to think that Fathers don't always crave sons?

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I have three girls.
Yet another person this morning made yet another snide remark about my 'poor husband' and how we 'might have a boy next time' and it got me wondering.
How do men feel?
How does your partner feel?
Did he want a boy?
Does he have all girls and is happy with that?
My husband adores his daughters and is adamant that he didn't ever yearn for a boy.
Do most men hanker after a son?

I'm another one who has a DH who had a preference for a little girl he could spoil. I have two DS's from my first marriage, he's been on the scene since they were 3 and 5, so he has lots of experience of boys.

Dh wanted a ds for his first and a dd for his second. He was quite open about it. Luckily for him he actually got it as well, although I think he would have been fine either way.

My DH told me he had a sort of instinctive urge to have a son, but had been sure our DD would be a girl as we didn't find out during my pg. When we had #2, he again felt it would be a girl.He was born nearly 6wks ago! If we had had another girl, DH wouldn't have been upset or disappointed, but just had romantic notions of having son.

Our friends had 2 girls & their DF was very happy - he didn't want a boy at all, in fact, actively didn't want to do the "boy" thing.

I do know of a father of three girls who was desperate for a boy. Their 4th DC was in fact a boy. The father pissed off to an OW eight months after his birth.

My DH wanted boys but would obviously have been just as happy with girls.

We have two sons and I've had a few women look pityingly at me and ask if I wanted a girl. No, actually, I always wanted a little boy and was blessed with two.

Mine wasn't bothered. Got a boy and two girls and he doesn't treat any differently. He never expressed a wish to want a boy. I wanted a boy first though.

My dad wanted a girl because he's quite effeminate and soft, he wouldn't have minded a son of equal measures but a stereotypical 'football and cars' boy and he'd have been a bit bollocked. He got me.. I wasn't exactly into pink and barbies but I enjoyed shopping and what not and was also very sensitive like him so we got along! Hes always said he was happy just having me, never 'longed' for a son.

My partner 100% wanted a boy with our first, he see's it as the correct way and then a girl second. This is what we got.

It works both ways though, I had a little pang when the scan said boy, but when my second said girl I was over the moon. Partner wants a 3rd I say no because I only want another girl not another boy.

Mine didn't have a preference at all.

Btw, these people with their "poor husband" etc, are stuck to the 50s, it is well known that the majority of parents want girls nowadays !

Wilson What a shining example that man would have been to his son, "Now son wait til your DP has had 4 kids, then piss off with another woman for maximine effect".

I agree, an acquaintance had two girls and said he was releived as he hates football. He didn't elaborate, but he is the sort of man you can talk to very easily so I think daughters will suit him better.

When I was pregnant with DC1 DH and I had a conversation about which sex we would prefer (we didn't find out the sex during the pregnancy). We both said tht if this was our ony chance to have a child (no reason to think this was the case) we would like a daughter. I have a great relationship with my Mum and wanted to have that with a daughter. My husband just loves the idea of having a little girl to love and protect. As it turned out we had our amazing son. He brings us more joy than I thought possible. I am pregnant with DC2 at the moment and again we have chosen not to find out the sex. I have a sneeky feeling that this one is a girl which would be fab but if I had another boy I would be thrilled too. As would my DH.

I've got 2 sister and my dad loved us all being girls and never wished for a son.

When I was expecting my first child, my in laws all made it clear they wanted it to be a boy - my mil even told me regularly about all the boys clothes she had nearly bought in the hope that it was a boy.

Dh and I weren't bothered either way!

When ds was born of course everyone was thrilled, but fil said to my dh in front of my dad 'anyone can make a pot, but only a master can put a spout on it', to this day that shocks me, every child is a gift regardless of gender.

No, our first was a girl, DH 'knew' she was a girl from very early on, would only suggest girls names etc. They have a lovely relationship and he takes her wild camping and climbing and all sorts. By the time DS came along we had had several losses and lots of stress and frankly as long as the baby was healthy DH wasn't remotely bothered about the configuration of his genitals.

workingtoohard, that is so rude! your fil's comment. grrrr

My DH wanted a boy and was very open about it.

