To be disappointed no-one gave me anything?

[NickNacks]

I'm a childminder and mind 6 children altogether. Last Friday I gave out gifts to all the children, gifts and cards to the parents that had been made with the children and this morning I went to watch the school nativity as I knew some mums couldn't make it.

Today was the last day before Christmas and I received one solitary card from one family. I know it sound a bit greedy but I wasn't expecting diamonds just a little 'Its the thought that counts' token box of chocs would have been lovely.

My husband thinks I'm a bit unreasonable to be miffed but I don't, I'm genuinely a bit upset that they didn't think.

So AIBU?

3- why do you all seem to think it's more important to write a card to somebody who is just doing its job than to spend a nice, quite time with your own dcs? That people are only mean if they say they din't have time/money to do so??

As BornToFolk says, you can engage your DC in doing this.

To begrudge the 10 min it takes to write a thoughful card does strike me as mean.

I also think it is important that DD sees the example of me thanking people for the effort that they put into looking after her and engages with the process (so for example she gives the card or presents to her nursery workers). This is in the same way as I expect her to say thank you at the end of each nursery day and I say it to the staff each day too.

I think it is also important that DD sees that DH and I value the people who look after her each day as the message we send her is "we love you and leave you with people we value and trust, so you can feel secure with them and should respect them as valued people within our lives".

If you treat the people caring for your DC as just doing their job then they are much more likely to just do their job and not to emotionally invest in the care of your DC. I want to play my part in making DD's nursery a positive, happy environment, so that the staff engage in a happy and positive way with DD.

I work from 8.45 - 3.10 at pre school. as soon as Ive finished there Im straight round to the school next door to pick up my mindees, of whom the last one goes approx 6.30, with only a half hour break all day.
I have still found time to get cards written to my childrens teachers, friends and family, although I guess I do have weekends to do this also.

Did they wish you a merry Christmas?