I do actually agree that it's awful and sad that girls/women should be made to feel "ashamed" or embarrassed by something that's natural. Quite obviously in an ideal world we'd all accept that females are hairy in various degrees - including some who are very hairy - and that, should they prefer to leave things be it doesn't make them any less feminine and/or attractive.
However .... how is the overall view of many if not most of British society supposed to change ? It would take a concerted effort by 100s of 1000s of women to go au naturel and be seen to do so until the sight became so common so as not to attract any further derogatory remarks. And how many women would actually be prepared to do that ? I would ..... but I'm too much of a coward to do so unless 1000s joined me I'm afraid and that's never going to happen. I bloody wish it would because my hairiness has been a constant burden for more than 30 years. Yes .... my head tells me it "shouldn't" be a burden but it is because I too have experienced people recoiling from me or suggesting I have a disease ......
.... I'm actually very fair skinned, freckled and reddish hair, but my pubic hair is very dark and extends far down my thighs (sorry TMI) and could never be "trimmed" with scissors or "tucked" in. I've had this depth of hair since about 13 but had started underarm hair when I was 9. I was blisfully ignorant and non plussed by it then until I used a communal shower on a Brownie pack holiday for heaven's sake - i.e. full of little girls, and was teased mercilessly once it was spotted. From 13 PE, changing, swimming, was a nightmare - cue more teasing. My mum gave me one of those ancient razors with traditional flat razor blades (thanks mum) and I cut myself to pieces not surprisingly. Not surprisingly I spent a great deal of time contriving to avoid PE and the like.
As an adult I've had boyfriends pass less than flattering remarks - yes, I did get rid but still, it's not nice, it hits you hard and obviously you feel under a great deal of pressure to conform. Which is pretty much impossible 365 days a year anyway unless you get lasered or electrolysis. So much for claims of 6 weeks grace with waxing - I get 2 weeks if I'm lucky, and then you have no choice but to leave alone for at least 2 to 3 weeks before getting waxed again. When I had my 1st child the consultant actually asked (rudely, and made me feel like a cruddy freak) if I'd had difficulty conceiving - presumably because my dreadful hairiness indicated PCOS - but in fact nothing was further from the truth. I've conceived 3 times in my 40s for example, at 43,44 and 47 though miscarried all - my periods have always been bang on regular - no other symptoms.
Anyway, the point is, I know these sorts of reactions and this sort of pressure to be "tidy" is society's problem and not mine but I'm not prepared to put myself through the insults, looks of pity, looks of disgust or out and out laughter by proving a point. And most importantly, and going back to the original point of this thread, for the small minority of 9 year old girls - or very young girls generally - I don't think it's fair to expect them to shoulder a similar approach and leave themselves wide open to teasing and/or bullying by not removing hair which - rightly or wrongly (and I do very much think it's wrong) - British society, in general, seems to find unacceptable. I therefore think that any young girl with "excessive" (by society's standards) hair should be offered support - ideally from her mum - about the best way, for her of removing it ... which may or may not be waxing. Better that than being bullied, being made to feel horribly, mortifyingly embarrassed and so on. Clearly, I would never suggest that all her pubic hair was removed from a young girl but enough should be removed so that it can't be seen when she's playing sport, swimming, sunbathing or whatever. Believe me, more modest swimsuits and/or shorts would NOT have hidden my hairyness when I was 13 onwards and if I felt bad at 13 I dread to think how a 9 year old would feel who'd be far less well equipped emotionally to deal with nasty comments and stares. I do actually have a 9 year old daughter .... I hope to god she doesn't grow up to be as hairy as me though the signs are that she might (has hair on lower back, arms). I would hate her to grow up as miserable about it as me - as you can probably tell this is a really emotive subject for me even now in my 40s, and the bane of my life - so will try to do whatever I can to make her feel comfortable in her own skin. No way will I tell her it's disgusting or unacceptable but on the other hand, I do sometimes wonder how I'd help her if she developed a similar hair pattern to me and somehow remained in ignorant bliss about the effect her appearance might have on some people ..... e.g. do I send her off swimming knowing that she might attract negative attention, knowing she might come home in floods of tears .... or do I suggest the hair is removed first ? ..... which I'm well aware suggests it's "wrong". In all honesty, I'd probably do the latter though it doesn't sit well with me - I feel very angry TBH at "having" to do this to avoid potential nastiness.
Sorry for having hijacked this a bit but I think if you've not had personal experience of excessive hair it can be hard to appreciate just how bad other people can make you feel about it - wretched is the only word really.