to think that Fathers don't always crave sons?

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I have three girls.
Yet another person this morning made yet another snide remark about my 'poor husband' and how we 'might have a boy next time' and it got me wondering.
How do men feel?
How does your partner feel?
Did he want a boy?
Does he have all girls and is happy with that?
My husband adores his daughters and is adamant that he didn't ever yearn for a boy.
Do most men hanker after a son?

mine didn't - we have 3 girls - he loves them

Mine wasn't fussed either way.

MIne didn't and nobody said anything to him about sons we have Dds our girls are fab obviously and do stuff with their dad that 'boys' would do, dd1 and her dad went through hellish teen years but get on great now and chat and talk about all sorts of things

Mine never wanted a boy and was very happy with his 2 girls.
Then my sister had a son and they developed a really good relationship. He now says he can see the attraction of having a son but still would not swap his girls for anything.

I think its just one of those things people say.

I don't think anyone really thinks a dad doesn't love his daughters and would prefer sons. Its like me sending links to large garden sheds last time my friend found out that she was expecting her 4th girl. Its tongue in cheek.

MIl hankered after a boy because she didnt know what to do with girls

do you get the same 'poor husband' comments that I get too?!

No mine didn't either. And him and dd are inseparable. They're like a little double act.

YANBU, women get it as well when they have all boys.

dd2 goes fishing with her dad I suppose it is the same of mums of boys and folk say oh i bet you want a daughter don't you ,

I have the opposite problem - I have 3 DSs and everyone assumes I must be desparate for a girl to go shopping with No thanks - shopping is my DC free time!

No my Dh wasn't bothered at all. We ended up.having a boy as well but he really wasn't bothered either way.

People say the most moronic things about the sex of children, and there's this weird (newish?) idea that the perfect family involves 'one of each'. My parents have three girls and a boy, and my mother used to get pissed off with people assuming they were 'trying for a boy' all the time, and all those dumb-ass comments you've been getting about her 'poor husand' etc. My dad didn't give two hoots, and the reason they had four children had a lot more to do with lack of available contraception and the Catholic church's attitude to it governing the Ireland of the time than with a desire for a boy.

We have one child, a baby boy. My partner was unbothered about his sex, and would have been equally happy with a girl. In fact, I don't know a single man who's shown any evidence of a burning desire for a son. I think it's a fairly dim-witted assumption based on patriarchal ideas about inheritance and carrying on the name etc etc.

I have 2 dds. When pg with dd2, dp told me 'if it's a boy it's going back, I only see myself as a dad of girls'. I'm glad she was a girl cos there's no way she was going back!!

Mine did - he was very pleased that our first born was a boy. We have a 20 month old daughter-he loves her with equal measure but it was definitely the order he wanted. He said he wasn't fussed before the birth of either of them.

I have 3 boys and get equally pissed of with the 'oh poor you, 3 raucous boys, I bet your desperate for a girl to dress up aren't you...?' Etc etc blah blah.

Other people will always comment that families with same-sex DC must be desperate for the other. It's actually really rude IMO, like they're implying your 2nd and subsequent children aren't good enough because they were born with the wrong bits.

Mine DEF wanted a boy, to the point that he started referring to the bump as "my boy" long before we even had the scan. Although I know of course he would have loved the baby just as much if it had been a girl.

We have 2 DDs. DH loves them more than anything. He wouldn't love them any more or any less if they were sons. They are our children. And they are perfect

thanks Goldenbear and GreatGatsby for your honesty. That's interesting. I guess we can't help what we want and just because I don't have a preference, doesn't mean everyone's the same.

DH positively wanted a girl when I got pregnant, I think because of his background (only child, single mum, never lived with a boy/man)

He was a tiny bit disappointed when we discovered it was a boy.

Now he adores DS and has said he wouldn't mind if DC2 was a boy

It's all stuff and nonsense anyway. We're all individual people and it's our personality which makes us who we are, not our bodies.

Me too MyNameIsLola. I've got 3 boys. I find it particularly inappropriate in front of the dcs - I always reply "I know aren't I lucky?"

I've had people assume we only had ds3 because we were trying for a girl and then go on to say "of course we were lucky having one of each"

If anything, before we had dcs, I think dh had a slight preference for a girl. Of course he adores his 3 sons.

The only person desperate for a boy in my family was my MIL. She kept on and on about it for my whole pregnancy and when I had a girl she was desperate for me to have more children till a boy appeared.

Me & DH were just grateful we blessed with children at all.

What I hate is people assuming that I have three boys because I've been trying to have a girl?! They don't know me or my family but say, oh will you be trying agin! Wtf! I wouldn't know what to do with girls and love being the bossy female!

My DP has 2 girls, and we plan to have another child. He would truly love it to be another girl - of course he would be just as happy with a son, but if he had a choice it would be another daughter.

He considers his role in life to be surrounded by beautiful women .