to tell parents to reimburse me

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My dd, 7, had a dance show yesterday and forgot her costume (dress). I was annoyed but as time was tight I paid £20 for a return cab to go home and get it as I did not want to let her and her dance team down.
She was wearing another costume for a dance she was doing before and when she went to change into her dress is was missing. Everyone in her class, apart from one who they thought was nervous before the dance,searched and she ended up going on stage being the only one without her costume. She cried throughout the performance but held it together as she did not want to let the others down.
When I saw her dress wasn;t on and she was crying I went to the side of the stage, asked the teacher why she wasn'r wearing it and got a reply' she lost it'.
I knew this could not have been the case and as soon as the dance ended my dd came to me-(she was also upset as she knew I made an effort to get a cab there and back when I had been ill).
I told her it wasn't her fault and then searched for it and then asked some of her classmates to check the labels. Well, the girl who did not help to find it had it on and when I asked her why she said she forgot hers and it was in her dads car boot. Her dad was watching the show so could have been found. I asked her why she took it and she didn't care and said 'it was there and I took it as mine is in the carboot.'
I told her it was a horrible thing and to return it and she took it off and didn't even apologise.
The dance teacher knows.
One parent told me, 'they are only children and I shouldn't make a big deal' but I think her behaviour is wrong.
A few other parents who heard were disgusted.
Should I tell the teacher to get the girls parents to give me my cab fare and should I ask the video of that dance is deleted as dd feels humiliated as is was crying throughout it and the only one in the whole show who was not in the correct costume? It is supposed to be going to 120 people approx.
As the dress was being looked for and dd was in tears I think it is a horrid experience for any child to have happen.
Am I over-protective?

Gosh. You need a new AIBU thread for this!

Ok Witch, I think you need to leave it now. I don't think you would want
DD going back with this level of bad feeling anyway. I hope you find another class or activity for her.

What an absolute bithch that teacher is.
Your poor DD.
I would be telling her that DD will be continuing at the class or you'll be going to the local press with this story.
Complete overreaction by the teacher.

Actually, other posters are correct, ignore me.
You wouldn't want your DD taught by this woman.

Maybe you should email her a link to this thread?

Well I'm afraid I still think OP probably has caused waaaaay more of a stink and a holler and a scene than was needed and that is why dance teacher is ousting dd.

I think you need to look to yourself OP.

And if you are emailing the other parents then don't for the love of God go over the whole thing again!

Wow, she sounds like a complete bitch. Your poor dd. I'd be leaving that teacher bad reviews all over the place. Your dd is better off without that woman as her teacher.

Terra- do you really think the press would be interested?

I really don't see what the OP has done wrong proud, A bit unreasonable about wanting the cab fare back IMO but other than that I think she has done anything wrong.

The villains of the piece are the girl who stole the dress and the teacher who has acted disgracefully.

Local press up here would, but very small place, if you are in a big city maybe not.

Witch

What do you think the teacher means by you abusing her, other parents and the staff?

is it dance or cheerleading, sorry its a bit confusing.

placemark

Doctrine- she did not want me to speak to other girls parents. Abusing- i have no idea? When dance teacher came to me and said dd had forgotten dress I was narked off and said I'd already lost £30 as dd had to drop a saturday class to do the show and it would cost me more....
I can raise my voice when frustrated but have never been violent and I ALWAYS apologise when I know I have been wrong.

Terra - we all know parents that kick up a huge stink about stuff when a calm, adult word will do.

Truthfully? I would never have had a go at the other little girl. I would not have blamed anyone really. Shit happens when it comes to lots of busy parents and young kids and rushing around this time of year.

OP herself has admitted more than once to being OTT. Dance teacher probably thought 'fuck this, she's going to put off other parents with her histrionics'.

That's not to say I don't really feel for her dd - I know it's a big deal to a little girl not to have had the costume.

why do you keep saying dance and then changing to cheerleading?

Wow, teacher sounds awful. Clearly thinks too highly of herself and can't be bothered to deal with parents.

Tantrum- dd does tap and cheerleading. It is cheerleading that will be missed. There are lots of tap classes.

I'm afraid I agree with Proudnscary. I would imagine the OP's overreaction caused quite a stir at the school.

At the same time, I think the dance teacher has also handled the situation extremely badly, both on the night of the show and in her subsequent reaction. So all in all, the OP will be better off in the long run.