Goddamn bloody Facebook announcements & goddamn bloody families

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I'll keep this short and sweet....My nephew was born yesterday, no name or details given just a text from bro saying all well & he'll call. Didn't hear anything this morn so called at lunch, no answer, which is no bother as know how newborns are, so left a message asking name, weight, usual stuff, when ok to visit. Haven't heard a dicky bird all day, just logged onto fb to find an announcement with all the details inc pics. Am I or am I not being unreasonable to be absolutely fuming? And to top it off the babies name is virtually identical to my child? :+(

I thought this was going to be about something different, the opposite in fact.

When we had our pfb 9 wks ago, we wanted to let family know before posting on fb but then 2 of DH's aunts wrote on my fb wall congratulating us on the birth of our son (we had kept the sex a secret). Suddenly got friends etc sending puzzled messages - had to rush out a fb announcement just so people heard it from us directly. So annoying!

So from my point of view as family you wnbu to expect to hear by phone or text before fb but maybe something similar happened? You will have to let it go though and just enjoy your new nephew. Congratulations!

p.s. love the phrase 'I am not a bird I am his sister'

We expect birth announcements on facebook in our family, we're quite extensive. I think it's easy and convenient.

They were busy. They texted you. YABU

blond
I had that heppen too! People just want to get in their first don't they! Even though they know people wil get arsey that they found out via someone else etc. It winds me up

I dont blame you at all op, I'd feel the same as you do

bloody fb is a PITA

YABU.

I too have a new nephew (today - excited!!!!)

I wish DB would post details on FB so I (and every other friend and relative) don't have to bother them to find out.

This is the beauty of FB.

And yes, much as I would like to post "Congratulations!" and "I'm so excited to be an Aunty again!" I will hold back because it's not for me to announce the arrival.

You sound like a NIGHTMARE TBH.

HTH

Op, YA definitely NBU! I would be really upset to find out such important information about a new niece or nephew from a social networking site! Of course the people who will love the new addition to the family, and will be genuinely delighted and no doubt quite emotional for the parents, should be told the name before all and sundry on Facebook (and yes I know that some people only have close friends on Facebook but IME they are the exception). It doesn't take long to send a generic text to their nearest and dearest or to speak to the new Grandparents and ask them to pass the info on.

I am pregnant and would rather chew my right hand off than let acquaintances and casual friends know such significant news as my baby's name at the same time /before my parents, siblings and close friends. Perhaps I would think differently if we had large families but we don't, they're both very small - my loved ones won't suddenly become unimportant to me and relegated to the same status as 'Facebook friends' because I have a baby.

Pic the same branch of the family posted RIP messages on fb about their Grandad before the rest of the family had been informed - my DSIL found out that way (while checking her phone on the train to work) and was so upset. People are so thoughtless. Or they want to be the ones with the info as you say. Dicks.

I don't see the difference between a generic text and a Facebook update, both are just as impersonal. Could someone explain?

I don't think a generic text sent to those few people you choose, such as siblings, other relatives and close friends (namely those people who care about you and your new baby)is as impersonal as an update on Facebook to all and sundry. How can anyone think it is appropriate for the casual acquaintances/friends from years ago with whom we are no longer really friends on Facebook to be told the birth details of a baby before close relatives. I value my family and close friends and to me I would feel that lumping them in with Facebook 'friends' really devalues what they mean to me.

YANBU

I found out my brother was engaged after a friend saw it on Facebook then sent me an email saying what good news it was about my brother's engagement.......I was really hurt (and also felt like a complete idiot that I was the last to know about my own brother's engagement)

I personally think you should take the time to phone (or at least text) your closest family and friends before you announce things on Facebook to every man and his dog............

Sorry dreaming but that sounds ridiculous to me, I still don't see how the same message typed out on a screen is seen as better just because less people are selected in the send box.

OP - YANBU.
I would be hurt if I was told important family news before random people.

And for those that disagree - fine. You say you're not bothered? Well that doesn't mean that others can't be hurt and there is no need to be quite so rude. AIBU or not.

Because it shows who the sender feels is more important in their lives.

Or that's what it would make me think.

I guess it's just that I don't - and wouldn't - post ANYTHING that I consider important on facebook because it's just a social networking site.

It means different things to different people. I'm sorry the OP is upset. I think it would have been quite feasible for brother to have told parents and asked them to pass the message on, that's what I would have done.

I only ever want to know that everybody's fine, born safely, mum ok, dad bearing up. I really don't care what the baby's weight was.

Or it also shows that the sender has went through their phone box ticking contacts or clicking 'send all'. I doubt they're thinking 'this person is far more important than that person so I'll click their name first and let the other person read on fb'.

Yabu, I posted on FB about my baby, so what?

Does it really matter? Honestly? Just be happy for your brother.

My DH posted a pic of me on FB 2 mins after having DS2, my boob was hanging out and I looked completely off my face due to the gas and air but it was a moment we wanted to share with friends and family so posted on FB.

I love FB for announcements, even my grandad is on there, it saves endless phonecalls

YANBU to be annoyed that FB is assumed to be an acceptable means of communicating important news, but no point making an issue of it.