To Be Annoyed about this (Poss SN) Childs Behaviour

[fantasticfanjo]

Ok so we went to The Panto last night which wasn't a cheap night out with the tickets costing £100 + for 4 of us.

We were sat 4 seats in with a family of 4 occupying the end 4.

The Father of other the family preceded to lift his DS aged about 10/11 over the seats (spare) to the row in front so he could get a better view and was now sat directly in front of my DP.

This child then spent the entire performance jumping up and down on the seat in front,shouting loudly for sweets,flapping arms,banding his head with his shoes which he'd taken off and generally distracting everyone around him. To give the father credit he did repeatedly tell the child to shut up /sit down and threaten him etc.

Although My experience of ASD is quite limited, I'm assuming the boy was on the Autistic spectrum and although the panto is a family performance and I expect to be disturbed by kids needing a wee,rustling sweets etc AIBU to be pissed off with our evening be ruined especially seeing the boy could have been seated on the end of the aisle where he would have disturbed others less ?

[AmberLeaf]

Yes we are not meant to swear in the face of bigotry are we?

We should just shuffle by looking at the floor muttering thank for being allowed to breath the same air as all you 'normal' families.

Bollocks to that.

[dementedma]

whathasthecat was that aimed at me? Do be a dear and show where in this thread I have proffered that opinion.
Would it surprise you to know I have an SN child?

[Glitterknickaz]

Ooh bingo!

[TandB]

[whispers to Glitter]

What's sweage?

[Glitterknickaz]

Yeah sorry, frenzied typing typo

[SauvignonBlanche]

An 'SN child'

[Glitterknickaz]

Sewage, you know that stuff that's full of shit?

[TandB]

[light dawns]

Oh, sewage.

[TandB]

I thought it was "swearage" or something.

[dementedma]

[Grin] @ sweage

[whathasthecatdonenow]

demented My comment about bigots was in response to this comment from you "You are very free with your bigot insults aren't you? Is anyone who disagrees with you automatically a bigot and a cunt?"

Nothing surprises me anymore, actually demented. I've dealt with this kind of shit for too long.

[blueemerald]

Is there no middle ground between shouting cunt and shuffling off? I don't think labelling someone a cunt is a very effective way to defend any child.

[dementedma]

Child with SN if you prefer. The labels don't bother me, he has enough to deal with.
Off to bed, night night all

[threesocksfullofchocs]

what else can you call a bigot??

[JakeBullet]

An "SN child" or "a child who has a disability". I hate the term "SN child".


And as the parent of a child with a disability I will get arsey when people think my child should be stopped from enjoying the things other children take for granted. I can and have removed him when he has been disruptive.....but we are talking about a Panto here.

[AmberLeaf]

not necessarily amber but they might be more inclined to think you have a reasoned argument to put across and be more prepared to engage and understand

I have put across a reasoned argument many many times, when people just ignore it and come out with crap like margerysimpson then yes I get a bit fed up with being polite

It is futile.

[TandB]

Yes, there's a middle ground. There are 39 pages of middle ground.

Unfortunately that middle ground simply is't good enough for a lot of people on this thread. What they want is parents of children with SN to agree to bow out gracefully whenever their children's needs conflict with those of NT children.

[Glitterknickaz]

And I'll be fucked if I'll do that....

(I did used to be normal, honest)

[Alisvolatpropiis]

I am honestly stunned by the attitudes people have.

I admit when I joined MN,my actual knowledge of autism was small. Limited only to a short period of time when I was quite young. I have learnt a lot from reading posts on here. I never had dodgy views but I do know more now.

It's a shame some people here are utterly unwilling to actually learn anything. All your very personal experiences that you are all sharing and yet bigoted views are being clung to. Narrow minded people unwilling to have their minds broadened. Sad.

[BridgetBidet]

Ignoring all the other rows on here, I used to work on a theatre in London where once a month we would have a show which was specifically for families with children who couldn't come to traditional shows for some reason. It was usually a run through but you wouldn't know the difference in the audience and you could make as much noise as you like.

Theatres in London are amazing about disability, especially with children. If you ring them up and explain about your child's disability to a central London theatre chances are you'll get a box or a seat at a special performance.

[oldpeculiar]

This reminds me of the 'throwing popcorn in the cinema thread' or am I the only one old enough to remember that?

[threesocksfullofchocs]

but children with disabilities should be able to go to any showing.

[AmberLeaf]

Thank you Alisvolatpropiis and others whos names have passed me in the flurry.

Thanks, I know there are good people out there and here on Mumsnet, thank you for standing behind us.