I had one DD and when I was last pregnant he was itching for it to be a boy, mainly because he knew 3 kids were never on my agenda and be it boy or girl, that was it for my babymaking days.

It was a boy and he was absolutely thrilled. He loves them both equally but DD is more girly and his attempts to get her in to football have been rebuffed many times so he's hoping DS will be up for a kick about when he's older.

I was equally as keen for a boy though, I wanted to parent a different sex and was quite honest in saying that I would have loved a boy at the time.

I don't think there's any shame in having a preference, it's when people churn them out to get a specific sex rather than because they want another addition to their family, regardless of gender.

I have found boys easier than girls so far but I'm only almost 2 years in so not had stiff sheets and an aversion to water to contend with yet though.

I know gin, I was always a bit unsure of him, but that comment tipped the balance, haven't really liked him since!

MY DP loves our DD to bits, we found out yesterday DC2 is a boy, he is thrilled but he said even if they had said girl he would have been equally thrilled as it's a child he wants, not a gender.

Him and DD (17 months) current fave activity is sitting and watching Stargate SG-1 together right little pair of geeks :)

If anything my dp wanted a girl as he us not a blokey bloke iykwim?

As it is we had four boys whom he adores and then our bonus baby was a girl. Dp adores her as well but we would have been just as happy with a 5th boy; infact we had a boys name picked out and were totalky expecting a boy.

I had lots of comments about how i must be desperate for a girl and i just wasnt. Everyone else was thrilled for us whrn he had dd, and she is adorable and its lovely but anotber boy would have been just as lovely. If anything i was slightly scared if having a girl tbh.

Oh and dp jokes about the irony if his masculine sperm as its not 'him' iyswim. He likes cooking and reading and doesnt like football etc.

My DH has 2 DS's and a DD.

He always wanted a girl and although he loves the boys enormously, he was over the moon we have DD to complete the family.

This is an issue that really grates on me. I've got four DDs. I get so many comments relating to the fact that people feel sorry for DH, and he'll have to buy a shed etc. etc. When I was pregnant with 12 week old DD4, it was, "I bet you hope it's a boy don't you?". My reply was always that I hoped I had a healthy baby regardless of it's sex. Now we keep being asked if we'll 'try again for a boy'. DH is perfectly happy with a house full of girls. Afterall, it's the sperm that fertilises the egg which determines the sex of the baby!

DH openly admitted to wanting a boy (third time round, the first two times he said he didn't mind).

My DSis has three girls - her DP was openly rooting for a boy the third time round, he even bought a lightsabre (although all three are Star Wars fans, so he is happy now).

My best friend has four girls and her DH says he regrets not having a son.

Another friend has decided to stop trying for an elusive second baby, and her DH says that, while he loves his DD, he always imagined himself with a son.

Dragonmamma I agree about the 'churning out of babies'.

I think, if we hadn't had a boy this time & knowing my DH's slight desire for a boy, if we had decided to have a 3rd, we may have appeared to be "trying for a boy" and I feel that that almost negates the first 2 children - as if they aren't good enough.

We haven't totally decided whether we're done with baby making, although with a newborn, I'm erring towards being 'done', but at least with one of each, the pressure is off.

I admit, I did actually have a preference for a boy when we were TTC. I guess I wanted the 'one of each ideal family' thing. I didn't do anything major, but read a study that suggested boy mums ate cereal breakfast every day, had a slightly higher calorie diet oh no!! the diet has to stop and ate bananas. So I did all of that, and had a boy. But then that could all be a load of testicles.

However, during the pg, I got cold-feet about a boy & decided I really wanted another girl as I 'knew' about baby girls. In fact, though, you don't know your new baby at all, boy or girl, as they're all individuals, with their own quirks.

It's as true as the theory that all women want girls.

Personally I can't see myself with a daughter,when I imagine having children I have sons. DP is the other way round.