To have hid and not answered door......

[Clumsyoaf]

Aibu? 830 this morning my SILs their DHs kids etc turn up at front door.... Can see they are laden with presents but I didn't open the door. My children and I have been excluded from lunch tomorrow and I guess I'm still raging mad. On top of which my 4 yr old has been unwell overnight and here's me hair scraped back off white (ahem grey) holey pyjamas whilst they all look like something out of dynasty with their matching handbags and shoes!

So would I bu to not answer door, respond to messages etc or respond with " I'm actually rather upset that my children and I are not welcome at the lunch tomorrow so which would have meant more to us than your gifts do please don't worry about bringing them round. - clumsy."

Thanks, don't want to respond until I can think objectively and mn us great for perspective! Btw I didn't know or expect them to be coming... Completely random visit as they all descended on in laws last night from various parts of the country.

You've been treated appallingly ! And if I lived in the UK you'd be more than welcome for Christmas in our home with us - children especially included, because after all what's Christmas without children ?!

This will come back to bite your MIL and FIL on the arse.

At some point in the future, one of your IL's will be on their own. SIL's will decide that a lonely old person will ruin their Christmas day - they sound exactly the type to do that - and your IL will be looking to you for a Christmas day dinner invite. I honestly don't know, if I were you and after all this, how gracious I could be in that situation .

I would have hid too! Especially at the thought of being photographed and it posted somewhere! Clumsy, you did the right thing there.

Your mil sounds like she didn't speak to them about it. They sound like bullies to me. Is your fil under their thumbs too?

I wouldn't rely to any texting. I would just call mil, explain again that you feel very hurt, you are really missing your family and even more now( sob). And you will not put yourself in this position again. If dh is deployedover xmas again, you will be on a flight out.

Say you know your dh will be distressed at the treatment too. I would also say that a 3 way might not be possible as he needs to talk to you and his dc, so they will have to wait til another time perhaps. Pity, as it could have been done from mil house but there you go.

And if they ask where you were, you can say you took a taxi to buy Christmas lunch.

Enjoy your day, plan for the next, and I hope you make some lovely friends soon - what about a local mn meet or something?

And treat yourself to something nice, like a flight home to your family if your dh isn't back til April. You need it. Your poor dh, mine would be furious and feel worse because he wouldn't be able to do anything iykwim whilst he is there. I expect yours will feel the same.

I hope your LO is ok Clumsy and you have done some arrangements for tomorrow.

Where is OP?

Hope all is well and you haven't been ambushed by SiL's en masse.

Thinking of you all!.

Hope you have a lovely Christmas, op.

OP went to walk in centre with little one - suspected Chicken Pox?

I hope your little one is ok.

What a horrid thing for your SILs to do. Especially as their brother, your husband is deployed.

Dont rise to them, ignore, ignore, ignore... but if you do feel the need to reply then use some of the fabulous retorts on here.

What a bunch of nasty bitches. Don't let them put the blame on you. Have a lovely day with our children.

How horrid! Hope your LO's are feeling better though - what a rotten crimbo. Hope it is as great as you and the kids can have together, holding heads up high.

FYI - the party thread was a different clumsy. This OP is ClumsyOaf, that OP was just Clumsy

No, it was Clumsyoaf

You are not the one depriving the Grandparents of seeing the children opening their presents.

You have done nothing wrong.

If your DH is annoyed that you didn't still go tell him the children would have suffered more from being somewhere they weren't wanted than not getting a few presents.

Hi all, sorry this is a very quick update ... Some rubbish texts that I've v briefly scanned over as my battery died on my phone as was using it to entertain little one. DD is being kept in hospital overnight for observation - she has d and v suspected gastric flu with a skin infection. Just popped home to get some bits, MiL came to hospital and took ds back to hers, hopefully she will be discharged tomorrow morning if the on call is happy that her obs are ok. Missed three Skype calls from DH but he has called MiL not sure what was said as haven't had a chance to talk properly. Sorry for long paragraph may get chance to update properly overnight.

Hope your dd is ok

sorry crossed posts

you poor things :( xx

Wow.
What a Christmas. Hope your DD makes a speedy recovery.

Hope your dd gets discharged quickly - try to enjoy what you can tomorrow x

Hope your dd improves quickly

Bless her and you- hope dd is feeling better very soon

Oh no poor little thing, hope for a quick recovery. I hope your dh was given the lowdown on the shit Christmas day arrangements. Wishing you a very happy Christmas hope your dd is out quickly

Gosh, hope dd gets well soon xx

Hope dd better soon and your christmas turns out great

Oh clumsy, poor you and DCs. I hope she feels better in the morning. I think you've kept your head in very difficult circumstances. I agree with others that the SILs are not worth bothering with.

I hope you can have a restful Christmas Day and get a chance to speak to DH. Take care of yourself and the DCs.

Hop she feels better soon xx

You are having a very shit time at the moment, poor thing.

Wishing your DD well.

Oh goodness......you poor thing.

Take care. Hope DD is better soon.

xx