AIBU to say no to my friend?

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We have a dog. She was a rescue dog that we got as a puppy. She is some kind of terrier cross. She is not only beautiful but she is the lovliest dog ever, lovely temperament and great with the kids.
When we got her as a pup 2yrs ago my friend asked if we could let her have pups with her boy dog as she and her mum want another pup.
Well, my dog is tiny, we thought she would get bigger but she is very small. She weighs just under 4kg so is considered an XS dog.
Ive now said I wouldnt be happy for her to mate with my friends dog as he is a cocker spaniel, not massive but a lot bigger than my dog.
She is LIVID with me. Ive had a couple of nasty texts and a snide facebook status aimed at me.

I dont think I am being unreasonable! She could die and/or really struggle if her pups were too big and to me that is a risk Im not prepared to take.
I feel bad but I honestly thought she would get a bit bigger. So, AIBU? I cant see a solution to this, my friend doesnt want a puppy from her if we mate her with another dog.

Wow, your friend is an idiot.

If she wants another dog that badly there are plenty waiting in rescues centres. There's no good reason to put your dog at risk just because she's decided she wants a certain cross. They aren't fashion accessories. And as for her sending nasty texts? She's a twat.

Blimey, I would not want to be friends with someone who felt it was fine to subject your dog to this. Why would she want you to put your dog at risk?

Neither would I want to give a puppy to what sounds like a very unpleasant person. May I suggest, you do yourself and your dog a favour and tell her to take a hike!

YANBU. Your friend is being very childish.

YANBU - your friend is behaving like a complete idiot.

As you say,if the pups are big (which is likely)the pregnancy/birth could kill your dog at worst. Even if it didn't she might have a terribly traumatic time. Cocker spaniels are quite a bit bigger than any 4kg dog. It's not worth it.

Either ignore your friend or tell her to get a grip.

YANBU your friend is a weirdo and I would lose her asap.

The only way that YABU is in thinking that you possible ARE being Unreasonable!

Your friend is a twat - as MurderofGoths said.

If i were you I would have the dog spayed and quickly.

Unspayed dogs are the reason there are so many unwanted dogs in rescue.

YANBU whatsoever. The wellbeing of your dog comes first. Stand your ground.

Some people really throw their toys out the pram when they don't get what they want, don't they?

And I would not be giving her a puppy from any other litter your dog may have. The friend would probably want a girl puppy to breed with her cocker spaniel.

She would not be my friend anymore. YANBU at all

Unfortuantly Im stuck with her as she is the fiance of my husbands best friend! Even her h2b moans about her!! She seems to like falling out with ppl (to try and make herself look good by making them feel bad) She bangs on about what an animal lover she is but is willing to put my dog at risk?

She wants to mate a terrier with a COCKER SPANIEL? Tell her fine, as soon as she mates with a horse. What a complete moron she is. Dogs are not toys. And what are you to do with any unwanted pups?

She is absolutely not a friend worth having. Don't risk the life of your dog by giving into her.

Can I just ask why you are considering mating your dog at all?

its just you said in your OP that if you mated your dog with another dog she doesnt want one of those pups but, honestly?

why?

She sounds like an idiot.

looking after a bitch who's having pups-not to mention having the responsibility of homing the litter- is no walk in the park- this woman is really asking a lot of you!

tell her to poke it

I would try to avoid socialising with her unless her fiancée and your husband are around.

She sounds lovely

Whocansay that is an excellent analogy.

I'm getting my puppy spayed very soon. She's tiny, as was her mother. I like the idea of breeding her in theory because she has such a lovely nature, but even other jrts are huge in comparison so just couldn't do it.

your friend is a dog-rapist bitch

trim her, she sounds nasty

that said the MOST random issue for a fight I think i have ever read!!!

What everyone else says times 100. Just ignore her as much as you can. Any right thinking person will think she is a sad fool.

YANBU. Your friend is an idiot and it would be very irresponsible of both of you to let these dogs breed if you don't know what you're doing.

Good on you for standing up to her.

I thought there was a clause that you couldn't mate a rescue dog?

YABU in even considering mating your dog given that you haven't the first idea about dog breeding. Do you realise what this entails in practice? Or how to care for a pregnant bitch before, during and after she gives birth?

Also, I'm astonished that you have a rescue dog that wasn't already spayed or neutered. This is common practice amongst rescue organisations in order to avoid amateur "breeders" exploiting a dog that has already had to be rescued.

To get out of the situation you find yourself in you simply say no. You aren't prepared to put your dog's life at risk and you certainly wouldn't mate her with any dog that belonged to someone who cared so little about basic animal welfare. Or just no. That's a complete sentence.

Apart from the problem of the dogs' sizes, it's likely your little one would have more than one pup and then you'd be stuck trying to rehome the others.

She sounds like a total twat. Try to ignore her and take comfort in the fact that she'll end up with no friends.

I am really surprised that you were allowed to rehome a rescue dog without giving a firm reassurance (even sign a contract) to say you would get her spayed as soon as was possible.

Your friend is a loon, but you are enabling the situation by having an unspayed bitch.

Oh i type far too slowly