To want to scream my head off at my Nanny for putting my gorgeous new wool jumper in teh dryer!?

[happywith3]

Aaargh! It wasn't cheap and I lusted after it and have only worn it once. It was gorgeous and now it is shrunk! I found it hanging next to the dryer where we put the stuff to dry that's not to go in the dryer but obviusly it went into the dryer because there is pink/red (colour of the jumper) in the thing that catches the fluff. It looks like she realised she shouldn't have put it in the dryer and then hung it there to make it look like it had not gone in or half dried it in the dryer and then hung it. I feel like screaming! How will I tell her calmly in the morning....

[diddl]

What do you need to tell her?

To read the care instructions in future?

I suppose she was trying to help, but it astounds me that people just assume anything can be chucked into a dryer & don´t check-especially when it´s someone else´s stuff!

[CiderwithBuda]

YANBU to want to scream but you are venting here so we know you won't! And you would be just as mad if you had done it yourself. I know I have ruined my own stuff before now!

[N4NNY]

Omg you could almost be my employer today I mistakenly put a cashmere blanket in the washing machine and shrunk it. I was gutted when I found it I hung it on the airer to dry but knew if I tried to explain I'd cry so I took the chickens option and text to say sorry when I got home and offered to replace it.

[ClippedPhoenix]

The nanny does "your" washing?

[happywith3]

Somerset: It was an AIBU to WANT to scream my head off! Doesn't mean I am actually going to do it probably quite the opposite. Of course I would be just as mad at myself

The only bit of housework she does is throw on a wash and that's because we wash all our stuff together. We don't separate the kids and that was discussed when she took on the job. It takes about 5 minutes to put on a wash and 5/10 to take out one so not really a big deal and I definitely do not think it is unreasonable. I don't see why I should be grateful to her for helping a bit around the house as this was described as part of her job from the beginning. It's not like she cleans or anything else like that. She tells me constantly how much better her job is now compared to her last ones where she was underpaid and more was expected of her.

Au pairs are paid pittance compared to Nanny's so you could probably not expect the same.

[AlbertaCampion]

Ah, first world problems eh?

[happywith3]

N4NNY: You are so sweet! I am really not going to go bonkers at my Nanny. I'm just gutted about the jumper.

[helpyourself]

Poor you. If it makes you feel any better, I'm expecting a parcel in the post containing what will almost certainly be a slightly too small cashmere jumper. I saw it on line, great price, from £130 down to £30, not available in the right colour, then only xs, then p&p was more than I expected. I should have stopped.
So I will shortly have a slightly too small jumper and no one but myself to blame.

[TiddlyOmPomPomPaRumPaPumPum]

I get your frustration, and it's far better to vent on here and then be reasonable in real life!

I read a de-shrinking tip online somewhere recently - the gist was to hand wash the shrunken item in baby shampoo, then use hair/fabric? conditioner, rinse, and pull the item gently back to size and shape. Dry flat.
Anyhoo, google it!

[happywith3]

hepyourself: I shuld just send you mine; What size are you?

[AfterEightMintyy]

So she's more like a Housekeeper/Nanny type then?

[happywith3]

Tidly: It really is very much about venting but I guess a lot of people don't get it. Oh well. I have read the tips online but then loads of people say it won't work...

[happywith3]

She's a Nanny/Mothers help, I work part time and DH works very long hours and travels and we have no family around so if I'm at home she might do some stuff like go to the shop for me or put on a wash (god forbid!) while I take care of the kids.

[foreverondiet]

I have learnt not to put wool jumpers in laundry basket but rather stick them straight into a delicate wash on its own and then hang out - cleaner has shrunk stuff...

I have a nanny and a cleaner, and my nanny would only be doing kids laundry, not ours. Very annoying and def say in future only wash kids stuff.

[happywith3]

Foreverondiet: OMG, You have a nanny AND a cleaner and you mention that on here. Brave Woman!

We do put the sensitive stuff in a special pile which it was and I think it got washed on a sensitive wash because she is good about that. But she has been a bit 'dryer happy' recently...

[LibrarianByDay]

I'd be annoyed too, but I think you have to accept that this sort of thing is the risk you take when you have other people do your work for you.

[AfterEightMintyy]

Thousands of mumsnetters have a nanny and a cleaner.

[DowagersHump]

Don't put precious things in the 'general' laundry basket would be my advice.

And don't tell her - calmly or otherwise. She's supposed to look after your children, not be a laundry expert

[happywith3]

Librarian: That's exactly what my DH said! I guess it's true.

All the lambasting is a bit shocking although probably be expected on MN... sort of made me laugh though. I'm really not a spoilt rich b*tch, I swear! I'll have to get my Nanny on here to vouch for me :)

[happywith3]

Don't know why I kepp putting a capital 'N' for nanny...

[silverfrog]

blimey, all the chippy posts are a bit OTT, surely?

OP - YANBU.

It happened to me too. It is really irritating. In my case, the nanny wasn't even supposed to be doing my washing, but I was at home and had put a wash on. She wanted to use the machine before I switched from washer to dryer, and bunged the lot in the dryer without checking. It was very annoying (as was having towels wrecked by fake tan too. I suppose that is another 'price you have to pay' when you employ someone )

[happywith3]

Dowagers: as explained below she is actually expected to put on a wash - when she's not looking after the children and I am!

[LibrarianByDay]

Happywith3: No, I'm sure you're not. I didn't intend to join in any lambasting in case you think I was. I hide my handwash stuff where my husband won't stumble across it as I'm not prepared to take the risk of him accidentally shrinking it.

[happywith3]

Librarian: No, no I didn't think you were lambasting me! I think I might just tell her not to put my stuff in with the kids but then it takes ages for me to build up a whole wash just for myself and I'll be waiting for stuff IIYSWIM...