control the child and stop the behavior and NO they shouldn't have to remove their child just because someone doesn't like the behavior which is a direct result of their sn.

No...you wrote "on the autistic spectrum" thereby implying you don't really consider it a disability.

And then actually said the child was being deliberately disruptive!

What.the.fuck?

You got your point across just fine...you have vile views I disagree with is all.

Nah. He prefers fuck actually.

Ohhhh bad mummy me yeah? For being unable to control one of my three severely autistic kids.

Like I said I don't give a fuck for the sensitivities of bigots.