Goddamn bloody Facebook announcements & goddamn bloody families

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I'll keep this short and sweet....My nephew was born yesterday, no name or details given just a text from bro saying all well & he'll call. Didn't hear anything this morn so called at lunch, no answer, which is no bother as know how newborns are, so left a message asking name, weight, usual stuff, when ok to visit. Haven't heard a dicky bird all day, just logged onto fb to find an announcement with all the details inc pics. Am I or am I not being unreasonable to be absolutely fuming? And to top it off the babies name is virtually identical to my child? :+(

Yabu to be fuming
He told you in his own way

I guess they're a bit busy/overwhelmed/tried and it's an effectove way of reaching loads of people?

Congratulations on having a snuggly littke thing to snuggle.

Fuming why?

Because they decided to kill lots of birds with one stone and announce to everyone at the same time?

Oh yes forgot to add he slags people off for putting stuff about their kids on Facebook

YANBU.

I loathe finding out stuff like this via fucking facebook. I stay on there as it is a good way to communicate with people I don't often see, but I hate the way it is treated as a way of letting everyone know everything. I would expect, as an aunt, to get a more personal message tbh.

"Oh yes forgot to add he slags people off for putting stuff about their kids on Facebook"

Feel free to point this out when he starts announcing every fart and poo on there like some parents do.

Even a text to you would be better than a facebook message.

YABVU How else exactly did you expect him to share the information with everyone a 5 minute individual phone call to everyone, and in what order? What if he talked to his BIL before you or...

You sound bonkers tbh. So I can understand why he wasn't keen on a chat.

I'm not a bird I am his sister. I would think in this messed up world we live in you would at least tell your family your new family members name before announcing it to every Tom dick & waynetta you might know in your life?

Facebook, the working class equivalent of a The Times announcement NOT

tell us the names involved

I would say YANBU, I get news this way from younger elements of the faaaamily [Peggy Mitchell voice] and dislike it intensely.

I do accept it's my prob, being olde-fangled in my ways etc

I wonder what people did before fb! How ever did they fit it all in?

YANBU. It doesnt take much to let family know aside from facebook.

Is this a joke?

Yabu would you have felt happier with a generic text sent to everyone? Putting it on fb is no different really. The last thing I could be arsed with when trying to bond with my new baby would be calling a zillion relatives and saying the same thing over and over again.

A lot of people slag a lot of parents off...until they actually become parents.

I don't think yabu though, he could've replied even if just to tell you its all on facebook.

Oh get right over yourself OP

If you were Prince Harry or Pippa Middleton you might have a point Lol

Not everyone on Facebook has random friends/acquaintances/waynettas as their 'friends'. YABU, it's up to him to announce it as he wants.

Yabu

Why so entitled op?

I'd be very annoyed to find out such personal news on FB - fair enough to share on there (I suppose) when you've spoken to close family but I don't think YABU (or bonkers) to be annoyed that he's posted before telling you.

Course YANBU. A few phone calls to important/significant people wasn't that difficult about 5 years ago when most people weren't even on FB.

it's not personal news, it's THEIR news. don't piss on their very happy chips, OP, by being cross about something so nothingy.

It's not a joke & ive got children so perfectly aware of first day bonding etc, even a quick text to me wouldve been ok.I wouldn't feel so cross had my parents even called just to tell me my nephews name but I feel pissed off after logging onto Facebook and seeing the 43 messages already received by acquaintances. Ah well I suppose family counts for bugger all. It saddens me.

YANBU. I totally agree with you.

There are certain people (close family and friends) who I think deserve to be told directly, whether by phonecall, text or in person. But a generic facebook message to god knows how many people (some of whom probably couldnt care less) is not nice.

Personally, I hate facebook, but I accept that some people choose to live their lives out on there.

Its done now though so theres no point in letting it come between you. Although I probably would be tempted to ring him again to ask for the details and pretent that you havent seen it on facebook, just to make the point.

But he did call and let her kniw the baby had arrived and all was well, is a babys name and weight really personal information that must be disclosed to family first?

I don't understand why people are saying they'd be annoyed about this?

Why? What makes you so self entitled that you have to know the baby's name and weight before other people?

What would you gain by knowing that before anyone else?