To want to scream my head off at my Nanny for putting my gorgeous new wool jumper in teh dryer!?

[happywith3]

Aaargh! It wasn't cheap and I lusted after it and have only worn it once. It was gorgeous and now it is shrunk! I found it hanging next to the dryer where we put the stuff to dry that's not to go in the dryer but obviusly it went into the dryer because there is pink/red (colour of the jumper) in the thing that catches the fluff. It looks like she realised she shouldn't have put it in the dryer and then hung it there to make it look like it had not gone in or half dried it in the dryer and then hung it. I feel like screaming! How will I tell her calmly in the morning....

[BumpingFuglies]

It's a JUMPER. Chill.

[foreverondiet]

Foreverondiet: OMG, You have a nanny AND a cleaner and you mention that on here. Brave Woman!

I have a nanny as I have a 2 year old a 6 year old and a 9 year old and the cost of a nanny is the same as the cost of an all day nursery for the 2 year old and after school and holiday care for the older two - I "don't get the nanny is only for rich people view that people seem to have."

re: cleaner, DH works v v long hours, and he is not going to come home from work at 10pm and help with cleaning - and he wants to spend his weekends spending time with the DC not cleaning - I do some cleaning as does the cleaner, and I don't mind that DH doesn't do any cleaning.

Different things suit different people depending on circumstances - we don't drink or smoke, and are generally quite mean (eg DH has PAYG phone and rarely spends over £1 a month on it, we make our own lunches and rarely go out - would rather spend any spare money on cleaner.)

[whois]

Aw chalk it down to experience. Be cross inside but don't take it out on the nanny.

I felted a lovely wool jumper once, came out like a little dolls jumper! Sad times.

[McPheastOfStephen]

I have a nanny and a cleaner

She's called my mum

[cumfy]

If she fessed up, I wouldn't mind.

She hid it.
Big mistake.

[cheekybaubles]

Bowl of cool water, bottle of cheap hair conditioner. Soak, re-shape. Done. Drama over. :)

[Wheresmypopcorn]

a nanny who does your laundry - how great - although maybe she needs a few lessons or you separate your washing into different piles for different temperatures and treatment.

[megandraper]

Both my nanny and my mum sometimes put on a wash at our house. I have 3 laundry buckets by the washing machine, one for 'coloureds', one for 'whites' and one for 'delicates that no-one but me puts in the machine'. That way there's less mistakes.

I don't think you can ask her to replace it. Best to keep special stuff separate.

[ChippingInAWinterWonderland]

It was separated into a 'special' pile and was washed properly (or the OP is pretty sure it was anyway), but it was possibly put into the dryer - who knows, maybe only for a minute, but appears to have been due to the colour of the lint in the dryer.

It might have just shrunk in the wash.

The nanny might have simply hung it there, meaning to mention it when the OP got home and forgot. It happens.

Nannies often do family washing if it's all washed together - it's no big deal. Though most the parents will put the wash in the machine and the nanny will peg it out/put it in the dryer. So a) the nanny is not taking on the whole job of family laundry and b) so the nanny isn't having to deal with 'dirty' adult underwear, only clean. Though I do know one nanny who wont even peg out clean underwear! Weirdo.

[Goldenbear]

Regardless of the contract, if you don't like the outcome, do it yourself! Presumbly there is always going to be the potential for ruin if she is expected to do some laundry. Why don't you and your husband/partner clean your own mess up - you made it!

[silvercup]

Is this a joke?

[Mimishimi]

Your nanny shouldn't be doing your washing in the first place. Perhaps only that of the children. Get a housekeeper for the housework.

[Napsalot]

I did this when I was a nanny -jumper ended up in pieces when it came out of the washing machine.... It was an honest mistake and I still feel terrible about it -this happened 15 years ago!

[Coralanne]

Some people are being a bit harsh here. The AIBU was how should the OP tell nanny she did the wrong thing.

If she chooses to pay someone well and that person is prepared to do the washing. Well that's the way it is.

I used to knit for a very exclusive shop (which I was well paid for) and they sold the knitwear for about 10 times what they paid me. (That was fine by me).

I knitted my DH's nieces a jumper each (took a very long time as was very fine wool and intricate pattern)

Their DM put them in the dryer and after that they were only fit to dress the dolls.

[EMS23]

YANBU

The reverse snobbery on mumsnet is starting to really irritate and bore me. The merest hint that a poster has a bit of money and in pile the holier than thou crew.

And yes, I know I have a choice and could not read those posts but they seem to crop up in every thread and I'm night feeding a lot at the moment so would die of boredom without MN!!

[JeezyOrangePips]

You are absolutely right EMS. If it had been her dh that shrunk the jumper some of the responses would have been very different.

I find it funny that people think its okay to tell the op what her employee should and should not be doing. That's between the op and the nanny to decide, surely!

[Mimishimi]

Of course it's between the nanny and her to decide. The difference is that a housekeeper will actually be trained in these sorts of things (laundry care, cooking etc) whereas a nanny generally is not. I can see how a nanny could just bundle the whole lot up whilst trying to keep half an eye on the children and not even notice that it was there.

[Rudolphstolemycarrots]

I bet she feels awful!

[Kytti]

apostrophethesnowman - you made me laugh!

Wish I could have a Nanny that did the washing, wish I had a Nanny! lol - Do your own bloody washing, look after your own children! Bahahahahhaaa...

Wouldn't happen in my house, I have four children, one husband and no tumble drier. Get yourself a kitchen maid. Airer I mean. For the ceiling. You'll never shrink anything again.

[hf128219]

Nanny for childcare
Housekeeper for laundry

[AlienRefucksLooksLikeSnow]

Aw, I bet the nanny is waking up thinking 'oh bollocks, I shrunk her new jumper yesterday :( ' It's very annoying, my DP has done it to me before, but with a very rare new white top, was in washing machine on it's own, just been washed for first time, he threw his filthy work gear in!!! AAAAAARRRRGGGGGHHHHH!! it was the colour of a muddy puddle :( He just said, 'I'll get you another one babes' Yeah right!!

Anyway, sorry this isn't about me and my forever lost top!!

Say something, but be nice, bet she feels like crap already, and don't take any notice of some of the posts on here, you sound like a nice employer :)

[JeezyOrangePips]

Wouldn't it be lively to have housekeeping training?

Where does one go to be trained in laundry?

[EMS23]

Kytti striking something out in a post doesn't make it invisible. If you're going to be so rude, at least don't try to hide it or ironically strike it out.

[Sleepwhenidie]

ROFL the unsolicited comments on the OP's childcare/domestic arrangements/nanny duties, so MN!

To the "you sound awful"/"chill" people, are you always calm and zen like about everything? How lovely for you. OP yanbu to want to scream at your nanny but ywbu if you actually did...but you know that, that's why you are venting here

Oh also OP, when you hire your housekeeper don't forget the chauffeur for driving, gardener to cut the lawn and live in odd job man to change the lightbulbs...if you can afford a nanny you must be able to afford a legion of suitably qualified household staff

[Booboostoo]

JeezyOrangePig here:
www.theenglishmanner.com/the-household-academy

Plenty of places offer housekeeping courses, why wouldn't they?