To start a DSC thread here?

[NotaDisneyMum]

Probably, but I'm so pissed off I don't care.

DSS is here for Christmas this year - as per the court order, along with my DD.

After opening stockings, we suggested that the DCs call their 'other parent' to wish them merry Christmas.

DSS response? ^Oh no, Mum told me not to because she'll be sleeping - she was working last night. She'll ring when she wakes up later during Christmas dinner.

AIBU to think she could have tolerated disturbed sleep for one day so DS can speak to her on Christmas morning? He's 9, but ASD, so emotionally younger.

DP didn't know DSS mum was on nights, otherwise we wouldn't have suggested it.

YABU. It's not really such a big deal if DSS's mum rings later on, is it?

YABU. She was working, hes spending the day with his dad, why shouldnt she get a sleep? Yes its xmas, but if shes not seeing him Im sure its hard for her and she would be better sleeping.

I had DD1 this morning for santa, shes away with her dad now though. Its hard. Id rather not think about it. If I had been working nights I would be glad of the sleep.

DS is away at his dad's now too. It's not the best thing for me but is absolutely the best thing for him.
I hate to be Pollyanna but if the children are happy I wouldn't sweat it.
Enjoy your day.

Yabvu

You are being plain nasty. Night shifts are hard, when you are a night worker you still have to sleep Christmas Day. Ooh low blow. How petty.

YABU. Switch the phone off if it will disturb dinner & get sds to ring afterwards.

I'm apart from my DD every other Christmas too,

I just can't imagine telling her in advance not to call me on Christmas morning because I'll be asleep - she knows that can call me whenever she wants to, day or night.

Each to their own, though - if others would do it to, then I'll chill with another glass of Buck's Fizz!

I'm not sure what the problem is here

YABU, she's worked nights, so needs to sleep. Cut her some slack

I'm just about to open a bottle of fizz. Enjoy!

I cannot understand your annoyance.

NADM you should know by now not to post step parenting things in here!

FFS it's christmas day! cant you just not whinge about her for one day? seriously. take a break. get back to using up energy bitching about her tomorrow.

YABVU to start a step post here.... From a fellow step mum.

Just turn the phone off whilst you have dinner and make sure dss calls later.

I think the thing is, Christmas can be so prickly. I have managed to annoy my ex every single year without even trying.

revels it's always revealing!

Who'd have guessed that the MN jury would support the idea of withholding contact between a DC and their Mum on Christmas Day to ensure that she doesn't lose sleep!

Yabu. Sorry.

She's been working!!!

And surely the benefit of not having your kids with you is the lie in!!!

Plus, you just said that if you'd known she was on nights you wouldn't have mentioned it so what exactly is pissing you off!!??

"Who'd have guessed that the MN jury would support the idea of withholding contact between a DC and their Mum on Christmas Day "

put your big spoon down.

My ex thanked me this morning for letting him have her he was nearly crying.

For the past three years its been arranged this way. One year here and one year there. This year is his turn. Im not sure why thanks were required.

Clearly I am the evil witch ex in that house :o

Wow, a thank you. You have been good. I got a wave from the car.

Yabu, she was working nights and will call him later, I don't see the problem there?

You are being petty and mean tbh.

This doesn't impact on you at all.

I work permanent nights and would struggle to have a coherent conversation a few hours after going to sleep. Much better later on.

Presuming your face would've been like a smacked arse had she insisted on a call first thing before she went to bed.